August 6th, 2013

Another struggling first time user - cup popping open too quickly

Hi there,

So like several others, I am a first-time cup user having issues with insertion. For background - I'm fairly petite, heavy flow, 26, not a virgin, but I've had trouble inserting tampons in the past so I've always avoided them. After doing some research last month, I settled on a small Fleurcup, which seemed to make most sense for me, but I'm getting really disheartened by all the trouble with trying to get the darned thing in.

Specifically, my Fleurcup is popping open before it's even half-way in, which makes things really uncomfortable and painful. I've experimented with a few different folds (C fold, punched down, triangle, origami, labia), staying relaxed, deep slow breathing, taking breaks and trying again later, but nothing seems to work :( I really want this to work for me, but I don't really want to spend the entire day in the bathroom forcing it in.

Any advice as to what I might be doing wrong? Did I buy the wrong cup?

Also - I'm on my period right now, so I don't think being lubricated enough is the problem at all.

Help selecting a cup...

Hey y'all :) I posted my tale of woe here two years ago, about trying to use a cup with the tricky combination of a very low cervix and a heavy flow. I since got pregnant and had another baby :) and have had a few postpartum cycles. I basically decided that the leakage with the Keeper is an acceptable amount and it otherwise works fine. I made some cloth pads as backup and am basically content with it. But I would like to try another cup, to see if I can find something that will work better for me.

So I now know my specifications pretty clearly:

I need a cup that is short and narrow/tapered at the bottom (unlike the Fleurcup.... which was a serious fail), but with as high a capacity as possible. I would also like to try a cup that is softer than the Keeper, because I get pretty sore from all the insertions and removals with the Keeper... which is kind of like getting punched in the you know what when it opens.

Suggestions? Or at least links to up-to-date comparison charts/photos? TIA!

Update: I discovered the Cuplee and it looks perfect. I just ordered one. Thanks everyone!