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htebazile10
21 April 2012 @ 01:01 pm
I am 16 and a virgin and I used to have a Divacup. Somehow I lost it, and finally repurchased one a couple months ago. I haven't been using it primarily because I've been having trouble with removal. I have a pretty high cervix sometimes, and when I reach in to get it with my thumb and index finger, I find how my index finger HAS to bend and it stretches a certain part of my vagina on the outside. If you look at this picture(diagram of a vagina, not school/work appropriate):

http://img.medscape.com/pi/emed/ckb/obstetrics_gynecology/252558-270286-4027.jpg



The part that gets stretched and usually end up even tearing a little on the inside is what looks like the hymenal caruncle. It's not my hymen though.

The only way I can reach in to get the cup is to turn my fingers side ways so my thumb and index finger are parallel to my legs. The problem is that it makes it difficult to reach the cup. I've tried bearing down so I can get it lower to make it more comfortable, but it takes a while and is a little annoying to have to bear down for 30 seconds before I take it out every time I want to remove it. Has anyone else had this problem? Advice?
Thanks!
 
 
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Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 21st, 2012 05:21 pm (UTC)
please put the picture under a cut and say it's not safe for work/school.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 21st, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC)
Yeah ! definitely. Not that I mind, but people may be looking over my shoulder !
htebazile10htebazile10 on April 21st, 2012 05:31 pm (UTC)
I'm so sorry!!! I'm new, I fixed it though.
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juliiie87juliiie87 on April 21st, 2012 05:24 pm (UTC)
I don't really have a problem with removal since my cup sits at a convenient distance to my opening (it's long enough for me), but I dont think bearing down for 30 s. is that long if you really have a high cervix. On the other hand, you don't necessarily need to use your thumb to bring the cup lower at first. Some people do just fine by sliding their longest finger up next to the cup, possibly all the way to the rim, pressing the cup inwards and dragging it out squished in half in a "hot dog in a bun" fashion. You can even use your fingernail to get a hold of the cup. then when it's lower, use just the tip of your thumb to grab it out.
htebazile10htebazile10 on April 21st, 2012 05:33 pm (UTC)
See usually it's so high that I can only touch the stem, so I have to use my thumb in order to get it. That's a good idea though to grab it with one finger once it's reachable, I'll try that.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 21st, 2012 05:37 pm (UTC)
Then bearing down (it does take some time and practice) is probably your best bet to avoid pain. There seems to be many people in your situation, using the Diva which is the longest cup, but finding the stem too short for them. Just fyi there are cups that are longer in total. But usually people get better and faster at bearing down over time.
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htebazile10htebazile10 on April 22nd, 2012 12:02 am (UTC)
I just bought some lube and just tried this(using one finger to pull it down) and it worked so well! No pain at all. It hurt a little on my cervix to try to get my finger over the rim but it pulled out without any pain at all. Usually I have to re-fold it, which makes it spill, but this is so much easier because I'm all ready kind of holding it. My period is going to start sometime in the next day or two, so I'm wearing it just in case so I can't be positive but I'm pretty sure this will solve the whole spilling all over my hand dilemma. Thank you!!!!
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Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on April 21st, 2012 05:34 pm (UTC)
why are you sure it's not your hymen? it's not an either/or thing, either intact or torn. afaiu many hymens are only completely torn during childbirth, before that there's something remaining.
i, for example, still had a hymen when i started using cups. within a couple of months i switched to a LARGE LADYCUP which is pretty wide. i had no problems and my hymen was still there. and then half a year later i inserted my SMALL lunette off my period, for fun so to say.. i no longer bothered to insert slowly and carefully and i ended up tearing a bit of my hymen and there was blood. then almost a year later i got some vaginal balls, they're about 3cm in diameter. turned out i still had a lot of my hymen left and there was blood the first 2-3 times i used them.

try stretching your hymen and make sure to relax. also, you can fold your cup partially when you remove it or just tilt it out, one side at a time. see this video, hope it helps. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qLPBZz3uJEg

this will get easier as you get used to your cup:)))
htebazile10htebazile10 on April 21st, 2012 05:41 pm (UTC)
My hymen is more inside my vagina a little. I can feel it. It's about 1/4 into my vagina. It's hard to explain. Like if you feel in between your anus and vagina where the skin is and move your finger towards your vagina until the skin stops, that's where it tears. I'm on accutane which dries out everything basically. For example it hurts to go #2 because it's so dry(Sorry if that's TMI). Do you think that could be why it's tearing and hurting, because it's dry?
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Ashatenlegspider on April 21st, 2012 05:35 pm (UTC)
Why shouldn't it be your hymen? You can have more than one bit.

The only thing I can think of is to put a bit of lube on the area, since that often helps to avoid tearing. It might not be that practical to do all the time, but if it makes things go easier now you might find that after a while it's ok without the lube as your technique improves and/or your hymen (if that's what it is) stretches.

(On the guys/girls, not everyone who has a vagina considers themselves female, so community policy is to avoid gendered language.)
htebazile10htebazile10 on April 21st, 2012 05:46 pm (UTC)
My hymen is more inside my vagina a little. I can feel it. It's about 1/4 into my vagina. It's hard to explain. Like if you feel in between your anus and vagina where the skin is and move your finger towards your vagina until the skin stops, that's where it tears. I'll try that!

I edited it. Sorry, I'm new and I didn't think about that.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on April 21st, 2012 05:40 pm (UTC)
mod note
Hi! According to our community rules, we ask that you don't use any gendered language (including both "guys" and "girls"). For an explanation of why, please see this post. Please edit your post to remove the gendered language. Thanks!
htebazile10htebazile10 on April 21st, 2012 05:44 pm (UTC)
Re: mod note
I apologize, I didn't mean to offend.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on April 21st, 2012 05:45 pm (UTC)
Re: mod note
No offense taken! It's just something that we do to make sure the community is inclusive and welcoming as possible for everyone we can reach. Thank you for editing.
pineapplewhippineapplewhip on December 20th, 2013 12:00 am (UTC)
bell shaped cup.
I saw Bree on YouTube say MeLuna (not soft) or sm lunette is best for virgins.