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18 March 2012 @ 08:15 pm
I tried the divacup and I told my mom about them, how convenient they are, hold a lot of fluid, etc... but she still likes her pads.   Any ideas on which cup would be best suited for her?
~Castiel~thusbands on March 19th, 2012 01:41 am (UTC)
We need a little more info and even then it will just be suggestions. She's the only one that will know which one works. You can look at the size charts to figure out which one holds the most.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 19th, 2012 01:51 am (UTC)
Melissa's videos helped me most with convincing my mum. And my own success and satisfaction, of course.
I do kinda pity those that use pads and tampons, especially those who don't even know about cups... but in the end it's a personal choice. If ecology is important for you and your family, appeal to that. Otherwise... if she's really 100% satisfied with pads, just let her use them. If not, she may well make up her mind eventually. My mum did:)

Edited at 2012-03-19 01:51 am (UTC)
melissa569melissa569 on March 19th, 2012 04:41 am (UTC)
Amen! My mom freaked out when she first heard about cups and now she is my biggest supporter.

As for getting someone a surprise gift... I'm not a big fan of that approach with cups. I always say a menstrual cup is like a puppy:

Unless a person has been asking for one (and is very specific in their request), its better to let them make the actual choice to get one, and either buy it themselves, or be with you when you buy it for them. Its just something that is very individual, and a person has to be ready for it.

Maybe you could start with the idea of cloth pads, and then move up to a cup? Just for the "reusable" aspect. Then later, suggest something internal like a cup.

And I agree, reading reviews, watching videos, etc.-- it does help a person get to know more about them, and become more comfortable with them.

As for heavy flow, there are some great ones out there. Large Yuuki, Large Lunette, Large and X-large Meluna, Fleurcup, Si-Bell, etc. Hopefully she can maybe read all this and do some research if she gets curious.

Edited at 2012-03-19 04:45 am (UTC)
fee_parisienne on March 19th, 2012 01:57 am (UTC)
None, if she really prefers pads. Your mom is a grownup, she can decide for herself what she would like to use.

The other thing that occurred to me while reading this post is that the Diva cup, while easily available in the U.S., is quite a long cup and won't work well for everybody. I feel like there have been quite a few posts in this community by new users who find that the bottom of the cup sticks out or it leaks all the time because the rim has gone past/to the side of their cervix. I would kind of hesitate to recommend the Diva cup to a new "cup convert" because of its specialized shape, although I admit it would be pretty hard to find a "universal cup" that will work like a charm for everybody! It's quite an individual thing, your cup has to suit your own internal size and shape.
moonhoney925 on March 19th, 2012 03:27 am (UTC)
I would not rush into recommending a cup unless you know about her periods.

I do agree with the other posters, show her some youtube videos first. She is an adult so you cannot force her to use a cup but you can educate her about them.

However, IMHO if she is happy with her pads then I think it would be unlikely she'd want to change. I would think that convincing a tampon user to try a cup would be easier- but that's just me.
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 19th, 2012 08:25 am (UTC)
depends on the reason why you don't use tampons. i just hate the idea of absorbing, while the internal factor itself didn't really matter. if one prefers pads due to having a light flow, chances are they'll like cups if they are active and just hate the drying out.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 19th, 2012 12:50 pm (UTC)
Which cup would suit her best? The one that fits her best. There are several posts with size charts at the Community FAQ. The Diva is the longest of all the brands and doesn't necessarily fit everyone (especially with childbearing or age related prolapse) so despite how you like yours, don't necessarily push that brand.