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12 May 2012 @ 10:13 pm
Hi everyone, I have a quick question. My daughter is 11 yrs old and all signs point to her getting her first cycle within the next year. I would like to start her off using a cup, which I have discussed with my GYN, and we both agree that it would be okay. So, I guess what I am asking is which cup is best for a young girl? I use a keeper moon cup, and love it, but I am afraid it may be too rigid for her. Would love any input.
 
Stephanietheblondechika on May 13th, 2012 11:03 am (UTC)
I haven't tried the meluna soft, but I have a regular meluna and it is quite squishy and pretty small compared to my other cups. I think that may be a good option for someone so young since it's smaller it may not be too intimidating for her. Good luck!
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lutyalapolutyalapo on May 14th, 2012 02:51 am (UTC)
I would agree with not going for the Meluna Soft. I have used a Large Ladycup for 3+ years with no problems at all. I just tried an XL Meluna Soft ball stem and could not believe the difficulty in getting it to open up! It was ridiculous. I will keep it as a backup for emergencies but stick with the Ladycup as my regular cup.

I think the small Ladycup might also be a good option.
teacupcake89 on May 13th, 2012 12:46 pm (UTC)
I would recommend a small Lunette, small and just soft enough to be easy to insert and pop open, a long flexible tab stem, no thick rim, and a selection of lovely colours! (also good capacity for early puberty periods) :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 13th, 2012 01:27 pm (UTC)
The best cup for anyone is the one that fits them best. Have you seen the size charts yet? http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ There are several others at the Community FAQ.

And does your daughter even want a cup yet? It's a decision that she should have a good deal of input with. And having some pads around is a good idea to get her through the learning curve of having her period and learning to use the cup.
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on May 13th, 2012 04:34 pm (UTC)
This. If she doesn't want a cup, she won't use it. She might want to get used to her period with pads, first, before trying a cup. A lot of girls in my high school either didn't use tampons or just started using them in high school.

If she does want a cup, though, you could have her try to find her cervix if she's comfortable doing that (I know I wouldn't have been at that age, but everyone's different, of course!), although technically you're supposed to do it while you're on your period. If not, a short cup with a long stem might do well.

cloth_pads are also something you might consider for her. There are some really cute ones out there that I would have loved when I was 11. I wish I had known about them when I was that age; they would have made getting used to a period so much more comfortable.
lutyalapolutyalapo on May 14th, 2012 02:52 am (UTC)
Before I even got my first period, my mom had me investigate and find my cervix and practice a dry run with a junior tampon. She had me all prepared! Though, she still thinks cups are weird. :)
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on May 13th, 2012 05:09 pm (UTC)
Just to play devil's advocate, a young person will probably use whatever their mother uses their first time out. When I got my first period, I used disposable pads because that was what my mother used. I learned that I hated them and in a few years I switched to tampons, which she never used. Many many years later I tried a cup, mostly because a friend was trying it.

I think there's nothing wrong with this Mom presenting her daughter with all the options available to her, but then buying her a cup since that's the method she uses... it's no different than my Mom providing me with disposable pads... eventually I matured and explored other options, as I'm sure this young lady will as well.

But on a practical note, yeah, I would have been terrified to try and find my cervix at the age of eleven. I like the advice that arrow_bright gives of exploring cloth pads...
naked_beauty_21 on May 13th, 2012 05:13 pm (UTC)
On the other side of this, my mom used tampons exclusively but the idea of putting something inside of me freaked me out when I started my period at 11 years old, so I used disposable pads until I was probably 16, then used tampons and pads. Younger kids are often uncomfortable with inserting something internally.
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on May 13th, 2012 11:04 pm (UTC)
Yes, very good point.
Jessica Lynnlovedroppp on May 13th, 2012 09:21 pm (UTC)
I don't have any suggestions unfortunately, as I have only used my DivaCup, but I'm going to agree and say that it might be a good idea to have some pads around as well. Even though I love my cup, I have always found that sometimes it just feels better not to have anything inside at all, so I have always kept pads. Because she is just starting out and hasn't used tampons before, I imagine that the feeling of a cup will be especially foreign to her and might take some getting used to.
Cenamenhoneypie3251 on May 13th, 2012 10:02 pm (UTC)
I think it's a great idea to introduce her to menstrual cups even though she is young. She might not wear it at first but maybe after a couple of cycles or so she may decide to try it out. I know I would have at 11years of age since I was 10 and half when I started mine. I got tired of the feeling of my period leaking out of me and onto a wet pad that I had to sit in all day. Blech.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 14th, 2012 12:38 pm (UTC)
Talk to her about the choices she has, mostly point out cups and cloth pads, even show her some pictures online, and ask her what she'd be more comfortable with. If you want to buy ahead of time, make her part of the buying decision, and get her some cloth pads to begin with.

As far as cups for young girls go, I'd look into the small Lunette or the small Fleurcup (both come in pretty colors). I'd avoid Ladycup as a first cup because it's short, slippery, has no grip rings, and the small has very little capacity. But trully it is an invidual thing, since every vagina is different ! If hers is longer, she would benefit from a longer cup (Miacup, Cuplee, Divacup). I'm not sure how comfortable a klassik Meluna would be, for someone who never had anything in their vagina before.
craseydani on May 14th, 2012 12:45 pm (UTC)
Thank you for all of the input. Just to clear a few things up, I took my daughter to the GYN, not for an exam, but to discuss what was happening to her body, what she should and could expect, and the different "tools of the trade" available to her.She has been completely involved in the choice to use a cup rather than pads as she is "grossed out" by the whole concept lol.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 14th, 2012 01:32 pm (UTC)
I just hope she's aware cups involve "getting your fingers up there" to break the seal and getting to see your blood up close...

And if she's ok with that, then she can look for her cervix and you can both make an informed choice (although looking on one's period is more accurate).
Arrow_Bright: Green Gablesarrow_bright on May 15th, 2012 05:11 pm (UTC)
In that case, I second the small Fleurcup or Lunette because they're both short cups with long stems, so you can still reach the stem if you have a higher cervix (though you may have to bear down), but you can still wear it if it's lower (though you may need to trim the stem). Though, if she's able to find her cervix, that's great, although its placement might change anyway as she grows. I would still suggest you get some pads (cloth are great!) for her because it's good to have back up, especially when you're first getting used to a period.

You could also print out The Virgin's Guide to Cups (http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html) for her and have her read it. It's basically a step-by-step guide on how to prepare for a menstrual cup. A lot of people have found it very helpful.

Good luck to you and your daughter! :D
coffee nut bitchpeiyu on May 17th, 2012 01:16 pm (UTC)
There is a great Youtube video on the myth of the hymen, which I think your daughter would find informative in understanding the woman's body in case she feels uncomfortable later. I know I did learn something from it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qFojO8WkpA

Ooh depending on your daughter, you might want to skip the sex part. Or adapt it. I don't know, maybe she already knows it, but maybe leaving it here for random people to see it would be good? A little off topic though.

Hope she finds a cup she likes!

Edited at 2012-05-17 01:20 pm (UTC)