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Hi all!  I got my first cup recently, the Large Lunette, and tried it through my first cycle.  Technically it worked, but not without flaws.  I definitely need a different cup and I'm hoping you can help me figure out which one!

What I didn't realize before ordering the Lunette was that my cervix is VERY low during my period.  To the point where depending on how I sit, part of it is right there just inside the vaginal opening. 

I have an IUD and previously I'd looked for the strings and felt them but didn't feel the cervix, I'm not sure if it just moves up a lot higher when I'm not on my period, or if I'm just that oblivious and I didn't figure out where they were coming from because I didn't realize WHERE my cervix actually was going to be (I thought it was going to be at the very end of the canal!)

I was only able to wear the Lunette without pain by turning it inside out.  Still then, the bottom stuck out at least a half an inch.  I could feel it all of the time and it left me checking and emptying it very often because of that.  The cup sticking out also partially obstructed my urethra (made me feel like I had to pee a lot, and hindered the stream).  Based on other posts here, my cervix might be considered "dangly" based on how low it sits.

I'm not sure how wide my vagina is, but I definitely don't think it's too narrow, so I'm not sure what cup to try next.  I've been looking at the MINI Meluna (the old style), size Medium, as it's the widest short cup I've seen on the charts.  I definitely need something that's significantly shorter than the Lunette. 

I had no problems with leaking with the Lunette, so I think the width was fine there, I think the only issue being that it may have caused a bit of cramping, possibly because of the firmness/width of the cup?  I cramp quite a bit, so I'm not counting on the cup helping, but I definitely don't want it worse. 

Quarters are usually pretty tight through there during my period also, so I'm not sure if I should try a soft cup to hope it helps with cramps but I don't want it to be unable to pop open either.  Though I think even the classic Meluna is softer than the Lunette?   With the Lunette I was able to break the seal by squeezing the bottom of the cup.  (When I first tried it with a dry run and tried breaking the seal at the top, it was NOT GOOD.)

My biggest concern with the Mini Meluna is that I do have a heavy flow.  I don't mind having to empty the cup several times a day, but having the ability to go a longer period of time without having to worry about it would be awesome.  I worry that the capacity of the Meluna would be too small.   When I used the Lunette, only once, on my heaviest day, did it full to more than half full.  I'm not sure how long it had been since I'd emptied it that time. 

Based on my flow and low cervix, I'm worried that I won't be able to find ANY cup that will really work for me :(  I've been really excited about the idea though.  So I'm hoping someone will have some suggestions and advice for me!  I wanted to ask around before I ordered a new cup because it's pretty pricey to do so when it may not work for me! 

Thanks so much for any and all help! 
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juliiie87juliiie87 on April 24th, 2012 09:19 pm (UTC)
You've come to the right place. First, have you seen the charts ?
Especially this one about stiffness : http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/cup-stiffness-comparison-chart/
And this page to compare length and capacity : http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/

Before you get a new cup, make sure you know your body well and exactly what you dislike about this cup. When looking for your cervix, you're looking for a firm-ish coin-sized fleshy bump. Some people sometimes get confused with the rough area that's just "there" behind your bladder on the front wall - known as the g-spot area.
Anyway, it does sound like your cup is too long for you. First thing you can do is to flip it inside out to shorten it a bit.

Judging from the charts, a mini Meluna would last about as long as a tampon worn until it's completely full and starts leaking, possibly the medium would last a bit longer than a super tampon. A high capacity, small size cup would be your best bet : the small Fleurcup has a pretty decent capacity, Medium meluna and small Yuuki too. Depending on how far up your cervix is, a wider soft cup such as the large Fleurcup or Iriscup might work. Usually a wider cup will sit higher, and the softer it is, the least you'll feel it.
leighah on April 25th, 2012 12:01 am (UTC)
It seems like a large Fleurcup could possibly be a good choice to look into. I wonder if the fact that it's a little wider would allow your cervix to sit inside of it so that the body of the cup could ride up higher (making the length less of an issue). The newer Fleurcups are softer, too.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 25th, 2012 12:11 am (UTC)
while the width was ok leaks-wise, the lunettes are both relatively narrow. my small lunette sticks out worse than my large ladycup inside out, which is significantly larger but also wider.
although the dimensions are the same, a large fleurcup might be a much better choice because its shape is completely different. it's also much softer. i recommend trying it out even if you're worried that it won't work.

i also have an extremely low cervix, but the slight sticking out doesn't bother me really. i use really soft cups, so maybe that's the reason? i can fill them only by 1/3 before they leak though (lasts me 12+ hours so it's ok too).

the melunas do seem like a great choice at least for your light days, but i really recommend trying out the fleurcup first. if it doesn't work the next step would be a juju, as it's shorter than the fleurcup/lunette but has a better capacity than the meluna.

the cups i have are: small lunette, large ladycup, medium meluna "mini", small meluna. i prefer them all inside out but the new style meluna presses on my rectum inside out, it's fine otherwise so it's the only one i wear right side out.but as i said i don't need a lot of capacity. i suspect my highest capacity option is the small lunette, i don't recommend it to you though. if anything, better take advantage of the large+small fleurcup offer. i've got an impression that despite the similarities, a small fleurcup is a better choice for superlow cervix, again due to the shape. tbh i dislike things from france, but even despite this i had practically made up my mind to get one, when suddenly the new melunas came out and i could try out the same shape easier.

"I could feel it all of the time and it left me checking and emptying it very often because of that."
btw i think it was a huge part of the problem, that you can feel it and can't just leave it alone. i've recently noticed that it's best for me not to go to the loo for like half an hour after inserting the cup (any). a cup will be at its lowest when i sit on the toilet, so if i go immediately after inserting, it might fail to settle correctly into place, as "high" as it can.
Darling Nikkijessiebanana on April 25th, 2012 12:33 am (UTC)
Personally I can't handle the sticking out feeling. It really bothers me, so I understand what's she's saying and my MeLunas were both soft. I think the tapered shape helps with it not feeling as uncomfortable towards the entrance.

I agree about the wider cup part. It's a difficult position to be in to have a low cervix and a heavy flow.
Arrow_Brightarrow_bright on April 25th, 2012 12:25 am (UTC)
Definitely try to find your cervix and look at the charts linked above. From what I've read of others' comments, a wider cup can be good for a dangley cervix because it can circle around it more easily.

If you can't find your cervix, what you might also try is to measure your cup length when inside out and subtract about half an inch (or however much it sicks out) and use that as a reference for length. It won't say exactly what length you need, but it will give an estimate of the maximum.