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31 March 2012 @ 10:22 pm
Okay, so hello everyone! I don't usually use livejournal, but my account worked nicely for being able to post on here. I apologize if the cut doesn't work, since I'm not familiar with lj much. Anyway. During my last cycle, I decided to try tampons for the first time, since our prom is in the WI Dells, and well, it would involve swimming. I'm 19, a virgin, and never stuck anything up there before. It took me a few tries, but I finally got the tampon in and was so happy (because OMG I DO have a vagina LOL). I had to pull it out though because I could feel it, so I obviously didn't put it in right. But that didn't matter much overall, I was just happy I could use it if I wanted to. 

EDIT: Got it in today (the first day of my period) :D Thanks for all the advice everyone!

The real problem here was I didn't like the idea of tampons, AT ALL. The whole shoving a piece of bleached 'cotton' up there didn't sit well with me. It seemed like a breeding ground for bad things, and the raised risk of TSS thing scared me. I've used pads forever, and I hate them since I always leak (I have a fairly heavy flow) and the smell, and sitting in your own blood didn't make me a fan. 

So I found cups! I was really excited, since it seemed they had the advantages of a large tampon's capacity, without the bigger risk of TSS. And I could move with it in. Plus, the potential to get rid of cramps appealed, since I've had them so bad I've ended up in the ER and vomiting when I try to get up (or move or breathe). Mom wasn't too sold on the idea, since she didn't think it was very hygienic, to which I rolled my eyes because like pads and tampons are? And it's my body, and the idea didn't bother me at all. So, after some research on here, I went with my gut feeling, and got a small Lunette Selene. It came in the mail today and I was so excited, since my period is due either tomorrow, or Monday. Just in time. 

I decided to take it for a spin. Two sessions, and a painful and sore bottom later, I'm somewhat at a loss. I've read through practically the whole insertion tag for painful problems, tried different folds, lube, took breaks, relaxed, used different positions, everything. I got it the most far in using the punchdown fold, which I like a lot, but I still couldn't get it all the way in due to the pain. Any advice would be helpful. Because I really want to use the darn thing, but it's frustrating when it's just pain for me, and others seem to slip it in no problem. Should I wait until I actually get my period to try it? I didn't think it would matter much, since it's so close anyway. 

Current Mood: irritatedirritated
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on April 1st, 2012 03:52 am (UTC)
First off, I just want to say that I totally relate to your "OMG I DO have a vagina" revelation upon inserting a tampon, because I remember thinking almost the exact same thing the first time I inserted one too! I couldn't believe that there was a place for that thing to go into...

But on to your problem: I came to menstrual cups much later in life than you, and after having been an applicator-less tampon user for almost twenty years, so I think I was somewhat more comfortable inserting stuff up inside myself than you are. Have you stuck a finger inside your vagina yet? Have you felt around for your cervix? I know everyone's path to cup use is different, but I can't imagine attempting to insert one if I weren't already comfortable with poking my finger around there a bit and getting a general "lay of the land" as it were. Anyway, that's my advice: start with a clean finger and work your way up from there.

And yes: in my opinion, it's much easier to insert a cup when it's your actual period because your vagina produces more natural lubricant during menses than at other times. Don't despair!
anathemacrowley on April 1st, 2012 04:09 am (UTC)
Heh, I found it so funny that I was so happy being able to put a tampon in somewhere! :D Glad I wasn't the only one haha.

I have explored myself. After getting the tampon in the first time, I took the time to use a finger and just feel around. It was a little bloody, but I didn't mind that at all. Just more lube for me! :) I can fairly comfortably insert two fingers too. I wasn't thinking much about looking specifically for my cervix, though I have lately now that I have the cup. I found it too. About 1 1/2-2 inches up I'd say. Not sure if that's considered low or average.

I may just wait for my period then, since it's probably only going to be a day or two. I know blood works as a fairly good lube, and I remember it seemed like my vagina was looser so to speak when I was on my period. I'm hopeful I'll get it in eventually. :D The learning curve can be quite steep as I understand it.
juliiie87juliiie87 on April 1st, 2012 07:31 am (UTC)
Congratulations on getting a cup !

It may take you a little more practice to get it right, but virgins have been successful too ! The main thing is to relax, I know, easier said then done. Position also makes a lot of difference : for me, lying on my back, in a "birthing position" (in the privacy of my bedroom) made everything so much more relaxed. Others swear by sitting on the toilet. You may want to get some water based lube to ease up insertion. Being on your period or even just water can help ease it in too.

And most importantly, go to the community faqs tag and look for the virgin's guide to cups, it should provide you with everything you need to know. Good luck !
anathemacrowley on April 2nd, 2012 05:02 pm (UTC)
Thanks :D

Well, I got it in! I was so happy haha. It hurt putting it in at first, though I think that was just because the area was a little irritated. But, once it fell in to place I guess you could say, I couldn't feel it anymore! So that was nice. Right now the stem is bothering me the most, but I'm not going to cut it off since I have a feeling I will need it for a while just to get used to the cup and for peace of mind. But anyway, sitting on the toilet worked fine for me :D

Now, the next hurdle is removal haha. I'm going to try in a few hours and see how that goes.
m03m on April 1st, 2012 08:54 am (UTC)
I had to pull it out though because I could feel it, so I obviously didn't put it in right.

Not all that obvious to me. Many first time users feel their tampons, simply because they're not used to something being in there.

Good luck with your cup, and yes, being actually on your period may very well make all the difference you need.
anathemacrowley on April 2nd, 2012 05:04 pm (UTC)
Heh, yeah it might have been in the right place. I'd never used one before, and I always thought that if you feel it, it's not in right. But you're probably right! I just wasn't used to something in there.

And thank you! I started my period today, and got it in, so that does seem like it made all the difference. :)
m03m on April 2nd, 2012 09:10 pm (UTC)
That's good news! Congratulations on a big step towards being a cup pro :-)
pinkmathpinkmath on April 1st, 2012 07:17 pm (UTC)
I completely and utterly suggest waiting until your period starts.

Most people find the while on their period their vaginas are very different. I describe mine as more 'loose' it's more of a texture thing... I think. It's just different and easier (for me and most others.)

It took me six months to figure out the correct insertion angle that didn't cause me pain. Plus folds, lube (2yrs later I still use the lube), took breaks, relaxed, different positions, etc.
anathemacrowley on April 2nd, 2012 05:08 pm (UTC)
I did, and yay! I got it in. Took me a bit, but I didn't mind. I knew there'd be a leaning curve.

Mine does seem to be more loose, or relaxed I guess, now that I'm on my period. I noticed it last time too, so it did seem like it was a lot easier.

I have a feeling it'll take me a while to figure out my correct insertion angle too. That's the worst part (so far).

Edited at 2012-04-02 05:09 pm (UTC)
okwaho_okaraokwaho_okara on April 2nd, 2012 10:14 pm (UTC)
Congrats on getting the cup in successfully! I had a bit of a hard time at first too, but I finally got it in while sitting on the toilet & then three days later I was able to get it in while squatting on the floor & hopefully that'll be the case for my next period as well! (Only one period with my cup so far).

Just curious, what kind of a cup did you get?
anathemacrowley on April 2nd, 2012 11:28 pm (UTC)
:D Thanks! Right now I think my biggest hurdle is still figuring out the right angle I should use, but I have the time to practice! A whole week of it haha.

I got a small Lunette Selene. I just kinda went with my gut, and apparently that was the right thing to do :)
okwaho_okaraokwaho_okara on April 2nd, 2012 11:55 pm (UTC)
You're welcome! Yeah, it takes a bit! It took me a good 3-4 days to really get the hang of it but I'm sure I will continue to learn things about using my cup during my next few cycles :)

Nice! I was debating between a Lunette, a MeLuna, and a Fleurcup. I was torn but finally decided on the Fleur since it seemed like that would be the best fit for my body & needs. Turns out I was right! I love my Fleurcup :)