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21 May 2012 @ 09:15 am
Hello all,
Since not knowing a thing about menstrual cups a few days ago, I've learned a lot while reading from this site and others for literally hours and hours. However, now I'm overwhelmed a bit at all the different qualities/user experiences! At the beginning of my search, I purchased a small Diva Cup, but just sent an email on amazon asking for my order to be cancelled because I'm not sure it'll be the best kind.
I am 20 years old, occasionally use tampons (regulars, maybe 2 or 3 times/cycle), not sexually active, and (I think?) I found my cervix to be around 4.5-5ish cm while menstruating. I was concerned about the Diva being too long, which seems to be a common experience. If my order can be cancelled (or if I suck it up and shell out the cash for another cup), I was thinking about the smaller Lunette?
In short, which would be a good, middle-of-the-road choice that's most likely to work best given the rough guidelines and my inexperience?
Thank you so much,
Very overwhelmed and indecisive
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 21st, 2012 04:46 pm (UTC)
Hello there !
Firstly, have you seen the charts ?

Length is actually the most important factor, and really you should be fine with anything in the 45-50 mm range. Stiffness plays a part in comfort, as a softer cup will be easier to fold and less likely to belt, although it might take a little coaxing to unfold. The most sensitive you think you are, the softer you'll like your cup to be. On the other hand, people with super strong pelvic floor muscles will benefit from a firmer cup so it stands against their muscles. Another factor to take into account is how much you bleed : if your flow is heavy it'll be easier to handle using a larger cup, for extra capacity. As long as it's soft, it shouldn't be any more difficult or uncomfortable than a small one. Another alternative is about the shape of the cup : round bottom vs. pointy bottom. Everyone seems to have their own preference depending on where the bottom of the cup hangs out in their body. That's something you'll have to imagine. Note that you may gain an extra 5 mm to 1 cm in length from the cup sitting (o) around your cervix. Finally, you may prefer one cup over another in regards of price, color, material, and so on.

Now let's look at the actual options, by order of stiffness :

S Si-Bell : very soft, round bottom, clear
M-L Meluna : comes in both very soft and medium-firm, choice of stems (ball, stem or ring), TPE material, colors
S Fleur : soft, round bottom, defined grip rings, pops open easily (my choice for you, clear and colors
S Lunette : medium-soft, pointy bottom, good capacity for its size, clear and colors

S Yuuki : very firm, good capacity, clear

All of these cups would probably fit in their larger size, just be careful the large Lunette is very firm.

Alternatively, if you can't cancel the Diva, it might still fit with the stem trimmed off (don't cut it off until you're sure though), and you can even turn it inside out to make it shorter ! so no biggie.

Pretty simple, isn't it ? :D
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on May 21st, 2012 06:25 pm (UTC)
a large yuuki is almost as long as the diva, so it's not a great choice.
jean2seberg on May 21st, 2012 07:42 pm (UTC)
RE: juliiie87
haha, simple, I don't know about that : )
Yes, I have seen the charts, although I guess I don't know myself enough to make use of them. Not 100% certain on the whole cervix location issue, I thought I found it once, then checked again standing in the shower and either it's gone (:0) or I missed it..I did feel something like 1.5-2cm in (which idk if that's even possible? if so, it doesn't seem likely that will accomodate any kind of cup..but I'm guessing that's me being a newbie to all this?) In any case, it's something I will have to look up and investigate.
Thanks for your suggestion! I was kind of debating between the Lunette and Fleurcup (not that I know much about them, but I've read on here a few times to "go with your gut") but just read that the Fleur is hard to get in the States? Diva, Lunette, and SheCup seem to be the only ones I can find on amazon. I just have doubts that any of these are going to fit, and when I learned I chose possibly the longest one, I kind of freaked. If I can't cancel the Diva, do you recommend trying it or selling it and trying a Lunette first?
Sorry this is so wordy! I have a terrible time making decisions in general, and I really X3 want this to work. I know learning how to use it will also be a challenge, but I'll cross that bridge when I get there. :)
Thank you!
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 21st, 2012 08:06 pm (UTC)
Re: juliiie87
The way that I can find my cervix best is by squatting and bearing down a little. It really is a roundish bump with a slight indentation in the middle that will stand out from the rest of the smooth vaginal tissue. It's not to be confused with the rough patch right behind your bladder on the front wall, which is your urethral sponge or G-spot area.

All the brands I mentionned can be purchased online and shipped worldwide for a reasonable price. Fleurcups can be purchased... on their official website, fleurcup.com. Many users here are very happy with their fleurcup, so I'd totally trust the site. Lunette comes cheaper at luneshop.com, I believe. All you need is a credit card of some kind. Try the diva, even turn it inside out if you think it's too long, you could always sell it for cheaper on the mc-sales lj community page (link at the top right corner of this page).
m03m on May 21st, 2012 08:42 pm (UTC)
Re: juliiie87
My cervix is pretty low, a bit like the 1.5 - 2 cm that you're mentioning (so yes, that is quite possible) but I can't reach it when I'm standing up.

My cup of choice is the large Fleur, with the stem and grip rings removed.
jean2seberg on May 21st, 2012 11:28 pm (UTC)
Looks like the order of the Diva has shipped already, so I guess I'll try that one to start. The smart thing to do is probably wait to see if that one will work before buying another. If I have any major issues I can't find solved in other posts, I'll know where to come to!
Thanks for everything, this seems like a great community with a great purpose! :)
chamekke: cha_bamboo_with_leaveschamekke on May 22nd, 2012 02:44 am (UTC)
Looks like the order of the Diva has shipped already, so I guess I'll try that one to start. The smart thing to do is probably wait to see if that one will work before buying another.

That really is the wisest approach, I think; use the Diva Cup to find out what aspects, if any, you find difficult. If you're lucky, your cup might be fine for you (1) as is, (2) turned inside out, or (3) with its stem trimmed.

I have a low cervix and have two Meluna cups that I'm very partial to; but like you I 'prematurely' ordered a Diva Cup, and you know what? Much to my surprise, it's proven to be just as wearable as the others.

Lastly, if you give the Diva a try and it simply doesn't work for you, you can always sell or trade it on the mc_sales community, so it's all good :-)
jean2seberg on May 23rd, 2012 04:21 am (UTC)
Thanks for the reassurance :) I always have a bit of buyer's remorse after buying anything, I guess this is no exception. It's just with all the discussion of length/firmness/shape/stems and everything else it feels like I have to pick the perfect one. It's good to hear that the Diva works for you, because I'm not really sure where my cervix is and then to find out it moves down during menstruation! I took anatomy, but they didn't teach us that. :) Learning to use it will be a challenge, I know...I'm already looking at pictures and having the classical, "that's going to fit where?!?!" Luckily there's great resources around here to help when the time comes. :)
chamekkechamekke on May 23rd, 2012 05:42 am (UTC)
I understand the feeling that you have to get it right on the first try. But hey, maybe you will! And if not, you can use your experience with the Diva to find your perfect cup. It'll be helpful as a diagnostic tool at least :-)

I'm not really sure where my cervix is and then to find out it moves down during menstruation! I took anatomy, but they didn't teach us that. :)

It seems most people report that their cervix moves down during menstruation, but I've seen a couple of comments from folks for whom the opposite is true, so your mileage may vary. Once you've got the Diva and you've tried it out during your period, it should become a lot clearer.