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arcticfox97
Hello again! I believe I just asked a question last night, but this time I want to get opinions from this whole community rather than asking a couple of people at a time. So I'm looking to buy a new menstrual cup -- I've already had experience with the small DivaCup and after quite a few tries it did not go so well. 

I'm fifteen and I have a rather small build (so smaller cups are probably more useful for me) and I am a virgin who does not have much experience with having anything inside of my vagina. The DivaCup had much, much too strong of a suction for me and it was also too big for me, unfortunately. I have a rather heavy flow, and you can tell me if my cervix is high or low: I'm on my period, and just about my whole index finger can go in until I can feel it.
I also have a hard time holding onto the folds of my Diva as the cup is rather stiff / firm. 
So I'm typically looking for a cup that has a weaker suction than the Diva, is smaller but can accommodate my heavy flow for at least a decent amount of time, and is softer. (Sounds like I'm looking for a perfect cup, but anything that's not as big and strong-suctioned as the Diva may be suitable...)

I heard the Lunette is good for people like me as well as the MeLuna, but I also heard some controversy over the suction and size of the UK Mooncup... anyone who is similar to me, or has in the past had a cup that could be good for someone like myself who can give me recommendations would be absolutely fantastic. Thanks in advance and I'm very excited to see the possible suggestions as I know there are many cups out there!
 
moonhoney925 on May 10th, 2012 09:59 am (UTC)
I use a large Lunette and Fleurcup. I have quite a heavy flow for the first couple of days and these cups are adequate for me, I also have a high cervix. The Fleurcup is softer than the Lunette but both have the same capacity and are pretty much the same size. I like them both and both come in pretty colours, lol :)

I don't own a Diva so I cannot comment on the suction but I have never had a suction problem with either of my cups.

If you are after a softer cup- I would go for the Fleucup.
It you are after a firmer cup- I would go for the Lunette (the smaller version is softer though)

I'm only suggesting the larger cups because you have a heavy flow. I had a ridiculously heavy flow when I was your age (I'm in my mid 30's now) that used to last for 9-10 days, I only found out when I was in my mid-20's that I had endometriosis and had to be operated on. If your period is anything like that please see your doctor, I'm very lucky to have 2 beautiful kids.

Edited at 2012-05-10 10:00 am (UTC)
arcticfox97arcticfox97 on May 11th, 2012 04:30 pm (UTC)
Thank you so much. My flow is rather heavy, and at times it does feel overwhelming, but thankfully I haven't gotten to the point where it could be leading to endometriosis. Sorry to hear that you've been through that and I appreciate the advice!
I've actually heard quite a bit about the Fleurcup. So far I'm leaning towards small cups for my comfort but that would be sacrificing my time without having to remove the contents more or less. Although I feel like I'm sticking to the small ones, I've had my mind on the Fleurcup and Lunette thanks to the community. Much appreciated!
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 10th, 2012 12:46 pm (UTC)
There are plenty of cups that sound like they would be perfect for you ! If you want to be accurate, it might help to measure the length of your index finger. But for now I'd say you'll want to look for cups that are medium to long, given that most cups will be shorter than your diva, especially if you go for a small size.

To be honest, if you have a heavy flow you'd be better off with a large size cup, because it'll have more capacity. Take a look at the charts and compare your Diva in terms of length and capacity :

http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/
And this one for stiffness comparison : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/

In my opinion, a large Meluna soft, small or even a large Fleurcup (one of the highest capacity cups!), small Lunette and large Cuplee (my cup <3) would work great for you. Although with the small sizes, you'll probably have to bear down and reach in more to remove them, since they are noticeably shorter than your Diva. So consider this carefuly before you rule out a large size. All of these cups are squishy, so you shouldn't feel them at all once they're in, and hold the same or more than your Diva. Personnaly, I'm very satisfied with my Cuplee, it's long enough that I don't have to reach in much, it super soft and I've never had suction issues. It's also just 44mm wide, which makes it more medium than truly large (not that it makes much difference). Its width means I can do tinyier, more intricate folds.

By the way, cups don't creat suction, they form a seal, but pulling on them does. The Diva is one of the most difficult to remove because it has tiny holes. Maybe try to enlarge them ? and most importantly, slide a finger in next to your cup to create an air channel that'll "unseal" the cup from your walls.
arcticfox97arcticfox97 on May 11th, 2012 04:34 pm (UTC)
Thanks for all the advice!
I've never heard of Cuplee cups if I can recall correctly, but I'll be sure to check them out as I'm still in the midst of cup buying decisions.
Great to know that the cups you mentioned are soft as well! I think I'm leaning towards the small cups for comfort, but that means more consideration when having to choose one for my flow. Eeep. So it looks like I'll be having quite a few cups in my mind before narrowing down.
I'll look more into the MeLuna like you mentioned, too!
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 11th, 2012 05:28 pm (UTC)
Imo it's mostly softness that makes a cup comfortable, not width.
Having the right length is far more important if you don't want to have to fish for your cup far up. Be careful that the short sizes are a lot shorter than your Diva ! Like Kuradi8 said, it might actually be good for you to try and learn learn with this one, while removal is still tricky.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on May 10th, 2012 01:45 pm (UTC)
Don't blame the cup. Blame your inexperience. You're in the dreaded learning curve.

1. Your outer dimensions have little/nothing to do with your inner dimensions.

2. As I pointed out in your previous post, your Diva is negligibly wider than some other popular small cups and its long length might actually work in your favor in learning to remove it.

3. Suction is a misnomer. If it happens, it is usually from lack of technique, not because of the design of the cup. http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2091967.html However, the anti-suction holes on a Diva are relatively small and some people have greater success after they enlarge them.

4. The Diva is one of the softer cups. I believe Melissa rated it 4 on a scale of 10.

5. If you get a cup that is too short, you will have a heckuva time reaching it for removal. If you can only reach the stem, not the base, you can't break the seal, which will cause suction, and OUCH!

I stick by my original advice to get through the learning curve with the Diva that you already have. Once you are comfortable with insertion and removal, decide whether or not it's the right sized cup for you and then use that information to pick your next cup.
arcticfox97arcticfox97 on May 11th, 2012 04:40 pm (UTC)
Thanks!
1. Ah, thank you for letting me know!
2. I'll keep that in mind!
3. Huh, really -- I had heard lots of complaints about the Diva's suction as well when I had been looking up information about my other problem, specifically with pain but more so towards difficult removal... and I'll be sure to look into enlarging the holes. Sounds like the #1 thing I should focus on right now with the Diva, I believe.
4. Maybe it's just my own hand, but I have the most irritating time with holding onto the Diva's folds; I find it to be more stiff than others have stated it to be. :(
5. Ouch! Sounds painful. I'll have to remember that about short cups, then.
You've definitely helped me out a lot with the whole general cup/Diva issues. Thanks! It's great to be told such useful advice.
loveyourcuploveyourcup on June 14th, 2012 03:00 pm (UTC)
From what you are describing I would recommend you a small Ladycup. It is softer than a divacup. But if you are 15 and you said you are small buid I think you would be more comfortable with the MeLuna small, they are made for teenagers. You can choose between the Soft or the classic. Just know that because it is softer it is not as easy to insert and pop open. There is a learning curve but only you can know what you prefer.