Kaera Brennan (kaera_brennan) wrote in menstrual_cups,
Kaera Brennan

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First time use - some advice?

Hello, all! I've been lurking here for a couple of weeks now, and am really glad to have found this community - I've learned so much from reading your posts!

So, the intro - I'm a 21-year-old virgin, and as far as I can tell I don't have a hymen. (Though I certainly did at one point. A few years ago, when I was in my teens, I had what turned out to be an ovarian cyst, and a gynecologist who didn't believe that I wasn't a virgin. She thought it was an ectopic pregnancy. So she gave me an internal ultrasound. I'm glad to have my cherry-popping over with, but I don't have a very high opinion of that gynecologist, who I never went back to see again.) My cervix seems to sit pretty low on and off my period. When I insert my middle finger I can touch my cervix when it's in to the second joint.

I bought my first menstual cup a week ago - a DivaCup size 1. I was so excited to try it I attempted to insert it a couple of times before my period for a dry run. I quickly discovered this was a no-go, though. I would advise fellow virgins to wait until they're actually on their periods before trying to insert a cup for the first time - you'll psyche yourself out trying to insert dry, it's so much more difficult that way.

Today was the first day of my period, so I decided to give it a proper go. The first few times I tried to insert, I got farther than I did on a dry run, but still couldn't get it all the way in. So I took a break, and a few hours later gave it another shot. This time, I finally managed to get it in! I thought a punch-down fold would work the best for me, since it seems to make the cup narrowest, but actually the 7-fold ended up being what worked out. When it felt like it was settled properly around my cervix, and I could turn it a full way around comfortably, the entire stem was still sticking out. I'm a bit nervous to cut the stem so soon, but it wasn't wanting to go in any further, and the stem is the only uncomfortable thing about the way it was sitting. Do you all think it was actually in properly? Should I go ahead and trim the stem off if it sits the same way next time I insert?

After I walked around a few paces to be sure it was comfortable (it was, with the exception of the stem), I decided to take it out, to get what seems to be the scariest part over with, and to make the first trial run a short one, since I already felt like I'd accomplished a lot for my first day. It felt like there was a healthy amount of suction and resistance when I tugged on the stem, so I thought I must have gotten the seal right. With pinching of the base, wriggling it back and forth, and bearing down, I got it out without too much of a fuss. It was a bit of a struggle, but something I could definitely see myself getting better at.

However, when it was about halfway out and continuing out the rest of the way, I suddenly heard a high-pitched whistle down there. I'm guessing it was air rushing into the cup - did I not have the seal right after all?

All in all I felt like this was a successful first try, though, and am optimistic about future attempts!
Tags: divacup, first time use, seal & suction, stem length/trimming, teething troubles, virginity

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