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11 May 2012 @ 10:40 pm
Hi all! I am new here and new to menstrual cups. I just got my diva cup in the mail a couple weeks ago and I wanted to get some dry runs in before it was time for my period. Unfortunately I can not seem to get the darn thing in! It keeps unfolding right as I barely have it inserted and will not go in. I have tried the c fold, punch down, and a few variations of the 7 fold. I have tried it sitting, squatting, one leg on the tub, and lying down. I have tried running it under warm water to soften the material, and using some water based lube. Unfortunately with the lube it makes my fingers slippery and then I have a REALLY hard time holding onto it. So far I have only gotten it in once, and that was laying down on my bed. But realistically I am not laying on my bed during my period, and trying to mess with it. I have very heavy period.

The one time I did get it in, it fit very comfortably, and I was able to remove it with no problem. But I did discover problem #2. Once it was in me I tried to give it a rotation, and could not for the life of me get a good grip on it, or get it to turn.

I am 26, married and therefore not a virgin. No pregnancies. I ordered the diva size 1. I used to sell Pure Romance, and without going into to much detail I am very familiar with my anatomy. I have a high cervix (I can't even reach it with my stubby fingers), and a low pubic bone. I learned about my low pubic bone using tampons. I would have to use the top of the applicator to really shove it up there or else once I got up and starting walking, the movements would sent it flying out in minutes. I am wondering if my pubic bone is what is getting in the way of insertion. I don't feel like I have a small vaginal opening. I have some "novelties" that are bigger around than the cup. I also discovered that I get once chance, maybe two if I am lucky to try inserting it. After one try my vagina tightens up like crazy and I have to stop for a while and try again. This I find really odd, because I have never had any symptoms before of vaginismus. =/

Any and all advice is appreciated. I would hate to subject my husband to inserting it for me. But being the saint that he is, he probably would if I asked him. But knowing him he would do it all wrong, as men tend to do. Which BTW just for lolz, when I got my diva in the mail I showed it to him and he nick named it my "crotch goblet". :)
susannahfragilemacabre on May 12th, 2012 03:02 am (UTC)
Have you tried the lube on/in you, instead of on the cup? I can't imagine lubing my cup up, it would be too slippery, but it definitely helps if YOU are lubed. Good luck!
m03m on May 12th, 2012 06:31 am (UTC)
Many users find that their vaginas tend to be more cooperative on their period. Why don't you give it a rest right now, and wait until the time arrives? Dry runs don't work for everyone.
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on May 12th, 2012 01:14 pm (UTC)
Crotch goblet! :^D
chamekkechamekke on May 13th, 2012 05:09 am (UTC)
Once it was in me I tried to give it a rotation, and could not for the life of me get a good grip on it, or get it to turn.

You don't absolutely have to rotate your cup when it's in position. If you want to ensure it's completely opened up, you can sweep a finger around the sides/base to check.

I agree with m03m that you might want to wait until your period before trying again. The cervix typically lowers a bit, for one thing, which may make the cup easier to insert.

My own Goldilocks cup is a Meluna, but I do have a DivaCup #2 and FWIW, my first experience with inserting/removing it was awkward and uncomfortable, to put it mildly. The second try was much easier, and the third was a breeze. It's OK to take a bit of time to get to know the best way to work with your cup!

P.S. When you say you "tried it sitting", did you mean sitting on a chair, a toilet, or...? Everyone's mileage varies, but I find it easiest to put in my cup when sitting on the toilet.