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15 November 2011 @ 11:20 pm
Hi! I am looking to purchase my first cup and was wondering if anyone had any brands they would recommend based on:
  • I am 15 years old, still a virgin, and have had my period for almost a year - oh and I think my hymen is still intact
  • I can use applicator tampons easily (only lite and regular)
  • On my heaviest days I change a regular tampon every 5 - 6 hours (4 is a rare minimum) is this considered a light flow?
  • I can insert part of my index finger into my vagina but find it uncomfortable and do not know where my cervix is
I was thinking of trying either the small lunette or ladycup but I want to be able to go 12 hours even on heavy days (or a minimum of 9) and so maybe the ladycup doesn't have the capacity even though I have a relatively light flow?

Any recommendations will be gratefully received, thanks!

Edit: I finally went with the small lunette cynthia - and I love it! I posted my experience here:
artemis_ephesusartemis_ephesus on November 16th, 2011 01:35 am (UTC)
I have a Meluna soft and would definitely reccommend it, especially seeing as I still have a hymen too and the softness means I can squish it together when I'm removing it so it's smaller, thus making it more comfortable. I have a medium and a small and use them both, the medium at night and during the 2nd-3rd days of my period, and the small the rest of the time. I also really like the ring stems, they're great.
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 03:53 pm (UTC)
thanks for your advice, I wasn't really considering a Meluna before but I will definitely look into it now.
juliiie87juliiie87 on November 17th, 2011 01:19 pm (UTC)
I'd say medium Meluna soft too, they're just as soft as a ladycup, but the grip rings are much more convenient. It sounds like a happy... medium, lol. Wait for your period to find out, but it turns out your cervix gets super low / super high, then maybe a small or large one.

Small Meluna / Ladycup may be a little short on capacity (15ml), so only pick these if you feel anything longer won't fit, but it's still better than tampons. A few extra mms in width shouldn't make much difference. See the first chart for reference:

It's in german, but basically just look at the first chart, here's what it says : Size - Capacity to the holes - Capacity to the rim - Diameter - Length with no stem - Length with stem - with ball - with ring. It's in milimiters and mililiters btw.

Lunette is a great cup but it's slightly more difficult to hold tightly folded I guess. See this video to get an idea : is a pro! ;))

The key to inserting anything is a. relax ! b. lubricate ! with water, natural fluid or even water-based lube if needed.
Baby Bloodheartbabybloodheart on November 16th, 2011 08:48 am (UTC)
I'd still suggest Ladycup - but I'd recommend the larger size as the small is just tiny - I have hyper-menorrhagia (I can bleed up to 380ml - 80ml is considered heavy), on heavy days I do have to change more often than every 12 hours, but with your flow it shouldn't be a problem.
Serpentserpent_849 on November 16th, 2011 08:54 am (UTC)
if one goes for such a wide cup why not get one with a higher capacity... why the ladycup, just because it's so soft? it's also slippery and the OP doesn't know how far her cervix is:/
Baby Bloodheartbabybloodheart on November 16th, 2011 10:04 am (UTC)
She's discounting Ladycup based on capacity, I'm simply pointing out that capacity isn't an issue. Not sure why not knowing how far her cervix is counts against her using a Ladycup.
Serpentserpent_849 on November 16th, 2011 10:23 am (UTC)
because it's so dlfgfgjdljgljl slippery :/
and well virgins tend to choose the small ladycup "because it's so tiny" :D
Serpentserpent_849 on November 16th, 2011 08:51 am (UTC)
try to relax and get accustomed to inserting your fingers... like when your period is about to come - everything gets so stretchy before and during it (and you need to know if you can reach your cervix while on your period).

it doesn't matter whether that's considered light or normal. basically, regular tampons hold up to 9ml. a small ladycup holds about 13, a small lunette around 20 so this would be a better choice.
do you actually fill tampons within that time, or do they start leaking before they're full?
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 03:52 pm (UTC)
thanks for your advice, and the tampons are always fully saturated before they leak.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 16th, 2011 01:41 pm (UTC)
If you don't know how high or low your cervix is, you run the risk of buying an ill-fitting cup.

If the cup is too long, it will shift, leak, poke out, etc.
If the cup is too short, you'll have a heckuva time digging it out.

There is no way for us to advise you which to get. You (should) know your body best and decide accordingly. Otherwise we might as well advise you to wear size 6-narrow shoes, men's size 32x34 jeans and plus size 3X blouses. YKWIM?
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 03:55 pm (UTC)
Is the cervix 'the end' of the vagina, so once you touch it you can't get any further? Just curious because I'm not really overly clued up about that!
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 03:57 pm (UTC)
sorry if that seems like a stupid question ^
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on November 16th, 2011 04:20 pm (UTC)
Nope. Not a stupid question at all.

Your cervix is not at the end of your vagina just like your face isn't at the top of your head. Google for anatomical drawings of a vagina to see how it all fits together.
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 05:02 pm (UTC)
Ah, thank you :)
Serpentserpent_849 on November 16th, 2011 10:02 pm (UTC) there's a vid here about how it works:)
i'd say if you can't reach your cervix, don't get a small ladycup. that's like the one i seem to hear most often in the context of "i can't get it out!!!"
jaffakakejaffakake on November 16th, 2011 10:10 pm (UTC)
thanks for the vid - helped explain things :)
if I can't find my cervix, would a lunette be a better option?
Serpentserpent_849 on November 17th, 2011 09:20 am (UTC)
well there are at least a couple of people here who use this one despite having unreachable cervixes... but it might be better to get something longer, like a small miacup or divacup. remember that you can't remove the cup just by pulling at the stem (well you can but it'll be ouchy), you need to be able to reach the bottom of the cup.