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05 May 2012 @ 07:27 pm
So, I tried using my size 1 Diva cup for the first time yesterday, ouch. I tried multiple times using the c-fold method and could not get it in! I stopped when I felt intense pain and started bleeding. I'm assuming that I broke my hymen, not a big deal. I used a mirror and it looked a little jagged down there. A few hours later I tried again using the punchdown method, got a whole lot closer! Even though there wasn't a lot of pain, the bleeding started again and wouldn't stop. I started my period today and towards the end of the day I used a slim tampon, no pain, but when it came out I started bleeding, yet again. I'm positive it wasn't menstrual blood, too thin and bright. Basically my question, is this much bleeding normal? Also, while I was investigating down there I realized just how small the hole I'm trying to shove this thing in is! I don't know if my cervix is just super low or something, because there just doesn't seem to be enough room. But I now remember it's a tight squeeze for me to use a "super" absorbency tampon. But if I'm going to eventually push a tiny human out surely there must be a way to use a stupid cup! I'm strongly considering trying Ladycup instead, it's quite a bit shorter and softer I've read. Suggestions??
 
tsubasa_lupintsubasa_lupin on May 6th, 2012 04:09 am (UTC)
Hi! I never tried the Diva cup, I though it would be too rigid and stiff for me (I'm a virgin), so I got the LadyCup two years ago. From experience I can tell you it's really soft and I have never bleed from it, even though after the first week of usage I did get a little bit sore, but that was mainly because the learning curve its a tad high with the removal. Being so soft, breaking the suction it's kinda hard until you get the hang of it.

If you keep having troubles with the diva, I would totally recommend the ladycup to you :)
tonksadora11 on May 6th, 2012 06:03 am (UTC)
Just tried various methods with water based lube for a good 20 minutes, no success. I'm currently using an Instead Soft Cup, so length is not the problem, I think is must be the stiffness. I also can't find my cervix. People say it feels like your nose? I feel something like my nose but it's right by the pubic bone, about an inch in so I really doubt that's it. I'd like to try Ladycup, but I'm very hesitant since I don't want to spend another $35 dollars ordering something from Europe that may not even work out...
m03m on May 6th, 2012 06:38 am (UTC)
Just because you can use a Softcup, that doesn't mean that the length of the Divacup can't be the problem. Softcups sit very differently and do not take up as much room lengthwise.

You can flip the Diva inside out and try it that way. If that makes it sit and work better, then a shorter cup might veru well be your ticket to success.

There are many more options than just Diva and Ladycup. Almost all cups are shorter than the Diva and many are softer. Most of them do come from Europe though, I hope that is not a problem.

Lastly, your cervix can certainly be an inch in and yes, if that is the case that would make a Divacup hard to use and uncomfortable.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 6th, 2012 11:59 am (UTC)
About your cervix : try feeling around furter to see how much space you actually got. Even if what you felt is your cervix, any cup will have to encircle that nub, if there's any room on the sides. I personnaly think my cervix feels somewhat like a protruding belly button, maybe just softer.


Anyhow, there ARE shorter, more convenient cups out there. Mini Melunas soft for instance work great for short cervixes, if your flow isn't too heavy. otherwise you might be able to fit something larger.
Ashatenlegspider on May 6th, 2012 10:27 am (UTC)
I don't have a sense of how much blood is coming out, and I don't know how much would be a problem anyway, but I'm not surprised that the bleeding kept coming back when trying to use your cup or tampons, since a tear will reopen very easily. I suggest you leave it alone for 24 hours (use pads), which I think would be long enough for it to heal pretty well.

I know it doesn't feel like it, but your vagina can easily accommodate a lot more than your cup. The things that could stop it are;

2. Your hymen. You may or may not have enough left to make a difference. If it's still getting in the way you'll want to work on stretching it (if you do it over time with lube it doesn't need to tear).

2. Tension. Your vagina is a muscle and if you're not feeling confident about getting something in there it'll tighten up.

3. Friction. If you make a circle with one hand and stick a finger from the other through it, you have a hi-larious simulation of penetrative intercourse. If you put rubber gloves on both hands and try it, you'll probably have a hard time moving your finger around, even if there's plenty of space. If you put some KY Jelly on, it's all good again. Friction in your vagina can make it feel like there's no room in there at all and make everything uncomfortable, but unlike stretching your hymen or learning to relax, you just need an appropriate bottle or tube to fix it. It'll help even if you're tense, and may your hymen easier to deal with too. When you get used to it you'll probably be fine with blood/you natural lube/water, but if things are difficult proper lube really helps.
tonksadora11 on May 6th, 2012 11:26 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll probably try the MeLuna Mini Soft, it's the shortest softest one I've found. I think my cervix is just really really low to the point of almost touching my pubic bone when I'm on my period. I'll poke around again in a week or so to compare the feel of everything. After much trial and error I'm finally having a lot of luck with the Soft Cups, I just wish they where reusable!

Edited at 2012-05-06 11:29 pm (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 8th, 2012 01:00 pm (UTC)
Well, they totally ARE, as long as you clean them as you would a silicone cup and as long as they don't break. Go ahead and reuse them, many people do !
Michellemichelleh324 on May 7th, 2012 03:03 am (UTC)
I used a Divacup when I was a virgin. I've seen recommendations about using lube for insertion when you're having problems. I have no idea how much bleeding is normal, but I never had any hymen issues.