Log in

No account? Create an account
26 February 2012 @ 08:36 pm
Hi, I'm 15 and have recently been looking into getting my first cup. I've done my research, and a small Lady Cup looks like my best bet so far.

My only real concern is that my cervix sits really low during my period (appx. 45 mm to the bottom of my cervix, and that's being a bit generous). I know that this means I'll have to trim the stem off of whichever cup I get, but I know that a Lady Cup without the stem is 46 mm, and I understand that it's one of the narrowest/shortest on the market. Would that be uncomfortable even with the stem cut off?

I'm not concerned about capacity since my flow is really light - I only ever have to use light tampons, which can be a pain to find in stores.

Another (more minor) concern of mine is that I am a virgin with an intact hymen, so I assume that I should get a narrower one.

I love the idea of cups as they allow the freedom and comfort of tampons without the health risks and negative environmental impact, but I just don't know if wearing one would be logistically possible.
Ex astris, scientia.component on February 27th, 2012 06:15 am (UTC)
For me personally, my cervix moves a bit depending on the time of month. If I were you I would try measuring at different times a day a few times a week so you can get an idea of where your cervix is on most days. It may be further back or forward during your period. Also, I've noticed that the more I bear down, the closer my cervix moves to my opening. That's me personally, though. Sometimes my cervix is closer to the opening when my period first starts, and then it moves back again.

Depending on what your hymen is like you may or may not be able to use a cup. Some people have many small holes in their hymen, a couple of average holes, or maybe even one or two bigger holes, so that it would be less likely to break. If you are afraid of breaking your hymen you might want to just wait until later in life when you are sure it doesn't matter. Mine personally, I had only two small holes so I couldn't even use a tampon. It wasn't until I lost my vaginal virginity before I could even insert my finger into my vagina all the way.

I use a Ladycup as well and it is one of the smallest cups, but there are a couple of smaller brands. I mainly got the ladycup because it is reputed to be one of the softest cup, so it is very slippery. Keep this in mind because the slipperiness may affect your learning curve. When I was first trying mine, I had a very difficult time gripping it hard enough to pull it out, but I found that the slipperiness is also one of its advantages. For example, after I got used to using a Ladycup, I decided to try out a Lunnette. It is stiffer and has a different texture, so I found it a little more difficult to insert and spin, but I have gotten the hang of it, too.

Hope this sheds some light on your issues :)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 27th, 2012 09:15 am (UTC)
it's certainly possible. my cervix is much lower than this, 4-5 cm is pretty much how far i can reach at all!
yep, the ladycup is slippery. there are many small/soft cups nowadays.
even if you have a really light flow, if it's more than just spotting it might be better to get a cup with a better capacity. chances are your cervix will "steal" some of it.

"Would that be uncomfortable even with the stem cut off?"
shouldn't be, but it's not unheard of. some low-cervix folks find a more rounded shape more comfortable (like the fleurcup/new meluna). and you can also get a meluna basic if you don't want to worry about making the bottom smooth.
Serpentserpent_849 on February 27th, 2012 09:17 am (UTC)
and stretch your hymen while you're making your choice/waiting for your cup to arrive. i was also a virgin when i started, 19 though, and in a few weeks i went from 1 to three fingers :) after a cycle with a small lunette, i was able to use a large ladycup just fine:)
Ex astris, scientia.component on March 3rd, 2012 03:39 am (UTC)
Yes, when I was a virgin, I too was able to stretch my hymen to where I could eventually get my finger in without it breaking or tearing. If you dont want your hymen to break then I would highly suggest this. Just keep in mind that you could accidentally break it. If this is important to you then you might just want to wait :)
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 27th, 2012 01:53 pm (UTC)
If you haven't already, go to the Community FAQ. There are several posts there that have size and capacity charts so you can see the relative sizes of all of the cups. You will also find the Virgin's Guide to Cups there. Read that and all of the replies. GREAT information!

Once you get a cup, don't be in a rush to lop the stem off. You can always cut it shorter/off later but you can't put any back.

And as for width. The difference between the narrowest and widest cups is less than half an inch -- which is even less once folded for insertion or squished for removal. You don't necessarily have to go for the narrowest just because you're a virgin.

You've already eliminated those that you don't think will fit. Go with your gut from those that remain.
melissa569melissa569 on February 27th, 2012 09:46 pm (UTC)
I have a really low cervix too, I mean on the heaviest day of my cycle, my cervix is only like half a finger length inside. I use a small Lunette, and although it sits low, I guess my cervix kind of rest just inside the rim, so it figures out a way to make room. A ladycup is pretty comfortable for me too. So I think it should be ok.
Sailor Roguesailorrogue on April 20th, 2012 11:03 pm (UTC)
OK, so I did measure where mine was (at least that's what i thought it was) and got about the same. You reach in until you feel something, right? No need to go past any barriers or anything? (sorry, I am really new at this :).

Ex astris, scientia.component on March 3rd, 2012 03:42 am (UTC)
Just for future reference, I just got a small Meluna and it is even smaller than the Ladycup, and amazingly it is even squishier. I was totally shocked by how squishy and small it is. I own a small ladycup and put them side by side. The Meluna is smaller in width and length, and the one I have has a small ball stem instead of a regular stem. Pretty awesome :D