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08 May 2012 @ 08:31 pm
You probably get a bajillion of these, so I apologize in advance. I just want to make sure I'm making the right decision since it's a big money investment. :)

I'm pretty sure it was fate that I ran out of both pads AND tampons on the last day of my last period, which was Earth Day! Clearly some people up above are conspiring to finally get a menstrual cup in me ;)

I'm 22 (I'll be 23 in July). I'm 5'4" and 140 lbs, so I'm sort of tiny? I've never had penetrative sex and I've never been pregnant. I'm gay, and I don't want kids, so there's no chance of pregnancy in the future, either.

I generally use super or super plus tampons during my period.

So, community members, depart unto me your wisdom: which cup should I buy? I'd like to buy a cup before my next period, so ideally in the next few days. :)

(there should be some sort of generator thing where you put in all of this information and it spits out your options....)

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Jennennifer_jay on May 9th, 2012 01:05 am (UTC)
How can you determine where your cervix sits? Because I put my middle finger in my vagina and it never stopped...
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on May 9th, 2012 01:37 am (UTC)
If you were able to put all or most of your middle finger in there without finding your cervix (it'll feel different from your vaginal wall), it's probably safe to say you have a high cervix. :)
Jennennifer_jay on May 9th, 2012 02:04 am (UTC)
I felt a little fleshy nub on my wall? With the palm facing towards me, it was on my front wall. But I was able to go past that.
Sal McGhostface Killahbeuk on May 9th, 2012 02:54 am (UTC)
The cervix isn't synonymous with the "roof" of the vagina. The cervix should feel like a small bit of tissue similar to the tip of your nose. It's roughly the size of a dime, I think? Other users may have more specific advice for locating your cervix.
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on May 9th, 2012 03:26 am (UTC)
Yep, sounds like your cervix! How far up was it? That'll help determine how long of a cup you'll want.
Jennennifer_jay on May 9th, 2012 03:31 am (UTC)
Now I'm not sure because I tried looking for it again and it feels more like a bone than a fleshy thing. :(

Then I got your comment and tried again, and I felt the fleshy thing again, but when I pressed down on it I could feel the bone.

For the record, it was about half of my middle finger, maybe up to the second knuckle? That's pushing it though.

Ugh I feel like an idiot for not knowing where my damn cervix is.
samanthalinn on May 9th, 2012 04:21 am (UTC)
That sounds like your cervix! If its about to the middle of your middle finger, I would go with a short to mid length cup with a large capacity....
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on May 9th, 2012 04:25 am (UTC)
Don't worry! A lot of people have trouble finding their cervix. I poked at the top of my vagina for months thinking it was my cervix. :)

From what you described, it sounds like it's medium height. Take a look at the sizecharts and stiffness chart (linked in a previous post) and start to narrow down cups/sizes that you think might work. What helps some people is to measure how far a reach it is on their finger and use that as a maximum length.
Jennennifer_jay on May 9th, 2012 04:33 am (UTC)
Any suggestions on a specific cup though? And what is important with regards to stiffness?

Should I just get a regular diva cup and be done with it?

ETA: I'm thinking about the Lunette Cup, Model 1? Thoughts?

Edited at 2012-05-09 05:01 am (UTC)
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on May 9th, 2012 05:20 am (UTC)
Oops, I meant to write about stiffness in my last post. I think it's getting late for me, lol.

Aside from length, most other features are personal preference, including stiffness, but there are some general guidelines. Generally, if you're very sensitive in that area, you'll probably want a very soft cup because it'll be less likely to press into your bladder. If you're very fit and have strong pelvic floor muscles (like you do a lot of yoga, pilates, kegels, etc.), you might want a stiff cup because it'll keep it's shape better. The pros and cons are that soft cups can be a bit trickier to get to pop open, while stiff cups are more easily felt when they're in. Personally, I like having a medium-soft cup (a small Lunette--it's a 4/10 on the charts, iirc) because it's right in the middle of both. My first cup was a Keeper Moon Cup (8/10, iirc), and it sometimes pressed against my bladder. I could still use it comfortably, but my new cup is more comfortable.

As for the Diva, it's a very long cup, even without the stemm. In fact, it's the longest available (even the small). You might be able to use it inside out, though, which makes it a bit shorter. That seems to work for some people.

I'm very biased towards the small Lunette, since it's my Goldilocks cup, lol. But it is a very good cup. It's high capacity for it's size (because of the shape). It is on the shorter side, but it has a long stem. I have a high cervix after day 2 or so of my period, and the end of the stem is just a cm or two inside the opening, making it easy to reach. On the first two or so days, my cervix is slightly lower, and it sticks out maybe 1 cm or less? The tab stem as opposed to the hollow tube of my previous KMC makes it so that it's not pokey, and the ridges make it really easy to get a good grasp on it during removal. I also like that it's medium soft, like I said before.

The S Lunette would probably work; you might also consider the S or L Fleurcup, or M Meluna. They're all around the same size.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 9th, 2012 10:13 am (UTC)
The cervix should definitely stand out from the rest of your tissues, I tend to picture it as a protruding belly button. it's definitely rounded, with a tiny indentation in the middle where the blood comes from. It should also feel funny, almost uncomfortable for some people, a deep awkward sensation inside your belly.

It sounds to me like you may get confused with your urethral sponge, also called the g-spot area. It's a rougher area on the front wall, right behind your bladder, near your pubic bone. If you press on it, it makes you want to pee a little (it can also be erotic when circumstances are right). The cervix isn't necessarily at the top, but it's most likely towards the "end" of your vagina. I once read somebody's advice that aiming for your cervix was like aiming for your a**hole from the inside. Not a nice image, but that's what it is for me.
Tashanamelessw0nder on May 15th, 2012 04:41 pm (UTC)
Super helpful description, thanks! I know that deep awkward sensation inside my belly that you've described, it happens sometimes during sex if my boyfriend "goes too deep". Funny enough, I get the same sensation if someone pokes my belly button.

My problem is that I always thought my cervix is low, but can't locate it, and my new lunette (model 1) makes me feel a bit queasy when I use it (better when I flip it inside out, and I trimmed the first notch off on the stem). I feel like it may be too long, because the same queasy sensation occurred for me when I tried Soft Cups, and that I thought was from too much cervical contact.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 15th, 2012 05:00 pm (UTC)
You're welcome ! Only you can tell that, so definitely havea feel for your cervix, it won't bite. :)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 9th, 2012 10:03 am (UTC)
Uh-oh, if it's not hidden on one side, up or down somewhere, then it's most likely unreachable (high). Maybe I forgot to mention, but you'll want to try again on your period, because that's when it drops lower for most people. Also, squatting and bearing down helps bring it closer.