I've been reading so many articles on this website, so thank you all for posting.
I am a 21 year old virgin who has never used a tampon nor self-stimulated vaginally. My first experience with a tampon was with an OB tampon, and that ended in 3 wasted tampons and a whole lot of pain for me.
Pads were terribly irritating to my skin, so I came across the menstrual cups. Taking the advice of people on this site, I opted for a size 1 lunette, as it is generally smaller and more comfortable for people who have never had intercourse.
Since my lunette has arrived, I've been learning lots about female anatomy. One piece of advice here was to try to insert fingers into the vagina to prepare for the insertion of the cup. I've tried inserting my finger in the shower, but it typically ended up being extremely painful. The pain is from the vulva area, where the vagina begins. Once inside the vagina, my finger does not hurt, but withdrawing the finger is terribly painful and stinging.
Today was my ovulation, so I thought I'd try it again. I was able to successfully insert 2 fingers once today, but it was painful again on the way out. The right side of the vaginal opening, especially, causes a stinging pain. I tried to look for whether or not I have a hymen (I have no idea) but my forchette is in the way.
After somewhat successfully inserting the two fingers, I tried with the lunette, using the triangular fold. I could not even get the lunette past my forchette! If I pressed downward towards the vulva, some of the pain would return. I'm at a loss for what to do, so if you can help me, that would be amazing.
Thank you so much :)
Difficult Insertion and Pain