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I heard about these things a few years ago and was intrigued but I never really felt like I needed one. The past few months for me have been miserable though. I have to change my ultra+ tampon every few hours it seems, I'm constantly paranoid, ruining clothes, sheets, etc. Cramps have been just awful. I've been really busy lately too so it's just been a pain. I hate changing tampons/pads in public restrooms and I hate having to stop what I'm doing and go to the restroom every couple hours to make sure I'm not leaking.
It's just been really awful..
I got fed up today and hopped online to see where I could buy a diva cup. I ended up finding out there's actually quite a few brands/ options. 
I also read quite a few horror stories that have me really scared to try one now. 
I am terrified I won't be able to remove it! I read about some people having to go to the ER and get it out! I would be mortified! 
I am 20 years old, been using tampons for the past 5 years. 
(This next part is very uncomfortable for me to write, as I am really shy about this stuff..)
I am able to feel my cervix (I think..), so I don't think I have a high cervix. Maybe just average. I would say it's about 6-7cm in. 
I am NOT able to fit more than one finger in there though.. (I hate talking about this stuff...)
So I'm not sure I will be able to remove it.. ? 
I'm also scared that it will migrate up too high and I won't be able to get it out. Will my cervix prevent this from happening? Or can it go past the cervix? 
I also heard that these help prevent cramps.. is that true? I don't understand how they would help.. 

Ugh. I need advice as to what to do. Please help me. 
If it wasn't for that fear of it getting stuck, I would've bought one today... :/
 
 
Current Mood: scaredscared
 
moonhoney925 on May 24th, 2012 09:39 am (UTC)
There is a learning curve, some people are fine with the first time that they try a cup. Others get the hang of it after 4 or 5 cycles. I too am quite shy with my body but I found the transition from (applicator) tampons to cup quite easy. I also have a high cervix and could not reach it, I decided that I had a high cervix because I realised that I could put an applicator tampon as far as it could go without any discomfort.

Regarding your extremely heavy period, here is some more advice- see a couple of doctors (second opinion) and possibly a gynocologist. I've been there- best thing I did, if I didn't I would not have my kids. I know you're shy about these things, I am too:)

Also make sure you purchase the right cup, don't just go for the Diva cup because you saw it in the store- it might not be the right cup for you. Check this chart out:
http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/

Good luck with it all:)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 24th, 2012 10:54 am (UTC)
Like the previous commenter said, the horror stories you've read hardly apply to every new cup user, in fact there are just as many happy stories. When people try cups for the first time, most of them don't go back, it must say something.

Given your rather long vagina and heavy flow, my advice is to go with a long, high capacity cup. Use this chart to get a better idea what I'm talking about : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ and the one the other poster gave you for stiffness comparison.

Don't be afraid of width, it'll only make for more capacity, and unless you pick one of the stiffest brands it's highly unlikely it'll be uncomfortable while wearing it. The vagina is just a flexible tube surronded by muscle. However tight you think you are is mostly a factor of those muscles. And you can learn to control them (actually it's pretty much like emptying your bladder). It can't really go further, as long as it unfolds, so your cervix will catch it (it is IMPOSSIBLE for a cup to go through the cervix, but some people with low cervices have managed to squish a folded cup next to their cervix. It won't happen if you make sure it unfolds before letting go of the stem). Where the cup will sit is most likely (o) around your cervix, so yes, it'll be easier for you to get a long one (see the bottom of the first chart on the above link).

From the top of my mind, a large Divacup, large Lunette, XL Meluna and NaturalMamma would most likely be a good fit.

Edited at 2012-05-24 10:57 am (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 24th, 2012 11:08 am (UTC)
Also, it's ok to get a Diva if it's more convenient for you, but have a look online first if you can, given most brands are cheaper when you buy online, especially the Diva. I haven't tried it, and I know it works for many people, and I guess it's good for them because it's the longest cup, but some people also complain its tiny holes make it difficult to remove... Just so you know, there are other options out there in the same size and capacity range.

Edited at 2012-05-24 11:09 am (UTC)
teacupcake89 on May 24th, 2012 11:15 am (UTC)
this :)

I would also recommend a large fleurcup (same dimensions as large lunette but much much softer)

I'm 23 and can only comfortably insert one finger but can use a large fleurcup just fine and the high capacity (30ml) means you won't have to empty it as often.

your cervix should feel round and firmish (different to the vaginal walls and slightly sticky-out) it s not necessarily at the 'end' of your vagina just like your face it not at the 'end' of your head, so feel around, squatting might help as it shortens the vagina. some say it feels like the end of your nose/a small penis head/a doughnut! It will feel different at different stages of your cycle and ideally you should measure you low/high it is ON your period because most cervixes move down during your period. A wider, short and high capacity cup like the large fleurcup will help if this is the case because it will be able to sit around the cervix better, and even if your cervix takes up room in the cup there is still plenty of capacity left.

I advise getting some lube to help with insertion for whatever cup you buy, it makes a lot of difference (put in on yourself not the cup)

the key to removal and insertion is to RELAX and bear down (like 'giving birth' to the cup) to help removal.
In the beginning it took me about 30mins to get it out (with much panicking and worryng about having to go to the GP!) BUT now I only need 1 minute to remove it (after a couple of cycles)

If you find yourself panicking during removal, go and do something else for a bit to relax (have a bath, a drink, even an orgasm!) and remember that it cannot get stuck or lost inside you! the key is to relax relax relax!

personally, my cramps aren't necessarily loads 'better' but I certainly feel less ill on my period (I think because I'm not worrying about leaking/ruining underwear and sheets) Some have attributed less painful cramps to cup allowing the blood to flow (rather than being absorbed like a tampon) and less effort needed to push it out of the vagina because it gets collected instead. so yes, some report less cramps but the other benefits far outweigh still getting them for me!
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 25th, 2012 11:24 am (UTC)
Oh yeah, definitely try feeling for your cervix when on your period, it's much more accurate this way ! You might end up having a lower cervix then, which is good news for removal and such (but so good if you get one of the longest cups).
full-on Monetjunemrc on May 24th, 2012 12:16 pm (UTC)
first of all--don't panic.
the only time someone needs to get a cup removed by a professional is if they've become too panicked to take the time needed. I had to go to a clinic to get one out once--if I had been able to remain calm and patient, I could have worked it out myself.
it took me a while to get used to putting my finger(s) in to remove the cup. learning to use your muscles and bear down helps.
the cup cannot get lost. it cannot go up farther than your cervix; your cervix is the top of your vagina and nothing can get through it (except a baby, at the right time, but that's not the point).
for some people, cups can help with cramps because there are chemicals and artificial materials in tampons and pads that can aggravate the menstrual cycle. so getting rid of disposables can help sometimes. some people say that using cloth pads makes their period lighter, which at first made absolutely no sense to me, but if someone is particularly sensitive to the junk used in disposables, then switching to cups/cloth pads can help.
using a cup for the first time can be tricky, but most of us have gotten over that. you'll probably learn a lot about your body and how it works as long as you remain patient when removing your cup. just remember--it won't get lost.