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daniellebee88
13 March 2012 @ 11:02 am
Hello :)

So I by a stroke of luck found this forum...and about the usefulness of menstrual cups.  I've been debating on using one for quite some time...but I am not truly sure which one to get...?  I'm 23, still a virgin, but I've been using tampons for years.  They just leave me dry and sore though after my period so I'm sticking back to pads until I start doing the 4 periods a year plan this summer. 

But I've been super intrigued by this idea of menstrual cups...my mother thinks its gross, but I'm all for using something a lot more friendly to the environment...

my only concern is, I'm worried about maybe what cup will be best for me?  Yearly exams are sometimes painful for me, but just with the speculum (sorry if that's TMI) part.  The rest of the exam is fine and i have never had any problems with getting fingers (more than one) up inside me (again, sorry if TMI).

Any virgin cup users out there who have any advice for me?  I've been looking and debating between the Diva Cup and Lady Cup...but leaning more towards the Diva Cup since it's FDA approved and sold in the US (I've somewhat cautious about overseas products sometimes). 

Any advice would be much appreciated :) 
 
 
Current Mood: determineddetermined
 
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 13th, 2012 03:18 pm (UTC)
Go to the Community FAQ and scroll down to "The Virgin's Guide to Cups." The post and its replies have some really good advice and insight.

While you're at the FAQ, also check out the various posts that have size and capacity charts to figure out which brands of cups might fit and suit you best. Eliminate the ones that you don't think will fit, then use size, shape, capacity, "squishy-ness" and gut feeling to pick from those that remain.

As for US FDA approval, that doesn't make a cup "better." It just means that they have applied for permission to be sold here in the US. All non-FDA cups can still be imported for personal use -- but not for retail sale.
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 13th, 2012 03:21 pm (UTC)
oh I see! thank you for explaining the FDA meaning! I will look into the chart and sizes :) I've only heard good things about the Diva Cup but I've heard that the LadyCup might be better for a small person like me...
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gkathi on March 13th, 2012 09:48 pm (UTC)
sure, it seems conveniant to get a diva cup bc you can buy it at earth fare for example but considering what you wrote it might not be the best choice. so dont hestitate to just order a european product!
i understand that you looked at meluna? i really like my soft meluna although it doesnt really pop open by itself but it is totally manageable and i actually like that because it enables me to position it exactly where i want it and then make it pop open. whereas for example my fleurcup pretty much pops open as soon as i loose grip of the rim.
just one little thing: definitely dont get a small one! the medium is already smaller than most other brand's small size.
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 13th, 2012 11:14 pm (UTC)
I am looking at Meluna because i like the idea of the different types of stems. But I'm also feeling a "gut feeling" of going with the Lunette small cup because it seems a bit more "narrow" and I am definitely narrow in that region of my body.

Thanks for the advice though! I appreciate it! I saw the small MeLuna and did notice it was extremely small!
ElianaOpal: self portraitopal581 on March 13th, 2012 09:56 pm (UTC)
I am a new cup user- I just finished may first cycle with the fleurcup. Somehow it seemed like a good choice for my desire for comfort and capacity with a low cervix. I've never ordered anything from overseas before (I'm in the US) and it arrived in under a week. I also found it much less icky than tampons. Best wishes in your cup shopping.
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 13th, 2012 11:16 pm (UTC)
Thank you! :)

I've had problems with tampons every since I was 15. I didn't even want to use them, but didn't have much of a choice with how busy I always was. But recently they've caused such a problem and the plastic applicators just irritate me to no end! and the tampon itself...

I think the Lunette is like the Fleurcup...so I'm thinking of leaning towards that style :)
okwaho_okaraokwaho_okara on March 14th, 2012 11:57 pm (UTC)
I am in the US as well and I just ordered a small and large Fleurcup! I am anxious to receive it, I think it'll be in tomorrow - & start my next period with it! :)

I'm glad to hear that you like yours!
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Summers0mmer on March 13th, 2012 10:26 pm (UTC)
A far as FDA approval, most European countries have stricter/saner laws than the US. Cups are almost all made of silicone, so Diva=Fleur=MCUK etc. Meluna is TPE (fancy plastic) the Keeper is latex.
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 13th, 2012 11:25 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the clarification! I always get confused about overseas products and the FDA label.

I am assuming that all cups are used with a hypoallergenic material though? I'm staying away from the keeper in case I have a latex allergy - don't think I do - but seeing as how I have never had sex, then I have no idea really.
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Summers0mmer on March 14th, 2012 09:26 pm (UTC)
The medical grade silicone is hypoallergenic, and the TPE seems comparable. The cup is sitting on your skin (ie, sports mouth guard) not in your body (ie, breast implant). So the risk of irritation is much much lower. Silicone cups have been around for a long time, and with such a vocal user base we would have heard if there were problems.
mcg5222mcg5222 on March 13th, 2012 11:42 pm (UTC)
I was in the exact same boat as you are several months ago when I started looking at cups. I had no clue where my cervix was so I bought a diva because it was readily available. I didn't like it very much do I decided to buy a lunette. I also didn't like the lunette because I thought it was too tough to get in and take out. I finally got a small Si-bell which is absolutely perfect. It is not a big cup and has a nice long stem which is perfect for my high cervix. It can be easily trimmed as well if it's too long for you. It's also really soft and I never even feel it when it's in. I love it and definitely reccommend it.
Good luck!!!!
anh06005anh06005 on March 14th, 2012 04:08 am (UTC)
It sounds as if you are already leaning towards a cup. Once you do your research and look at pics, size charts, etc GO WITH YOUR GUT. I didn't and it took me a few tries to get it perfect. Turns out my gut feeling cup was my perfect one. </p>

My goldilocks cup is a small lunette which, as you have mentioned, isn't too long or short, soft or firm. It's just right for me but that doesn't guarantee it will be for you. And to be honest I havent check my cervix on my period or anything. I just went with a cup (large lunette rather than small for the capacity) and decided it was too firm. Got a softer cup (small ladycup) but capacity wasn't the greatest. Got a small yukki off eBay (cheap....VERY similar to lunette) but holes are tiny and I like color :) I won a small DivaCup in a contest (gave it away) and FINALLY got my small lunette Cynthia which I love! I also recently got a Selene on sale so now I have plenty of backup :)

daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 14th, 2012 02:40 pm (UTC)
So you really like the lunette huh?

My gut feeling has been telling me to go with that...even though it's a bit pricier (I've been leaning more towards the MeLuna because of the price point, but the Lunette seems to be what my gut is telling me lately)

I think my main problem is that I am just scared of buying one and wasting money. I'm a college student on a very tight budget and well, $30 here and there is just a lot of money to throw aside...I wish there were free samples! It'd make life a lot easier! haha
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moonhoney925 on March 15th, 2012 03:00 am (UTC)
I have a high cervix too and would definitely recommend the Fleurcup and Lunette. They both have a tab stem so they are easy to clean and if that causes discomfort you can always trim it. The stems help me out for removal- I can't feel them anyway so I have left mine intact on both cups. These two are the only cups I own.

You can purchase the Lunette cheaply from luneshop.com, shipping is free from the UK. Fleurcup had a discounted price for their items (EUR5,00 off) but I'm not sure if that special is still going.

I'm in Australia and both cups took about 2 weeks to arrive (my Fleurcup arrived a couple of days earlier than the Lunette) so being in North America it should not take as long.

Good luck.

Edited at 2012-03-15 03:01 am (UTC)
daniellebee88daniellebee88 on March 18th, 2012 12:34 am (UTC)
THANK YOU EVERYONE!
Thank you to EVERYONE who gave me advice on cups and how to find my cervix. I believe I FINALLY found it today and it's still pretty average to high (about 2in - 2.5 inches) and that's when I bear down with pelvic muscles - I assume it can't be much more.

Also, I've decided to go with buying a small fleurcup AND lunette! I am determined to use one or the other and I'm super excited! This cycle has been a pads only cycle and while it hasn't been AWFUL - it's not been great either. (thankfully it's over tomorrow!)

Again thank you to everyone who gave me all the advice and tips! I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes :) Having all of you here to give advice just makes this even less intimidating and less stressful :)

Edited at 2012-03-18 12:34 am (UTC)