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27 March 2012 @ 11:04 pm
I'm 16, a virgin and have used tampons. i am comfortable with tampons, however, i have a hard time inserting them all the way without any pain. as far as locating my cervix im not sure exactly how to do that and i am definitely not comfortable with the idea of masturbation to find it since it goes against my faith. how exactly would i do that? i am really intrigued with the idea of using a cup and the fact that it can help with cramps sounds awesome since i sometimes have really bad ones. my period does not last that long and the second day is usually the heaviest with me needing tochange my tampon in as little as every three or four hours. i'm five foot seven and around 125 pounds. so any and all advice would be appreciated. i also don't have a lot of money to try numerous cups.
pinkmathpinkmath on March 28th, 2012 03:26 am (UTC)
Hey I was in the same boat 3 years ago! :D Minus the fact I've never used a tampon. I too was not comfortable with masturbation due to my faith.

I bought my first cup without checking for my cervix. And I found that on my 1st and 3rd days of my period my small Keeper Moon Cup hurt me. (The pain was not it a "I'm never going to use a cup again" pain more of a *cramp* "ow" *cramp* "ow" *cramp* "sigh" kinda way. If that makes sense.)

Four periods later, I was curious why my cup hurt on my 1st day so in the shower I inserted my middle finger into my vagina (no masturbation needed due to all the period blood). I managed to brush my cervix with the tip of my middle finger and got a similar "hurting" sensation. I wouldn't qualify that as masturbation more as a useful learning experience kinda like brushing you tongue too far back and hitting you gag reflex. But! To each there own. :)
Melon the Sleepermelonaise on March 28th, 2012 03:33 am (UTC)
You don't necessarily need to find your cervix to use a cup, but you will need to be able to stick your fingers in about that far to insert/remove (unless you have a super high cervix), so it's not a bad idea to try to find it.

If you imagine your vaginal canal, call the side that's closest to your bladder the "front" and the side that's closest to your rectum the "back." For a lot of people, the cervix is actually on the front side, not at the "top" of the canal. So when you slide in one or two fingers, track them along that front side. It won't be perfectly smooth, but if you suddenly feel something lumpy and a mix of soft/firm (like the end of your nose), that's your cervix. You might want to find something to slick your fingers with, just don't use soap.

Inserting your fingers isn't masturbation anymore than what a gynecologist does is sex. Just don't do any rhythmic in/out motion or stimulate your clitoris, and you'll be safely on the necessity side of the pleasure/necessity fence.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 28th, 2012 01:16 pm (UTC)
All of this. Inserting one of your fingers for scientific purpose, which is really just getting to know your anatomy, (or two fingers, which you'll have to do to remove your cup) isn't masturbation, simply because masturbation means giving yourself sexual pleasure. Which you don't need to insert anything to do, by the way.

If you couldn't insert tampons all the way, it may be either because your bleeding was light so the tampon couldn't slide in easily OR because your cervix sits low and was getting in the way. Cups happen to "fix" both issues, aren't they awesome ?

If your cervix sits low(the little round nub where the blood comes from, and your vagina ends), then you won't have to reach far in. And you'll most likely need a shorter cup (NOT a Diva cup).
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 28th, 2012 12:12 pm (UTC)
External dimensions have little/nothing to do with internal ones.

Since you're a virgin, a narrow to medium cup will probably fit you best.

Next period, reach in to feel how long your vagina is. If you can reach the end (not necessarily your cervix) easily, it's on the short side. If you have to reach really deep or still can't reach it, it's long. That's probably your most important measurement. Once you know that, then check the various size charts at the Community FAQ, eliminate the ones you don't think will fit and go with your gut from the ones that remain.

It's not an exact science but getting into the right ball park will increase your chances of success greatly.
Arrow_Bright: Green Gablesarrow_bright on March 28th, 2012 05:57 pm (UTC)
Masturbation is only recommended as a way to relax your muscles and is not needed to find your cervix, etc. Also, you might find The Virgin's Guide to Cups helpful: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/1243131.html
margar02margar02 on March 30th, 2012 05:15 am (UTC)
Hi! I just wanted to chime in on the "masturbation" issue- inserting a finger to determine how your internal structure is situated is NOT masturbation. Masturbation is supposed to produce sexual pleasure. Your body is yours alone, and you have every right to understand how it is comprised. The intent behind the action is what matters. You're not inserting a finger to get pleasure, you're doing it to determine how long your vagina is, and where your cervix is positioned. As another commenter said, putting a finder or two inside to understand your anatomy is no more masturbation than what your gynecologist does is sex. It is for a medical reason. Remember- your body is a temple and taking care of it and loving/understanding it is your god-given right!
Good luck, friend <3