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12 December 2011 @ 02:50 pm
I'm wanting to purchase a Menstrual Cup... I'm 32yrs old, and have had 3 vaginal births.

I've looked at the Meluna Soft cup, and I'm interested to know just how do I know what size to purchase?

Thanks heaps in advance  
fireaphidfireaphid on December 12th, 2011 02:31 am (UTC)
MeLuna answers this question in their FAQ: http://meluna.eu/meluna-faq.html?___store=english&___from_store=deutsch#right-size. Based on that, you should get a M if you have a lighter flow and you should get a L if you have a heavier flow. If you're not sure how heavy your flow is compared to others, check out this system: http://www.lunette.com/index.php?id=10. Alternatively, keep in mind that, unlike with tampons, there is no harm in having more capacity than you strictly need, because cups bear no risk of TSS; if in doubt, go for the bigger size. Good luck!
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on December 12th, 2011 02:41 am (UTC)
Don't pick a brand first. Figure out how long and wide you think your vagina might be and then choose a cup that best matches those dimensions. http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ Close enough is usually good enough.
Alwynsabishii_kirito on December 12th, 2011 03:08 am (UTC)
juliiie87juliiie87 on December 12th, 2011 09:39 am (UTC)
The size charts are back on ??! Hurray!!!
sizecharts: SizeChartssizecharts on December 12th, 2011 06:11 pm (UTC)
In abbreviated form, yes.

Due to plagiarism, the long-winded sizing guidelines are gone. And there are only a couple of charts left.

Truth be told, the number of people who actually heeded them was frustratingly low. I'd follow threads from those asking which cup to buy and many/most would inevitably buy a cup based on a recommendation from someone else: "I love my XYZ so you should get one too." And then the OP would reply that they just ordered one -- without regard to how it might fit them. (Sigh.)
juliiie87juliiie87 on December 12th, 2011 09:05 pm (UTC)
I understand how frustrating it must be to have your work stolen, but please don't underestimate the value of your ressource to this community - even in an abbreviated form.

I've been around for a few months only, but I cannot count the times I've seen "regulars" of this community directing a newbie to your charts or how many times I've looked at them myself, be it to pick my own cup or to help other members out. It's clearly "THE" reference for anyone in the know. (Along with Melissa's for stiffness comparison).

So yes, newbies will probably keep looking for the easiest choice, the one that's more conveniently available or just appeals to them more, but as long as they keep asking for "our" opinion on here, we'll keep on directing them to some kind of chart. And preferably yours as a first choice <3.

As I side note, I've been to a different cuppers community (the french one), and I was appalled to realise no one ever mentionned looking for your cervix. I wonder if that's cultural shyness or just ignorance... Imagine cuppers not looking for their cervixes(!), omg.
Serpentserpent_849 on December 13th, 2011 02:48 am (UTC)
i think it's just ignorance... cervix position is mostly important for those that are tempted to get a diva because it's available locally, especially in north america. and even this one works reasonably well inside out for many low cervix folks. other cups are more likely to be too short than too long - and if you have to bear down a lot, you don't need to know where your cervix is to figure out that a longer cup might be a better choice. same if your cup sticks out really, so many don't realize why exactly the new cup indeed works. and then of course everyone is proud of this discovery: "a diva was too long for me, try a lunette" etc....

i'd assume many also give up in this situation, because they can't solve their problems without knowing about the cervix position or because they try out one cup, it doesn't work and they get the impression that choosing a cup is pretty random.
Serpentserpent_849 on December 13th, 2011 02:53 am (UTC)
and yes, that's frustrating:S often this is even despite you pointing out why the cup might not work for them - it's chosen because it's more well-known (lunette) or cheap (meluna) etc... :S
though to be fair, those with "special needs" might not find their goldilocks cup straight away while those for whom almost anything will work can, well, choose almost anything and still be satisfied.
Sarcasticia Nitpickersontisiphone on December 13th, 2011 10:06 am (UTC)
I have to say, I chose my cups based on your size charts, and found them amazingly helpful. I suspect many of the posts in the community aren't really representative of how people actually go about choosing their cups, since people tend to post here when they're either very confused or really do want personal recommendations. There's some complicated psychology behind using objective resources versus personal recommendations, especially for such personal consumption choices, but please please please don't think that no one refers to your charts or uses them! I love them, personally.
nocebo_domingo: patti2nocebo_domingo on December 13th, 2011 01:07 pm (UTC)
For every time that happened there were probably many more times someone never asked, and never had to, because the sizecharts answered all their questions. I'm one! And thanks are overdue. THANK YOU for having that great idea,, carrying it out, and maintaining the information through all those new and revised cups.
Arrow_Bright: Anne Patharrow_bright on December 13th, 2011 08:54 pm (UTC)
I also used the size charts when I got my first cup last July! They were really helpful with all the different charts comparing different things (e.g., one for length, one for width, one for capacity, etc). Because of the charts (and all the other posts on this community, of course!), I didn't need to have a post asking what cup to buy. I ended up narrowing it down to two or three options and then got the most convenient of those. Plus, I think the charts are really helpful for people who are looking for their second cup. It's all just kind of guess work on the first cup, and you really don't know if it's going to work out, but with your second cup you're better able to understand the differences between the cups. I mean, you don't know if you need a soft/hard cup until you've already tried a cup to compare it too, right?
chamekke: cha_iammadeoflove_by_iconomiconchamekke on May 11th, 2012 06:36 am (UTC)
I came across this comment while browsing the older posts, and wanted to say ***THANK YOU SO MUCH*** for your size charts!

FWIW, I did review your size charts before deciding on my first cup. It's thanks to your wonderfully detailed info (which I'm sure requires a lot of painstaking effort to assemble and maintain) that I scored my Goldilocks cup on the very first try.

Sometimes I think there may be lots of people who reviewed your charts, went off and bought a cup on that basis, and have been quietly 100% successful :-) Perhaps people are just likelier to post when they're struggling?

Either way, I'm sure you've been of ENORMOUS assistance to many individuals -- I know you have been to me. So, again, thank you ♥ ♥ ♥
Serpentserpent_849 on December 12th, 2011 03:34 am (UTC)
yeah this. though with the meluna it's very likely that one of the sizes will fit you, unless you have a heavy flow and a low cervix.
tinkerandcrabtinkerandcrab on December 13th, 2011 05:17 am (UTC)
I think part of the reluctance on the part of newbies to use measurements is lack of confidence in their own measurements. I mean, I still don't know if I actually located my cervix with my finger or not. I felt something that *might* be my cervix, but until a doctor actually tells me I'm right (which is never gonna happen), I will always doubt myself. And in those moments of quantitative doubt, going with "instincts" and word-of-mouth seem like a more reliable method.