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23 February 2012 @ 05:04 pm
I've searched and searched, but I haven't quite seen this particular question addressed, so please bear with me.

I've been researching, and I think I've settled on the Diva cup. I've never been able to find my cervix even when I went looking for it, or bumped it with the tampon applicator(Tampax Pearl, if that matters). I also have a very heavy flow for a couple days -like maxing out a super-plus tampon in 2-3 hours. Since Diva cups are fairly big, I think that's probably the best choice for me. Here's the thing: even though I'm over 30, I'm still a virgin. So should I go with size 1 or size 2? It seems the difference is only 3 or 4 millimeters, but I don't know if it's a difference I'd be able to feel. Advice?
Current Mood: confusedconfused
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on February 24th, 2012 01:47 am (UTC)
Have you compared the Diva's dimensions with the other cups yet?

Tessgryphonwing on February 24th, 2012 02:02 am (UTC)
It actually probably won't matter which size you pick. If you're comfortable with inserting a couple of fingers at a time, you should be fine. I'd probably go with the size 2 - the idea is that as you age the muscle tends to relax. Being a virgin or not doesn't really have much to do with it, although having had a child vaginally definitely does. :)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 24th, 2012 03:32 am (UTC)
here's an overview of the highest capacity cups: http://menstrual-cups.livejournal.com/2761581.html
if you do go for a diva, i recommend the large because of the capacity. i'm a virgin, 21, and i use wide cups just fine :)
unless you have trouble inserting tampons, i don't think the width is going to be a problem. the recs are just for people who NEED them. teenagers usually need something narrow and not too stiff (though not necessarily short, as one might imagine looking at all the small sizes). mums usually need something wide. many cup users can use anything, and the choice is based on things like capacity and cervix position.
Serpentserpent_849 on February 24th, 2012 03:36 am (UTC)
also, with an unreachable cervix, make sure to compare the various stems and decide which one seems convenient. your gut feeling is usually right.
Tessgryphonwing on February 24th, 2012 04:45 am (UTC)
The long body of the Diva means I can reach it despite my unreachable cervix, although sometimes I have to bear down a bit. My medium Meluna gets lost up there sometimes, requiring actual muscle control to push it down into reach. :)
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 24th, 2012 10:35 am (UTC)
sure, but being one mm shorter won't make a cup difficult to reach, especially if the stem is easy to use. of course i don't recommend a medium meluna which is 10-12 mm shorter. but there are several cups all 56-57 mm long.
Summers0mmer on February 24th, 2012 08:46 pm (UTC)
I'm 35yo and smaller diameter cups fit me fine. I don't need high capacity, though, so comfort was my main concern. A softer cup would be more likely to be comfortable in larger sizes.
Good luck! There are so many choices it's easy to get overwhelmed.
juliiie87juliiie87 on February 25th, 2012 12:23 am (UTC)
I'd say don't bother with the age recommandation, and look for one of the highest capacity cups (NOT the small Diva, due to its narrow width). Actually there are cups that are longer than the Diva including the stem, because they have longer, more convenient stems (that you can always trim if it's too long. I'd avoid the large Lunette because it's rather stiff, which might be uncomfortable to insert / remove for a virgin.
NaturalMamma is slightly longer with a handy flat stem, Large Si-Bell has an interesting stem too (both softer than the Diva), Large Miacup, large Cuplee and XL Meluna are a little bit longer and soft too.

Look at the pictures to make up your mind : http://menstrualcups.friendhood.net/f52-moderator-s-photo-library
lurkmaster10lurkmaster10 on February 25th, 2012 12:46 am (UTC)
Okay, thanks all. I have looked at the size charts, photos, etc. Now I'm settled. I'll get a large Diva cup. Once I've got some money, that is :).
Serpent: neutralserpent_849 on February 26th, 2012 02:19 pm (UTC)
ordering online is often cheaper than in physical stores, so check out the prices too:)
an XL meluna is quite a bit cheaper while also having an awesome capacity and colours:) and they will send you a free sample in a different size/style if you order from the official site.
onyalli on February 25th, 2012 07:00 am (UTC)
I'm 35, not a virgin, but not a mother, either. I got the Meluna large based on age/capacity. My cervix sits ultra low, apparently, so it nearly killed me until I turned it inside out, then it's short enough. Anyway, the sides don't open out fully round, either, but it doesn't leak. If I order another one, I could right much smaller. I think it's fairly forgiving, size wise, as long as it's not too long. Do yourself a favor and get some lubricant for the rim until you get the hang of it, too. It helps it to open up better. After my first cycle, I didn't need it anymore, but it sure helped as I was figuring out my method! Good luck!