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05 April 2012 @ 09:34 pm
Okay, I'm a short time lurker and first time poster here.  This community is so reassuring and frankly, inspiring, but I need HELP.  Stats!  Sexually active, under 30 with child, using #2 Diva cup.  I  am currently in the midst of the first cycle since I had my baby.  I bought my cup while I was pregnant because I figured I wouldn't have the leftover brain power to worry/deal with the hassle of my menses when I got them back.  AND LO.  I do not.  Tampons?  Pads?  I super hate all this BS.  

So I read the instructions and did my best to insert my cup.  I was surprised how quickly it worked!  It popped while I was putting it in the first time, and seemed to settle itself (I tried to do the whole 360 degree turning thing, but couldn't get a good grip) inside my body.  There was some minor cramping, but nothing serious.  It felt, well, great.  I sort of fell in love immediately.  I felt secure, and there were NO leaks.  I slept with it with no issue, woke up to a clean panty liner.  Yay!  And then, I tried to get it out.

And tried.  And tried.

I reread the instructions.  I squatted.  I pushed, I gripped, but the thing is damn slippery.  Also, I could barely get a hold of it.  It felt like it was way up there and not really super near to the edge of my vagina like it's supposed to be.  Even with my longest finger, I couldn't get it.  Finally, because I was panicking and my husband had to go to work, he fished it out.  But even he had trouble, and I had to lie down in the tub for him to get it out (we tried standing up, but he couldn't get at it either).

I was devastated.  For the next day, questions rolled through my mind.  Did I put it in wrong?  Should I have tried to keep it closer to the entrance of the vagina?  Is my canal super long?  I have never found my cervix, and neither has (ahem) my  husband.  But I am also determined.  I did pads/tampons for a day and wanted to kill myself.  I have an 8 month old.  I can't deal with that and a more than a week (yes, eight goddamn days) of this every month.  I missed the cup even though I'd only tried it once.  So I asked my husband if he would (ahem) support me if I put this thing inside me again and couldn't get it out and he said of course (he is super supportive, even though I know this time of the month is something that skeeves him out a bit).

So it's back in.  Like, right now.  It feels great.  I also feel like my body just sucks it in and positions it itself no matter what I do, so trying to keep it closer to the entrance didn't work.  I tried  to see if I could get it out myself about a half hour later and all I got was a pained wrist and no cup.  I just can't seem to get in there far enough to grab it.  In 11 hours, I have to get it out again and I don't know what I'm going to doooooo waaaah, first world problems a bloo bloo.  Please help me.

TTYL because ZOMG WHY DID I WRITE A NOVEL ABOUT A FEMININE DEVICE: I can't get this thing out, what am I doing wrong. 
acat112233acat112233 on April 6th, 2012 06:18 am (UTC)
^^^agree with everyone above
I second all the great advice given here!

I managed to lose the mooncup (I have both the US, UK versions. The same problem with both!) in my vagina. I spent over 45 min trying to yank it out. I was so panicked I almost gave up and went to the clinic to have it removed :D . What ended up working for me:

1) I had to squat to move the cup lower.
2) Bear down, relax, but don't allow the cup to creep back up.
3) If you find the cup/stem to be too slippery, dry your fingers off occasionally. (Melissa of Zanashop gives this great piece of advice in her review for the Lady Cup right before the 2:00 mark http://menstrualcupinfo.wordpress.com/ladycup-review-with-photos/)
4) This job required two hands. I had to keep alternating when one hand cramped up/got tired. Also, it helped me break the seal (one hand grasping the stem, I used a finger from the free hand to dent the side into the "hot dog bun" shape :D)

It got easier, but I didn't like having to use two hands or having to dig so much. After that experience, I decided I needed a different stem type and went with MeLuna's ring stemmed cups. I'm also going to give the Si-Bell cup a try.

Hope this helps, good luck! It will get better! :)