Hi everyone, I'm wondering if anyone can shed light on my situation. I am in my early 40's, 2 kids and have been using menstrual cups for about 6 cycles now and I love it. I started with a juju cup size 2 but quickly found that it was a little firm for me and moved to the large sckoon which is softer and much more comfortable! I just love it. Immediately the duration of my cycle started to go down. Previously using tampons and pads it was 6-7 days, but quickly went down to 4-5 days and now it down to 2, barely 3 days. That bit is great but I also noticed that my cycle started to get shorter too. Prior to kids it was 32 days long, after kids it was 28 days long and it was always that way. Never missed a cycle (except when pregnant) it was never late, never early, you could literally set your clock by it.
But since using cups my cycle has consistently been getting shorter. It has dropped from 28, down to 26, 25 and now 24 days. I'm not happy with this trend! I have spoken to my Doctor who hasn't even heard of cups! I am getting older so I guess it is possible that I am entering the early stages of menopause but it seems like too much of a coincidence that this happened when I started using cups.
It's me again. You may or may not remember me from the post regarding my awful first try with a cup, dry run, and getting it stuck inside me for several days.
Well, it's been a couple of months, and I've finally gotten up the courage to try again, this time while beginning my period. I tried inserting it while taking a shower and had significantly less trouble getting it in this time. I was able to insert it on the third try, and with a lot of finagling, got it to pop open. As a plus, it apparently is a regular occurrence that it stimulates my G-spot. But either it was too low, or the stem is too long, because I could feel the stem part on the outside. I figured after I get used to it, I'll probably cut the stem shorter.
Anyway, after my nightly shower, I went to bed with it in. Woke up early morning in pain, bad enough that I couldn't get back to sleep. The pain also gave me a tension headache. It wasn't exactly the same as the cramping pain I get after I first insert it or when I'm on my heavy days... It wasn't a coming-and-going but a constant ache, no matter what I did or what position I took. And instead of feeling it in my uterus/abdomen area, it almost seemed like it was my entire pelvic area, deeper inside me, and also in my rectum and flank. The pain kind of felt like pulled muscles, I think?
Eventually, I gave up trying to ignore it and went to the bathroom to remove it. I easily took it out and saw it had done its job perfectly; there was a small amount of blood in the cup, and none had escaped to the outside. Thank GOD, almost immediately after I took it out, the terrible ache went away. It felt so good to have it out and be back on pads; I was able to go back to sleep easily.
Now I'm afraid to put it back in. That pain is just unbearable to have going constantly. But I also don't want to give up on menstrual cups! I spent a lot of money on getting two of them and the diva wash, and it's so nice and clean if it would work right...
Is there anything that can be done to keep this from happening again?
I used my divacup (inserted) it for the second time today when I got home from school. I had been hesitant to use it because the first time I inserted it it didn't "hurt" but I really really hated how I could feel it "suction" or seal in side me when it first popped open in me, it was like a big "schloop." And I can also feel and "air bubble" inside me and then soon after there's some discomfort...
I was wondering, is there any way to make this go away? Softer cup, perhaps? That's the only reason why I don't want to insert it.
Hey, all! I first switched cold turkey to my Diva Cup in May of 2013, and with some trouble, fully adjusted to life as a cup convert. Some of you might remember that, haha. I'm just here to gush with joy for the kind of freedom it has offered me.
I have a really heavy flow for 3-4 days of my week-long torture and my uterus is steeply angled to the left, so I'm not able to go completely without backup, but it has overall been a truly wonderful experience, and I spent the better part of the past year teaching and biking all over my college campus -- something which would normally cause me great anxiety, as that doesn't allow me the leisure of just skipping off to the loo whenever I feel a tell-tale gush every hour or two.
My window on heavy days has widened from 2-3 hours max to 5-6 hours max, which saves so much grief. Other days, I'll just leave it in for 12+ hours no problem. I keep my cup in my bag when not menstruating, so I can practically never be caught unawares. I always have it within a few room's distance. I can do spur-of-the-moment things without having to worry if I have enough pads and tampons shoved into my bag to last overnight. I don't have to wonder what the hell I'm gonna do if I know friend x only uses pads -- something I can never do because of the rapidity with which a mess ensues (God help me when I have children).
The amount of underwear absolutely decimated by blood has gone down to nearly nothing and I'm pretty sure any leaks onto the bedclothes were a result of my own lack of foresight. I have even taken the leap of daring and worn my favourite white pants on a semi-heavy day with no bad outcome -- several times!
I know how high and low my cervix is throughout my cycle. I know how much I bleed down to the numbers. I am a master with my PC muscles (seriously kegeled that mofo down from an unreachable position just this morning -- it was awesome). I generally just enjoy my body more and knowing it well even though periods are sucky. It's really kickass. And if it weren't for my cup, I wouldn't know just how fascinating that unused uterine lining actually is. Maybe I'm weird, but it's so cool.
I save so so so so so much money. I no longer think about how stupid it is to spend said money on bleached, chemically crap that probably shouldn't be in my vag anyway just to have to throw it away within hours of insertion -- especially since tampons sap all natural lubrication in the process, which just is not necessary. Cups bring down the level of awful from "barely manageable and hardly tolerable" to "stupid easy and secretly kind of fun."
I've been on a streak of female empowerment for the past few months, and the menstrual cup way of life seriously contributes to it. I think I'm done babbling and have said my piece. Hope any newbies or fencers out there can take some happy encouragement from my experience. :)