July 22nd, 2013

  • e_poxy

Pain Problems

Hi everyone,
I have searched long and hard on this forum to try to find the answer to my problems but nothing seems to quite fit.
I got my first cup, a Divacup size A. I am 30, never had children, and haven't been sexually active for years (I don't know if that matters).
It took a while but after reading this forum I finally got the Diva in and it seemed fine. It rode up a bit but other than that the placement was fine, except for the fact that it pressed so hard on my bladder that it was excruciating!
So I thought that maybe I need something that is softer. So, I again checked the chart and decided on the SiBelle, size small. I got it and have just tried it out during my period. After inserting the Diva about a hundred times I think I have insertion down pat. The SiBelle goes in fine (I insert sitting on the toilet pushing it straight in, not up), it opens up right away and has suction. The problem I'm having is that at first I can get in in the perfect position but then I walk around a bit and it rides up, up, up and hurts horribly! I felt that it was probably pressing on my cervix it had gone so high and maybe there was suction too, I don't know. After I took it out I hurt very badly, five hours later I'm still hurting but getting back to normal. My cervix is not low and is in the "normal" position. When I am on my period I can just barely feel it with my index finger if I push it all the way in, so I would say it's probably about 3-3.5 inches from the opening. I don't know if the Diva would cause this pain too because I couldn't bare to keep it in that long to find out.
If I try a cup that is wider will it not ride up so much?
I'm afraid of trying the SiBelle again because the pain was so bad and lasted so long afterwards.
I appreciate any advice you can give me!

I'm considering buying another cup?

I'm fifteen and a virgin. A few months ago I bought a MoonCup (size B) not realising how many other options there were out there. However, after several attempts to insert, I think I might be more suited to a softer, smaller cup.

Although I can get one finger into my vagina, I find it hard to get anything else in. I tried looking in a mirror and can see a hole; if I insert my finger, I then still have to fish around before I can find the actual entrance to my vagina. After the original hole I can't see anything so I just have to rely on what I can feel, which obviously I can't do with something like a cup. Is there anything I can do about this?

I also have a bit of trouble holding the MoonCup in a position where it doesn't just flip open and bounce across the room (I've been using the punch-down fold, by the way). Although I can insert my finger without a mirror, with a foreign object I'm completely lost without one, and since I only have two hands, things get tricky. So I'm looking for something soft that I'll be able to fold not much bigger than my finger and with a much smaller rim that the MoonCup.

I've been thinking of a Lunette or a soft Yuuki, but I need something I can get easily in the UK, whether online or in a shop, without people finding out. I'd really like to have a look at all the different options in real life because it's hard to work things out from pictures, but maybe someone could shed some light onto all this?

Thanks.