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25 May 2012 @ 10:11 pm
Hello, I've just discovered this community and I already find it amazing. It's great to see a place where women can talk about their menstruations without feeling ashamed.

I've just started to use menstrual cups after years of researches on the subject (I needed to leave my parents' home for good to buy one since my mother is against menstrual cups though she doesn't understand a thing about them). I have a small Lunette and it's great, I had absolutely no leakage, no problem, it's thick enough and firm/soft enough for me. However, I am currently at home unemployed (and a student who barely has any classes to attend) so it's quite easy to empty it when I feel the need to.

Next year will be a bit different though, I'll have to work a lot more and will probably have fewer access to a bathroom and I'm afraid I might get leakage on my heavy flow days. I have a relatively light flow, but better safe than sorry.

I was wondering which cup I should get and thought about a big Divacup because it's apparently about as soft as the small Lunette (however, I really like the blue Lunette). I've been looking at Meluna as well but it seems that I should get a Meluna L if I ever wanted one.

I'm 22, a virgin so naturally, I had no children. The small Luna fits well, I feel no pain inserting it or removing it from vagina (though sometimes it's a bit trickier, but I've noticed that what I think may be my hymen has been torn and seems to be thicker somedays, plus I don't really care about the pain).

The Lunette is about 4cm wide, which is relatively small. The big Lunette and the Diva are only 5 or 6mm bigger, while it does make a difference, I don't think it'll be so bad that I can't use it... I've read many virgins, even younger than I, who were wearing bigger cups than the small Lunette.

When I use the small Lunette, it doesn't move or anything but I think I could fit something bigger without feeling any discomfort since I can put my fingers around the edges of the cup when I remove it.

What I can't tell is where my cervix might be. I can't seem to touch it with my middle finger (about 3inches long I guess) and even with tampons I never hit it so I assume I don't have a small vagina at least so small cups may not be a good idea and long cups could probably work.

Any advice?

Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 25th, 2012 08:44 pm (UTC)
If you think you need the capacity, an XL Meluna soft or something similar should be a good idea. Also a large Fleurcup which has the same dimensions as the Lunette, but is made of a softer material and has a different shape. fleurcups come in blue, melunas come in colours too;)

seems like you've been to the charts already but just in case: http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/
stiffness chart: http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/
you have TONS of options really:) don't worry about the official guidelines. the main difference between the large and XL meluna is the length, which is unlikely to be a problem for you.
wanderinthedark on May 25th, 2012 09:39 pm (UTC)
Thanks, I must admit that thinking about putting a "XL" cup in my vagina seemed quite terrifying at first.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 25th, 2012 09:45 pm (UTC)
that's just a name :) it's pretty much the same size as a large diva. their mediums are also not medium at all.
i was so disappointed when it came out, they always tend to come up with great ideas so i was hoping it was a superlong cup, you know for those who use the long ones without cutting off the stem and still need to bear down in order to reach them.
(do you have to bear down btw? if you don't, a fleurcup might be a more safe choice)
wanderinthedark on May 25th, 2012 10:43 pm (UTC)
I do have to bear down. Actually, I thought everyone had to. ^^
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 26th, 2012 08:20 am (UTC)
in order to reach the cup? i bear down a little for easy removal but my cups all stick out at least a tiny bit :DDD

juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 08:55 pm (UTC)
You are looking at fairly different cups. Basically what comes to my mind is that the Diva is the longest thing, and the large Lunette is firm as a bowling ball (ok obviously NOT quite, but it's how one user has described it). So in any case, different from what you know and like.

So, about length: how high does your Lunette ride, and hom much longer could you accomodate ? did you need to trim the stem, does it stick out at all ? any cup with more capacity will most likely be longer and definitely wider than your Lunette. Try to determine how much longer you can go. About capacity : it's hard to tell exactly how much capacity you would gain from a large meluna... probably about 9ml which might be worth it actually, see the charts : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

However, if you really want to go for the highest capacity, in the form of a short and squishy cup that comes in pretty colors... there's just so many things about your post that scream LARGE FLEURCUP to me.

And while yes, it's pretty large, it's also very squishy according to the charts.. so it should be very comfortable. ;)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 09:04 pm (UTC)
Sorry I didn't pay attention to the last part of your post !

Definitely take a look at the longer cups, but if you can use a small Lunette, you could use just about anything from the large Meluna down on the charts, just pay attention to stiffness. And I'd also advise you to pick a brand with a good stem, just in case it rides high.
wanderinthedark on May 25th, 2012 09:36 pm (UTC)
The stem doesn't stick out at all and I didn't need to cut it but I can still reach it easily. It's probably about 1cm from the opening and I can wear it lower if I want to (or a bit higher but then I wouldn't be able to reach it properly), that's why someone suggested that I try the Divacup or a Meluna. The same person told me to avoid the Fleurcup because the rim apparently hurts a bit but since there are lots of users who had no problem at all with it so I should probably think about it.

If the Lunette is THAT firm, it's probably not going to be easy to get used to it, thanks for the comparison it helps a lot. At least that's one I won't buy.
Serpent: suomiserpent_849 on May 25th, 2012 09:52 pm (UTC)
well the difference is quite subtle really. i squished a large lunette at a store in finland and i was surprised by how soft it was, compared to my expectations. i haven't ever used a stiff cup though.

idk, i've heard the fleurcup rim is very thin. also, the fleurcups used to be as stiff as the large lunette but the newer ones are very soft. i didn't like the look of this rim either but i have next to no problems with the meluna rim (only uncomfortable if i wear the newer kind inside out)

i think if you like the small lunette this sort of rim should be fine. some people are so sensitive that even the small lunette is too stiff for them. of course it's also possible to be fine with stiffness but find a flared rim uncomfortable.. but most vags aren't that fussy :D

Edited at 2012-05-25 09:55 pm (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 10:21 pm (UTC)
See those pics to compare rims and length including the stem, particularly regarding the large fleurcup : http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/t226-lunette-comparison-photos

Unfortunately this particular photo album doesn't have the newer shape Melunas or the newest brands, but you'll find them if you go to "Moderator's Photo Library". Regarding those, I'd like to draw your attention to the NaturalMamma : long, squishy, middle width, small rim, fairly high capacity. Also note that for most people, larger cups may sit higher... maybe not the large Fleurcup then.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 25th, 2012 10:32 pm (UTC)
on the other hand, the large fleurcup's rounded bottom gives it a higher capacity if the cervix sits in it.
basically i don't think the fleurcup should be excluded from the options :-)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 10:43 pm (UTC)
Sure, I totally think it's one of the best high capacity cups, definitely my favourite one, from what I can tell. I just thought it might be a tad more difficult to reach with a high cervix. But we can't be certain where it'll actually sit. :)
wanderinthedark on May 25th, 2012 10:49 pm (UTC)
About the NaturalMamma: Wouldn't such an unsual stem... hurt a bit if my vagina is curved? When I reach for the bottom of my cup, the stem is always pointing to the right, sometimes digging in the vagina walls (but thanksfully, it never hurts).
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 11:16 pm (UTC)
Well, unfortunately I don't own one, but judging from Melissa's review... it looks like the kind of stem you could pretty much twist or tuck it under as you please. I doubt something as soft would hurt, but of course I can't really tell.

See the video : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/about-natural-mamma-cup/
wanderinthedark on May 26th, 2012 07:03 pm (UTC)
Stupid question but... can the cervix face the bladder? I've read it felt like a small hard bump or something and I think I may have found it (I'm just about to menstruate so as I understand it's lower than usual) but it seems to be on the side rather than "facing" the entrance of my vagina.

Anyway, I had to squat to feel something different but it's probably not as high as I thought (about 8cm at most), I was just looking in the wrong place.
m03m on May 26th, 2012 09:27 pm (UTC)
Not stupid at all, and yes, the cervix can definitely point in different directions, and does not always face the entrance of the vagina. It's generally not at the very top of the vaginal canal.
Sock Be A Lady Tonight: floo powder powersockbealady on May 30th, 2012 10:03 pm (UTC)
You know, it never hurts to try out the cup you currently have and keep it in for an extended amount of time on heavy days, just to see if you leak or not. I have the small Lunette as well, and I was worried I would leak on my "heavy days" (the days when I wore super tampons because I felt like I bled FOREVER).

I found out, though, that I didn't need to empty it as much as I thought. It never hurts to try and see what happens, especially since you're at home and any leak issues can be easily resolved by a change of clothes.