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24 May 2012 @ 06:02 pm
Ok i've successfully gotten in the Diva Cup (size 1 since i'm 19 and never had children) once (yesterday) but there was some leakage (i used a backup pad). I didn't leave it in for very long (like an hour) but removal was ok. I noticed the cup quite a bit, which makes me think it was positioned wrong. It wasn't painful but I could feel it when I moved and I was aware it was there.

It's currently the 3rd day of my period and I tried inserting it twice again today, and the first time, I managed to slide it in but it wouldn't pop open so I put it back and used a pad. The second time (like 2 minutes ago) I tried again after my shower and the first thing I noticed is my lady parts are very sore from trying to get it earlier in around the back wall of the opening of my vagina. I also noticed a bit of pain on the inside this time when I once again got it to where I did this morning. I think I managed to get it popped open this time, but I refolded it back up inside me once it popped and took it out immediately because it was very painful when it opened. I am very concerned about that. I don't know if there's any extra bleeding or anything since it's already bleeding period blood down there.

I am not a virgin so I don't think the hymen should still be there at this point. But it's been about a year since I had sex though, so could it maybe have grown back or something?.

I've tried a few different folds but right now the punch down method is the only one I can actually get into my vagina. The C/U fold is too big and the other ones end up popping open before I can get it to where it needs to be. The punch down just doesn't like popping open though

In terms of internal pain, I don't think I have a low cervix. I can't seem to tell where it is when I feel with my fingers. All I know is I feel a little pain when my finger gets about 2 inches in. I've never seemed to have this problem with tampons before.

I'm wondering if I'll ever get the hang of this thing. I really want to use it cause I'm sick and tired of wearing pads to bed in case I sleep over 8 hours with a tampon. 

Should I try it again maybe tomorrow? Or wait until my next period? Stop using it all together for a while?? Try a different brand cup??

I'm kind of scared because of the pain.
Current Mood: frustratedfrustrated
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 25th, 2012 01:02 am (UTC)
Try turning the cup so the fold faces the other way -- up instead of down, etc.

Want to try my method?
Insert your cup so the rim is just beyond your pubic bone and allow the cup to open there. It will draw in a little as it does. Sometimes using your finger to create an air channel on the soft back side of your vag helps POP your cup. Once it's fully open, give the base/stem a nudge rearward and give it a boost as you Kegel it up and into place.

The Diva's anti-suction holes around the rim are tiny. Some people have had better luck with insertion and removal after having (carefully) enlarged them.

Yes, you'll probably be "aware" of your cup for the first cycle. The Diva is the longest of all the brands of cups. Once you master removal, you might try flipping it inside out to shorten it to see if it fits you better that way.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 11:21 am (UTC)
Yeah, definitely give it some time so you're not sore anymore, and more comfortable about the whole thing. in the meantime maybe read some insertion posts from the tags ? to give you some more tips.

I'm thinking all of this pain you mention might be due to friction, like the cup pulling on your skin tissue around the opening ? Using a bit of water based lube on yourself, or at least water on the cup if you haven't, and gently pulling away most of the skin tissue should prevent that.

Another cause of pain is tension : if you (uncounsciously) tense up the muscles surrounding your opening, it will make you "tighter" and it may cause you pain. The way that I like to insert my cup is either lying on my back, since I find it makes everything down there so much more relaxed, which helps a ton to allow the cup room to pop open as well btw OR sitting on the toilet.

When you're trying to insert the cup / make it pop open, bear down a little as if to pee, it tends to make your vagina more open too. Like kuradi8 said, you need to allow air in next to the cup so it can suck on it to inflate and unfold.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 25th, 2012 03:57 pm (UTC)
And if your body isn't cooperating or if your head isn't in the right place, put the cup away until you're ready to try again. Just because you got it doesn't mean you HAVE TO use it exclusively. Mix and match with your favorite other products. Really, it's fine. :o)
n0m_de_plum on June 14th, 2012 11:40 pm (UTC)
I'm having the popping open issues too. When I put mine back in after the last empty it felt like someone punched me from the inside. Weird because a few periods ago I was having trouble getting it to fully open.

As for the hymen question. It's actually highly variable, but in most women there is stretching and a little tearing with intercourse but remnants are still there until the first time a woman gives birth vaginally. Some don't tear with intercourse, and others tear from other things. I know the first time mine did was when I was 8, and I had an accident on my bike that resulted in me flying off the seat and straddling the bar.