March 8th, 2015


new cup needed

I have been overall happily using a Fleur cup for a couple years now. Over the last year, I went to school to become a personal trainer. All the physical activity has changed what I need out of a cup (you know, beyond the basics). What I don't like about my Fleur is on my heavy days, any movement outside of walking seems to move my cup, resulting in either spotting (moreso than residual slobber) or flat out leaking almost like the cup isn't even there. It doesn't seem so much like the cup is being compressed as it seems like it has been dislodged and is no longer fully covering the cervix. I need to be able to do any and all exercise moves I have planned for my clients without needing to run to the bathroom due to leaks as soon as I'm done. I have taken to wearing a full pad as well as using my cup on my heaviest day simply to be safe, but it is really obnoxious.

Additional requirements: Short (I have a low cervix, though not extremely low--I cut my stem down to 1/8"), wide, no latex.

Someone suggested I use a much stiffer cup, such as Yuuki. The problem with that is the oh so soft Fleur cup already presses on my bowels and makes me need to poop. I can't imagine that a much stiffer cup would be comfortable at all. Also suggested was a softer cup with a prominent, stiff lip (like the Femmecup or UK Mooncup). Wouldn't that press just as much on my bowels as a cup with a stiff body, though?

The Femmycycle was also suggested because they have a low cervix option, but I don't know if that would solve my issue.

First-time Cup User Seeking Buying Advice, IUD

Hi all, I just joined because I wanted to seek out some advice.
I'm 22, sexually active, no children, and use the Paraguard (copper-based) IUD for birth control. I've had the IUD for almost a year now, and it has definitely altered my menstrual cycle--I can no longer tolerate tampons. The cramping is excruciating, and my flow is very heavy. I become iron deficient during my menstrual cycle, and when I did use tampons I was changing them every 3-4 hours plus the pad I used as back up. I was soaking through didn't matter if I was on bed rest or the amount of flow the products were supposed to handle, 4 hours was my max. I am now solidly using pads, and I am down to my last month's supply. I still have to change my pad every 4-5 hours, but the flow and cramping is not as severe as it was with the tampons.
I've been researching for several months now, my gynecologist has given me the okay to use menstrual cups with my IUD, even ones right against the cervix because my strings are very short--I can barely touch them they're so short. From my experience with tampons and self-checks, my cervix likes 3-5 inches of vaginal length, and after the gynecologist's ultrasound diameter isn't an issue.
My wish list for my cup is: to extend my "changing" time closer to 8 hours, reusable, eco-friendly, allergy-friendly (plastic allergy), comfort, no leakage (once user error is eliminated), and a pretty big one is allowing me to have a sex life again during my period...all sex is off the table that satisfies me because of how heavy my flow is, and I have a big sex drive. That is really unacceptable, that I've been putting up with this for 11 months. I've heard that the SoftCup allows penetrative sex, but is that the disposable line or the reusable line? Any advice/suggestions of cups would be really appreciated!