October 15th, 2016

Cup falls completely out

Hi everyone,

I've used a Diva Cup for at least 4 years, a size 1 before I had my first child and a size 2 afterwards. I loved it and had no particular issues. I had a second child about a year ago and just got my period again. To my horror, I found that my Diva no longer fit as my cervix now seems very very low. I tried cutting off the stem and turning it inside out, which seemed to help until the cup slipped almost all of the way out of me. I figured I needed a different size and ordered a Meluna Shorty XL, classic firmness. I like it and it seems to fit lengthwise, but again, after a little while it falls out - like, ALL the way out!

My child's VBAC birth was pretty traumatic - a big baby in a posterior-facing position, so I ended up needing forceps. The partial 4th degree tear didn't do me any favors, but I regained good control of my muscles within a couple months. But now the instant I start to feel like I need to have a BM, the Meluna starts to fall out and I have to run to the bathroom. To be honest I don't know much about pelvic floor health, so I'm not sure if this means the muscles that control BMs are now stronger than my vaginal wall muscles or if it's a different problem completely. Is this an issue of me needing to do more kegels, or getting a wider cup, a different level of firmness, or what? Am I doomed to go back to tampons?

BTW, my period is super heavy for a couple days and moderate/lightfor a few (usually about a week total), so my preference is a cup with as much capacity as possible.

Thank you so much for your wisdom!

thinking of trying for the first time, but struggling with size

I am hoping this isn't repetitive - I was having some trouble finding the answer.

I am contemplating trying a menstrual cup because I feel like tampons make my cramps worse (no idea if that's a thing or not but feels that way) and I can't stand the feel of pads. I am almost 31, have never given birth or had penetrative sex, and struggle with pelvic exams - like, frequently they use the pedi speculum, although I've gotten better. I don't have any idea if my cervix is high or low, but I do know it's tilted a bit. (Conversations I will be having with my doctor...).

Age and capacity wise I feel like a larger size would be better, and I have done the nuvaring before as well as successfully inserted a softcup (the disposable drugstore kind) although taking it out was like the shower scene from Psycho. But - again - GYN exams a struggle.

It seems from reading posts that the larger size isn't as big a deal as I initially was thinking. Is that true?