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I am so determined to love my DivaCup but I just cannot seem to get it to work.  It's beyond frustrating.  :D  I feel like I've got it in well, I understand how it works, I've got good suction and have tried different folds.  But it always leaks.  This is the fourth month that I've given it a go--and no luck.  So--maybe someone here can help me. 

I'm not even sure exactly where it is supposed to lie.  On the picture in the insert the cervix looks really high, but from what I've read a lot of people have the cup actually around the cervix.  Maybe my cervix is uber low--I'm not sure.  But when I insert the cup and everything seems good, if I move my finger around the rim, I can feel that my cervix lies just under  the bottom of the edge.  I'm assuming that this is why I'm having leaks.  But it seems almost impossible for me to position the cup so that my cervix is in the cup.  If I aim really low for my cervix, I think that I can get it covered properly--but it's really uncomfortable.  It feels like it's pushing up against my rectum and even hurts sometimes.  And then the stem is pointing directly at the wall in front of me.  So it's like completely horizontal.  Does this make sense? 

So.  I would love some thoughts.  I've thought about exploring a different cup...but I don't really see how that would help, as I can't seem to get it positioned properly. 

I'll take any advice you've got for me.  I really want this to work!!!  Thanks!
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 23rd, 2012 08:43 pm (UTC)
Flip your Diva inside out to shorten it. See how it works for you that way.
siriuseyes on April 24th, 2012 12:08 pm (UTC)
Thank you! This was very helpful. I never would have thought to flip it inside out!
Darling Nikkijessiebanana on April 23rd, 2012 11:05 pm (UTC)
Ugh, I'm sorry, I must have missed the part about you being unable to push the cup up. It sounds like you need a shorter cup and possibly a softer one if you can feel it inside.

I'm not clear how your getting you cup to sit sideways though. The should be sitting fairly horizontal since your vagina goes back and not up. It sounds like you may be trying to hard to force your cup up, instead of back, and getting the stem squished against your rectum that way.

It might help if you try lying on your back until you get the positioning right and then try placing it sitting up.

Edited at 2012-04-24 06:05 am (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 24th, 2012 12:05 pm (UTC)
Great advice, inserting lying down was the easiest for me at first. And yes, aim for your lower back !
siriuseyes on April 24th, 2012 12:07 pm (UTC)
Thanks! I'll try lying down. I think I'm just not feeling it properly. trial and error, I suppose...
Arrow_Bright: Sara Stanleyarrow_bright on April 23rd, 2012 11:40 pm (UTC)
Yeah...the diagrams that are provided with cups are generally useless as far as actual positioning and sizing goes.

Like kuradi8 said, try flipping it inside out. That seems to help a lot of people when it's too long.

It sounds like the main problem is length, which is the key issue with cups (most everything else is personal preference). If you end up wanting to try a different cup, you're in luck because I think almost every other cup available is shorter than the Diva. A shorter cup would probably help with positioning. Find your cervix on your period and determine whether it's high, low, or in-between. Then check out sizecharts, and see which cups might work for you.
siriuseyes on April 24th, 2012 12:06 pm (UTC)
I really appreciate all the advice. I tried once yesterday with it inside out. And I do think it helped a lot...but I'm still not sure I'm getting it positioned right. I'm going to try inserting it in some different positions and see if that helps. I also talked to one of my friends who sells cups...and I think I'm going to try a meluna....we'll see how today goes.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 24th, 2012 01:00 pm (UTC)
DO NOT buy a new cup yet. Get through the dreaded learning curve and also get to know your Diva well first. Figure out what you like (and don't) about it. Then use that information to start shopping for another cup.

Get comfortable with popping open, with removal and insertion, and even with public restrooms before you part with more pesos. Use that time to get familiar with all the size, capacity and squishy-ness charts. And also side by side comparison photos because shape plays a role as well. Don't GUESS and HOPE that your next cup will fit. Make a confident educated decision.
Arrow_Bright: Sara Stanleyarrow_bright on April 24th, 2012 04:24 pm (UTC)
This. If turning your Diva inside out gets it to fit comfortably, definitely keep at it through the learning curve. It's a lot easier to pick a second cup after you know what issues you have with a cup. Aside from length, mostly every other cup characteristic is personal preference, and you won't really know your preferences until you try a cup.
siriuseyes on April 25th, 2012 07:13 pm (UTC)
Well... I tried a few different things and at the end of the day yesterday I thought I really had it in well. I had less leaking than usual...but still had some leaks. Progress? Seems like when I really get frustrated, then my period's over and I have to wait another month to get it figured out. I think I'm just baffled at getting your cervix in the cup. Mine is more to the left and it's back so far, that I can get to the side closest to the opening, but the far side is close up to the vaginal wall...and I really don't see how I could get the cup around there. Maybe it's angled kind of funny? Does that make sense at all?