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Hi all, I first want to say how deeply grateful I am that this community exists - it has so much great information, and I wouldn't have known anything other than the diva and mooncup existed without it!
I am fairly new to all of this, and am looking for some advice from anyone who feels they can give it. I'm looking for help in deciding which cup to buy.
I have the small diva cup, as that was the only one I knew existed when I bought it at a health food store over a year ago. I have a serious love/hate relationship with the diva cup. I love the idea of it, but have soo much trouble getting it in correctly. Once it's in, I don't really have any issues, no leaking or anything, it's just a matter of getting it in and having it unfold. I end up in the bathroom for 20minutes trying to insert and reinsert, and rewash the thing, with little success. It is amazing once it's in, I just get so frustrated with the whole process that I don't even bother.
After looking at a lot of posts on here, I have realized that the diva cup is the longest cup, and maybe it just isn't the right one for me. I tend to think I have a fairly regularly (not high, not low) placed cervix, but sometimes the diva will get lost up inside me, and I have to push and wait until I can reach it. Other times, the diva cup feels uncomfortable, like it's pressing into me too much. Maybe it's just a matter of proper insertion. It also sometimes feels like it's putting pressure on my bladder, but maybe I'm imagining that.
Anyways, I've decided to get a new cup, and I'm really unsure of which one to get, as I keep reading different things about the benefits and disadvantages of different aspects of them all.
Here's what I want/need from my cup: I don't like the idea of a plastic cup, and would really prefer to get one of the ones that is medical grade silicone (though I'm not totally clear on which ones are made out of what). I like the ball/ring stem that I've seen on the melunas, and am tempted towards getting a meluna, except that I think they might be made of plastic? It doesn't need to have a huge capacity, as I tend to have a medium flow on my first through third day, but after that am very light. I would just as soon have two different cups for the different stages of my period. So maybe one with a medium-large capacity, and one small. I never filled my diva cup even halfway, even when I would leave it in for 12 hours, so I really think a small-medium one will be fine.
I don't know whether to get a softer one or a stiffer one - diva tended to be sort of soft in my opinion, and I was fine with that.. I don't really know which is better as there are a lot of different opinions on that, though I do agree that a soft cup can become hard, but not the other way around. I guess I tend a little on the side of soft.
I need something that's sort of easy to insert/unfold, though maybe it's just a matter of me getting used to it.
Another thing I will say that I didn't like about the diva cup is that the holes are tiny, which makes it very hard to clean, and they get all clogged up very easily.
Thanks for any input or advice, I truly appreciate it, and hope I can do the same for someone else one day. :)

Another note: What do people think of the femmecup? I see they're having a half off sale tomorrow, so that could be good..
Current Mood: hopefulhopeful
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on March 7th, 2012 04:55 pm (UTC)
Head on over to the Community FAQ. There, you will find several posts with size and capacity charts, links to side by side comparison photos and even squishy-ness ratings.

Keepers are made of latex rubber, and MeLunas are made of TPE. All of the other cups are made of silicone.

Before you buy another cup... try enlarging the anti-suction holes around the rim of your Diva. They help a cup pop open. FYI, the holes in my Lunette are appx 1/16" or 1.5mm or a 13g body piercing tool. Also try flipping it inside out to shorten it on your low cervix days.

The Femmecup is different from your Diva. It has a narrow body with a thick flange at the rim. It is 45x50 whereas your Diva is 43x57.
juliiie87juliiie87 on March 7th, 2012 08:03 pm (UTC)
Just wanted to say that Naturcup has a ballstem and it's made of silicone - just like all of them except Meluna and Keeper.
Naturcup and Femmecup are both slightly softer than the Diva. But have a thorough look at the chart to determine which dimensions would be right for you.
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on March 7th, 2012 10:58 pm (UTC)
SheCup has a ballstem, too!
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on March 7th, 2012 09:47 pm (UTC)
http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2618390.html#cutid1 have you tried the tricks here for popping open?
if even your diva is sometimes hard to reach, i'd not recommend a femmecup. it's shiny-slippery and has a thin stem. perhaps you just need to flip your diva inside out on low cervix days? it's 51-52 mm long like this.
it doesn't sound like anything's particularly wrong between you and your diva, maybe it's almost ok but just not right? i think a similar cup should be good, don't go for anything too different.
your gut feeling is usually right:)
pinkmathpinkmath on March 8th, 2012 12:12 am (UTC)
Have you looked through pictures comparing the different cups?


I agree with serpent, sounds like you need something similar. NaturalMamma??? Look at the pictures and Go with your gut! :)
msmith1221msmith1221 on March 13th, 2012 02:21 am (UTC)
I just want to say that the Melunas are made out of TPE which is technically a plastic. But it's not like a barbie doll plastic. It feels like silicone but it's a good cup for those who are allergic to silicone and latex, I gave a Meluna to my cousin who is allergic to both silicone and latex. She loves that there is an option for her too. I have the same issue with my Diva cup, I just trimmed the stem and have noticed the improvement already. Have you trimmed the stem on your Diva cup? It might seem like a funny question. But if that little stem sticks out to far it can irritate the whole area, is what I found for myself.
ohletmeteluohletmetelu on March 20th, 2012 10:58 pm (UTC)
The Diva's tiny holes make it hard to pop open and that stabby little nub of a stem is pointless, imo. I have one and have had the same issues. It never leaks on me but takes forever to unfold because of the small holes.

Have you looked at the NaturalMamma cup in the size charts? It's made of medical grade silicone and has a comfortable tab-like stem. They're on Ebay for $20 shipped. I just got one and so far I really like it. It pops open easily even though its a softer cup and I can't feel it at all. I'm wearing it now :)
shump76shump76 on March 29th, 2012 04:40 pm (UTC)
I love my Femmecup, but serpent is right about it being shiny/slippery. I had a hard time getting it out sometimes, but no trouble getting it in. It doesn't have a huge capacity. I usually dump mine out 3 times a day (when I wake, mid-day-ish, and before bed). Honestly, though, if you want something easier to get out than your (longer!) Divacup, it's probably not the cup for you. My cervix goes from medium/lowish early in my period to waaaaay up high towards the end, and I do quite a bit of spelunking the last couple of days.