August 21st, 2014

I need serious help, please :-)

I just bought a Diva cup (size 2). Day 1 of my period was great. Yesterday was day 2 and it was a complete nightmare. The cup kept sliding out & leaking. I tried pushing it in, as well as taking it out, washing it and reinserting it no less than 10 times during the day. At one point, when I went to go to the bathroom, it actually fell out! It even leaked last night. I have very, very heavy flow on days 2 & 3 of my period. For example, this morning I was woken up by the leaking at 5:55, washed everything and when I re-woke up at 6:30, the cup had 1/4 oz of blood in it. It wasn't feeling one bit comfortable this morning at 7:30, so I re-did it again, and it had another 1/4 oz. When I put it in at 6:30 this morning, the uncomfortableness was due to the stem pinching my labia, and also the bottom part of the cup outside of my vagina. My cervix is low during my period, I think - I can feel it when my finger is only half way in my vagina. Right now, it seems a little uncomfortable, but it's hard to tell if it's from the cup or just because of all the fiddling around all day yesterday.
I do not know if I need another brand of cup. I was looking through all the pages on this community to figure it out, but think that personal advice would be better. If it matters, I've had 3 children and am in my 40s.
Another problem I'm having is that I was hoping to have my 12 yr old daughter try one. She does ballet 6 days a week & just got her period last month. I had been doing a little research about dancers & their periods and had found the Diva Cup. I didn't even realize that there were other brands :-( If I'm having all these issues with Diva, I do not know if the Diva cup size 1 would work for her, but really have no clue. Any advice on that?

Cup Softness & Period Weirdness

I have finally gotten a cup! First time using my divacup this period. I used it for the first two days (when I usually get cramping, though) and felt this pressure/discomfort against my bladder/uterus area/belly. (TMI, but it was also weird farting?) I'm pretty sure it wasn't my cramps that I usually get though, didn't feel like them. So I've decided the cup is too firm...

Also, my period has always been heavy (started it 2-3 years ago?) for the first day or two. But this time using the menstrual cup, it was soo pretty normal actually, I was like omg. I stopped using the cup after 2-3 days because of the discomfort, and ended up with no pain at all (!! for me thats like wow) and a much normal period using disposables (it may have been lighter as a cause of the cup? Idk it's never been this light ever). I was wondering, could the cup have had an effect on me? Damage, maybe? I noticed when I was inserting it, it was like KAPOW suction (no pain, just WOAH I guess it's suctioned) and I took it out by tugging some on the stem to pinch the base, but all was well I think. It did sort of seem like I was really tugging on my insides!

It may have just been my awareness of the cup, though I couldn't feel it, but I might've just had to get used to it being there? I'm not sure, really.

But anyways, I'm looking for a softer cup! My first question though, is if I get a meluna soft, and I don't know how strong/not strong my pelvic muscles are, if it does crunch up/collapse inside me, will it leak? (I've always ridden horses, and sometimes!!! I run and do exercises. But I'm like 5'6 and 105 pounds or so Idk if it makes a diff.) Because I don't see a problem with it crunching up as long as it doesn't leak. Also, will the rim have an effect on discomfort, depending on big/small firm/soft?

But is there any cup that is softer than a divacup, but not softer than a soft meluna (and, though not a huge factor, around the same build/size of the divacup)? I still don't know how high my cervix is, but while wearing the divacup I could just feel the stem, and push it out if I needed to (which I liked, noting that it was still there). Any variable in between that is what I'm looking for. Softer than divacup (if only by a little, at least) but not softer than meluna (lol is there even anything softer than that?).

AND FINALLY, sorry so much! I'm still sort of scared to sleep with a cup in. I usually sleep on my stomach or side. I'm not worried about leaking, but what about the menstrual flow? Will it "go back inside me" or cause any damage or trouble (because I'm laying down)? What if it like sits there, either on it's side or piled up?

Any insight at all on anything in this would be very much appreciated!!

P.S. I do not do not do not want a sckoon cup! I know about them, and that they're pretty soft, but I have my reasons for not wanting one.

Which cup for a lowish cervix? Mooncup UK S and L failed


I have been using menstrual cups for years. I had latex Keeper in my early 20s, but got worried about latex over exposure and took a break. Around 30 I got the MooncupUK in small. It worked well, but then it started to leak (33 yrs). I got the large Mooncup and had no problem until this spring. I'm now 38, no kids and with what I think is a lowish cervix. The large Mooncup didn't leak, but by the third day of my period if I took it out, I couldn't get it back into it's proper place. After insertion it would sit very low and not get "sucked up". I've gone back to tampons, but after a couple of months I've remember why I switch to cup in the first place.

Any suggestions about what cup to try next? Was the cup not getting into place because it was not wide enough? The cups that are wider than the Mooncup UK are significantly longer so I'm hesitant to buy them. I was looking at the Lybera, but you can't get that outside of Italian pharmacies.