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05 May 2012 @ 08:14 pm
So, I bought a diva cup on a whim. I've been using cloth pads for about a year and decided I wanted to try this out. I'm essentially done with my period and wanted to compare my experience with other people, and of course ask some questions.
Firstly, the good stuff: I had basically no learning curve for getting in, out, and sealed. It was weird the first time but I adjusted fast. I had zero leaks despite my intense paranoia for the first day. Also, I had pretty much no cramps. I'm not sure I can convey how wonderful that was. I am a person who usually has to avoid making plans for the first two days of my periods because my cramps are so severe. I feel like even with the issues I had I would continue using it just for that reason. Of course, my period was a little off because I just came home from college, and finals week usually alters my cycle a bit, but still... it was pretty impressive.
BUT: I have a couple issues/ questions about it. Firstly, my vagina basically eats the cup. I insert it so that the tip is sticking out, and later it will be way up there. This makes it a little labor intensive to remove. I was just wondering if anyone else experiences this, or if it's normal? I did research before and while I was using it and I got the impression that this typically doesn't happen.
Also, all was fine and dandy, but the fourth day of my period, I was sore. Like really sore. I'm a virgin, and also, I'm using the cup a lot like a tampon in that unless I'm sleeping I'm removing and cleaning it every five-six hours or so. I don't know if either of those things would make a major difference. I really want to be able to wear it for the whole five days, but by midday today I was getting pretty sore, and by evening I just decided to give the thing a rest. Did this happen to anyone else the first time they used it?
Other than these two things, I loved the product, it was almost like not even having my period because it worked so well.
juliiie87juliiie87 on May 6th, 2012 12:34 am (UTC)
Congratulations on taking the plunge !

First off : long vaginas tend to eat cups, this is absolutely normal and indicates you probably have a high cervix. Where the cup sits is impossible for you to decide, and pretty much depends on how long your vagina is, and how long the cup is. The Diva is super long, there are some that are slightly longer thanks to a longer stem, but that's pretty much it. Which brings me to second : bearing down is a normal part of removal, especially if your cup sits high. But the good news is, most users with a high cervix develop this skill over time and use.
About soreness... hum I never had that because I wasn't a virgin when I started, and also because my cup is super soft I guess... is it the entrance that hurts ? in this case, lube and taking it slow for removal might help.

Also : cups can hold at least twice the amount that tampon hold, so unless your flow is crazy heavy, you don't need to check your cup more than twice a day, morning and evening.

On a side note : I'm currently trying to complete one cycle relying on cloth... And mind you, I hated traditionnal pads... wearing a Lunapad right know ^^... well not quite the whole cycle because earlier today I knew it might come, so I put in my cup just to make sure I was covered... turned out I was right. I didn't even notice my period had started until I emptied it... how freaking cool is that ??
moonhoney925 on May 6th, 2012 12:51 am (UTC)

It seems to me that you have the right cup if only the tip is sticking out and there is no discomfort. How much does it stick out BTW? I have a large Lunette and Fleurcup and only the last notch of the tips stick out. From experience, I do find that removal is much easier on the toilet. I don't know if you have tried that.

How heavy are your periods by the fourth day? If they are fairly light by then you could just use your cloth pads. The cup could be hurting you because you are a lot drier by then as opposed to the beginning of your cycle.
m03m on May 6th, 2012 06:33 am (UTC)
I've never heard of a cup hurting when the vagina is dry. That is exactly one of the major differences with tampons: you can use a cup when you're not even bleeding at all and it won't hurt.

Is this something you have experienced?
moonhoney925 on May 6th, 2012 07:37 am (UTC)
No, I have not experienced it myself but I've seen a few posts where members have tried inserting cups on dry runs or at the end of cycles and have had some sort of discomfort. These members are usually ones who are trying cups for the first time. I did say "could" as opposed to "is".

I apologise for any confusion with my post.
m03m on May 6th, 2012 07:39 pm (UTC)
Oh, good point about the dry runs, I didn't think of that.
Procrastinator Extraordinaire: Gargoyle Eyenightmer on May 6th, 2012 12:53 am (UTC)
I agree with the previous poster about having a high cervix - that's normal and it became pretty easy for me to remove the cup even when I can barely brush the stem. Bearing down is important and attempting to break the seal before pulling on the cup might help with soreness if it's up high as opposed to around the entrance (I'd guess that people with long vaginas have more problems with this as it's difficult to pinch the cup and break suction).

I still get sore once in a while but I just switch to pads for a few hours, and it rarely happens anyway. Taking it out less if possible will probably help, too!
michaelaokayprettygood on May 6th, 2012 06:02 am (UTC)
I got sore the first two or three cycles I used a cup, too...I assume that all the rooting around in there trying to grab and remove the cup stretches you out a bit until your body adjusts, lol.

Try emptying it less often - twice a day is fine unless you've got a super heavy flow, and just give it a little time. You won't be sore after a while.
rogueninja47rogueninja47 on May 6th, 2012 03:30 pm (UTC)
Ok... not sure if I'm doing this right because I've never used live journal before...
Removing or inserting it didn't hurt, actually I had virtually no problems doing that. Just on the fourth day (basically the last day) my vagina was just sore. The soreness left as soon as I took it out, I feel like I could attribute it to simply never having anything that size in my vagina before. But I wasn't sure.
My flow tends to vary from month to month. This month is was really light because I had to deal with stress from moving and finals. (Probably won't be the case later) I think what I'll do is just not remove it so much.
Juliie87: I know right! Wearing that cup was essentially like not having a period once I got used to it, it's fantastic!
Arrow_Bright: Sara Stanleyarrow_bright on May 6th, 2012 05:34 pm (UTC)
If you click on the "reply" button under a person's post, you can reply just to that person, and they'll be notified that you responded. :)

I wasn't a virgin when I started using cups, but my first cup was a Keeper Moon Cup, which is very stiff (I think it's an 8 or so on the stiffness charts, whereas a Diva is about a 4, for comparison). I found that during my first few cycles of using it (but especially my first cycle), I would get sore after 3 or 4 days and just use pads for the remaining light days. As my body got used to it and as I got better at inserting and removing, I found that I didn't get sore anymore.

My flow does the same thing when I move back and forth from school and with studying stress. It's kind of nice because it'll always be really light with no or only light cramps and far apart whenever it's transitioning from dorms to home. Though, after using cups for a couple cycles, I stopped getting cramps like I used to. I still get them, but they're hardly worth calling cramps. The feel more like mild indigestion (sometimes I actually take Tums/Pepto before I realize what they actually are, lol).
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rogueninja47rogueninja47 on May 7th, 2012 03:57 pm (UTC)
I don't think I could trim the stem if I wanted to. If I did I wouldn't be able to remove it, since it get's sucked so far up there.
This month I had virtually no flow. It was really light. I don't imagine I'd fill the cup on a normal period though because my flow tends to be really light anyways (a product of taking birth control for years). Actually, it freaked me out a little to hear that people were actually filling the cup, because I certainly wasn't. I wondered if maybe it was affecting my period or something. I'd guess probably not though.
Michellemichelleh324 on May 7th, 2012 04:04 pm (UTC)
I've been using my cup for 7 years now without the stem. The stem was the only thing that made the cup uncomfortable for me. There are grips on the base of the cup so that you do not need the stem to take it out. You should try to bear down when removing the cup as all of your muscles move down, thus forcing the cup down as well. This is the best and easiest way to get your cup out especially when it is so high up inside of you.

If you have a really light flow then there is no point in emptying out your cup so frequently. That is most likely why you are so sore - as there is little blood/lubrication helping you with inserting/removing.

I hope this helps.
rogueninja47rogueninja47 on May 8th, 2012 02:48 pm (UTC)
So, I appreciate the advice, I'm glad my experiences were similar to some of yours... I just thought I'd point out that I accidentally deleted a comment from here, and I meant to just delete it from my messages. I was sleepy. Sorry.