August 15th, 2013

I suppose its time - my thoughts

So I've decided it's finally time to let the world know what I think about the mooncup. Who knows, maybe it'll help somebody making a decision.

I first discovered them at a Pagan festival I went to, where I saw them on sale. I was curious, and asked the lady about them, who produced a rather large, rather squishy object that looked...quite frankly much too scary to be sticking all up in my business. I was dubious, but the thought of them stuck in my mind.

I suppose I'll start with why I liked the idea. I grew up with an ex-military father, and two big brothers. Needless to say, pain was weakness, and bleeding from the vagina was just plain gross, so going out to buy tampons was a chore. I was always easily embarassed by feminine-y things, so I didn't like to say where I was going, and if I didn't like the look of the person on the tills at the shop I'd just turn right around again. I got by, but it was annoying to say the least. Hence why I began to like the idea of the mooncup.

I did my research online, thought about it, decided I didn't like the idea, then started looking at it again. Eventually, when walking round town one day, I saw them at a Boots. I bit the bullet and bought one. Perhaps one of the best ideas I've made thus far in my life.

I'll begin with the gross and not so great, then get onto the good later.

To begin with, it was difficult. The first time I put it in, I got nervous, I tensed up, and I couldn't get it out. It got slippery because I hadn't cut the stem and it had started to leak. I got scared. I left it for a while, read some posts, and eventually relaxed enough to get it out. My vagina felt a little achey, and it was kind of messy, what with having spilt a good portion of the contents on the loo seat. Still, I cleaned up, cut the stem down a bit more, and off I went. After that, I learnt to just relax. It got easier each time, and after using it for a few months, it was easy as pie. And I really like pie.

Also, the goop. It's a little gross. Also a lot fascinating. I tend to pour the contents of the cup down the sink. I can reach it while sitting on the loo, and it means less handling it while it hovers over the deep dark depths of the u-bend, which makes me a little nervous (I've only dropped it down there once- touch wood). It's a lot easier to wash the goop out than I'd expected. All the little hidey-holes make it seem like it'd take forever to get all the goop out, but it takes a second or so, and I'm fine with that. The suction holes are the only awkward part, but I've discovered that pinching them with a thumb nail tends to do the trick. I'm not squeamish,which I'm glad of, because I feel like this could really be a lot more difficult if I were.

Finally, for the gross stuff, the mornings. I'd hoped that this would stop that gods-awful first-thing-gush, but I was wrong. Oh so wrong. That little waddle to the bathroom, at least on the heavy days, is still a regular occurrence. I've found it definitely helps though, if I roll around a bit before I get up. I'm not sure why, but slowly changing lying position seems to give the blood a chance to move from it's hiding spots, and mostly back into the cup. Still, the heavy days will always provide me with a bit of a jog.

Now to the good.

I never run out of tampons, because I never need to own any. And there's never that moment where you drop your bag and everything falls out in front of all those really attractive guys at the coffee shop. I do not miss that moment.

I'm a lot less paranoid about leaking. I used to be terrified that it would happen, constantly, and now, I know that I could probably bear to wait an hour or so. I don't have to rush to the bathroom every hour to check, and I don't have to take my bag with me that lets everyone know what I'm doing.

That rustling sound in the cubicles is non-existent (though the squelchy noises can sound...interesting). It feels a lot more discrete, and a lot comfier. I don't have to wriggle around to get my pad in a comfortable position, no errant hair sticking to anything, no *ahem* sweatiness, and I don't have to worry about a string sticking out.

I love my mooncup, and I will never look back. I couldn't give it any more praise.
doctor, belle

Elevator cervix surprise

I've been settling nicely into my cup routine since May. At first my cervix was so high it was completely unreachable, even on my heaviest days, but this time around I started noticing that the stem of my Diva cup was actually poking out of me (it normally sits so high I have to reach for it a little). Now I can reach my cervix with my index finger maybe halfway in and it's my heaviest day. I've read about some cycles changing after cup use, and it seemed to be normal for the cervix to travel down during the cycle rather than up like mine was doing, but I was just wondering if anyone else out there has had this happen?
On the optimistic side, I'm going to watch what it does the rest of the week and maybe a glittery Meluna is in my future. =]

My amazing SckoonCUP!!!

Hello all!
Ok like all of you I have lurked and worried and fretted about cervix position and length and width and the fact that I am petite and all of it and then decided to get a Sckoon cup as my first cup (the small one, I am 31 and have no children). I chose Sckoon cup as I liked the fact it didn't have a ridge so no seems and the fact that it seemed a more anatomical shape. I went for clear to eliminate any very remote possible future side effect from adding a colouring (and a chemical to bind it to the silicone) to a cup, even though they are 'safe' I always err on the side of caution.

BAD NEWS FIRST - then the good stuff.
So I got it and glared and it and wondered how-on-earth and then my period came. 'First-time-lucky' it went in without a hitch popped open, couldn't feel it, and I thought what was all the fuss about....THEN...I left it 2 hours and thought it was fab until I pulled my knees to my chest as usual on the sofa and I felt a leak! I ran to the loo and I HAD! So I removed it quite easily despite my anxieties (doing the usual bearing down for a couple of pushes and wiggling it out that I had read about), there was not a lot in it probably because it had leaked. Anyway it was NOT second/third/fourth time lucky, I struggled with it, it wouldn't pop open, I tried all different types of folds to no avail, I argued with it and thought I had got it in right until I went out and it leaked and I tried again and couldn't fix it so I switched to a tampon cursed the cup and thought I will try again later. That evening I put it in and went to bed with it and took it out an hour later as I didn't trust it - so I switched to a pad and thought start fresh the next day.

The next day...
It was like everything just clicked! And then i realised that the instructions that came with the cup were actually not very helpful, the diagram shows the cup being released quite a way into the vagina and this I found was just not possible. So I would like to give you all my version of 'HOW-TO-INSERT' the Sckoon cup (if worked for me and might for you if you are struggling).

Keep your nails short! Ok so I reverted to a C fold, this is the best for the cup in my opinion and is recommended in the instructions. So I fold the cup in a C fold, use my free hand to part the opening slightly and holding the cup between my thumb and finger insert it only pushing it in about an inch to an inch and a half! Let it go and it pops open EVERY time :D At this point the bottom of the cup (the bit you would pinch) is sitting at the entrance and you can do a 360 degree spin to ensure it is open fully (which is nigh on impossible if you put it in any further!). The next step is to push it into position and to do this pretend you are stirring a cup of tea, [yes i want you to get your hand right now and stir an imaginary cup of tea! That is the motion you will need]. So holding gently onto the base 'stir that cup of tea' and push slowly and wiggle it up there. Mine seems to get over the pelvis and then sits itself down in a natural hollow which is useful.

Good news :)
Since day 2 of my period I have had NO LEAKS at all, can't feel it at all, easy to insert and to remove and no period odour, no leaks at night. I even was on a 3 day first aid course being pulled into recovery positions and re-enacting scenarios and no leaking what so ever! Feels like I have been using it all my life and I have only used it for one cycle! Oooo also saved £££'s on not buying tampons.

Other good points :D
1) I only had to empty it once in the morning and once at night as I am only REALLY heavy day 1 and that got messed up as you know, so I will probably have to empty it in the middle of the day on day 1? I will let you know how it goes.
2) Because it is silicone it slides in and out without any discomfort! No more half filled tampons that hurt on the way out because they are a little dry...
3) Didn't have to buy night time pads (just popped in a panty liner just in case).

I maybe had to pee a little more frequently, but then I do this if I am wearing a tampon anyway.
Can't think of any others!!!

All in all I am SO HAPPY and have been trying to convince friends and family that they are NOT gross and to give them a try. I would never have thought I would love it as much as I do but yeh totally worth it. NOT AS SCARY AS YOU THINK :)

First time cup user...extremely painful to insert?

Hi all :) I'm a first time cup user and also a first time livejournal-er. I tried to find a post that would answer my question but I couldn't really find what I was looking for, so sorry if it actually exists and I just didn't see it :/

Anyway, about two weeks ago I did some extensive research on menstrual cups and decided I wanted to buy one. I finally decided on the Lunette Selene, model 1. I was really excited when it arrived this afternoon. I immediately took it out of the box and read the instructions (even though I'd read them a million times on several websites) and I played around with different folds. I decided to do a dry run so I wet the cup and my body with water and got to work. Let me tell you, it was not easy. I'm 17 and a virgin, and I'm very familiar with my anatomy. But I unsuccessfully tried to insert this cup about 3 or 4 times but I just couldn't, it hurt so bad.

I played around with positions and folds and eventually got it in but it was SO painful, both insertion and removal. I have a high pain tolerance, and I figured it was going to hurt at least a little. But this? I don't think I can do this 2-4 times a day for the duration of my period. It doesn't hurt once I've got it in, but I can feel it there. I've heard that you're not supposed to feel them at all. Does it need to be farther in? After I get the whole cup in I kind of lose my grip and it unfolds (at least I have no trouble getting it to open), and after that I have trouble moving it up. Or is it just because I'm not on my period?

Anyway, after about 6 attempts (and about 4 successful ones) I felt like I'd just stuffed a cactus up my vagina for 2 hours afterwords. I even think I literally tore my hymen a little.
Why is this? I'm being gentle, I'm trying different folds, I was relaxed and I wasn't scared (mostly). Will it always hurt this badly? I'm sort of hoping it's just because I'm doing a dry run, and because I over did it a bit. What can I do to reduce the pain?