Gender neutral language - why do we care?
We've noticed there is a tendency in this community to assume that all members identify as women. This is an understandable assumption to make. However, we'd like to point out that not all members of this community identify as female. There are people in this community who identify as female-to-male transgender, as genderqueer, or as other gender identities other than female. While they do not identify with terms like "woman" or "lady", they still menstruate, and this community is potentially relevant for them.
We say in the userinfo that 'We want people of all ages, genders and confidence levels to feel comfortable here', and we mods feel really strongly about that. We've been told several times over the years that phrases like 'Hi ladies!' make our non female-identified members feel invisible and unwelcome, and that is the last thing we want.
As such, we have two requests:
- To everyone - please be mindful that this is a very diverse community, and be respectful of all people who may be reading regardless of gender, sexual orientation, etc. In this context, this means using gender neutral language. So instead of saying, "Thanks, ladies!" something like, "Thanks, everyone!" would be more appropriate.
- To the non-female identified members of this community - is there anything that we as moderators (or community members) can do to make menstrual_cups more accommodating? If you don't feel comfortable leaving a comment here, you can leave an anonymous one on this post, or please feel free to email us at menstrual_cups at livejournal dot com.
Thanks for your understanding! If you have any questions about why we feel this policy is important, please feel free to (respectfully) ask in the comments.
lintilla and scien
PS if you think this post is about you, don't worry, it isn't :) this issue has come up a lot recently.
Edit: so many comments! If you find long threads difficult to read in this community style, try http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/2439847.html?format=light