Has anyone noticed any change to your vag since starting with cups?
I know this is a weird, childish, and possibly paranoid question, but this was my biggest concern when I started using cups 2 years ago. Please don't judge, it is actually very embarrassing to be asking this question. I was not a virgin when I started using cups, but have had very limited sexual activity (like 5 instances with one partner), and so I was (and continue to be) concerned about changing the... ahem... tightness down there. It worried me that a cup sits open inside the vagina all day long, while a tampon is much much much narrower. I was concerned that cup use would maybe stretch me over time, the way people talk about a woman who has had a large sexual partner can become more roomy. I never did kegels before the cup, and now I do them all the time because I am paranoid about this. I worry that I used to not be able to fit more than one finger in with my cup at a time, but now have no problem with 2 fingers, I can reach the rim of the cup with no prob, I can stir without causing pain. In the beginning, none of this was possible. Do you think I am just more relaxed now? or could this be my nightmare coming true? Has anyone else had similar experiences? Since my first sexual partner, who was rather small (and for that I am thankful), I have committed to not have sex again until marriage. I would like to maintain myself as "fresh" and tight as I can from this point, for my future husband's sake. I have considered getting ben wa balls to hopefully even boost the kegels I'm already doing, but then I wondered if they might exacerbate the problem. Don't get me wrong, I'm not hugely stretched out and hanging open down there, but I just don't think I'm as tight as I was before cup use.
Has anyone else had similar concerns, experiences, or words of wisdom? I would like to believe that I am just paranoid and my fears are not valid, but I still worry. I have never voiced this concern before to anyone, please don't think I'm an idiot, I am just rather inexperienced, but want to keep what is left of me as best preserved as possible for my future husband.