February 8th, 2012

Troubled Newbie

Hi! I'm 32 and completely new to the menstrual cup experience. I've been lurking here, as well as reading and researching them for awhile now, and I finally decided on a large Lunette Aine. I haven't had a child, but I am not a virgin and I've always tended to have a very heavy flow and almost always use super size tampons. Yesterday I started my period and so, with great excitement, prepared my cup for use and inserted. Insertion was a tad uncomfortable at first, but I seemed to adjust quickly and had no further problems. That night I tried to remove it, to see how things were going. I could not get it.
Now, I feel I should admit that while I am certainly not a virgin, I am single and not regularly sexually active. Not a lot goes on down there, haha! I also have an extremely small canal and an extremely long vagina. Even a single finger is quite a tight fit and I have never been able to touch my cervix. I swear it's nearly possible for things to get lost in there, haha! And it seems my cup was trying to manage it. Between being hardly able to get two fingers in and how far up the stem was, I just couldn't grasp it! So I decided not to panic... that I'd relax, go to bed and deal with it again when I took my shower in the morning.
This morning however, didn't prove any easier. The cup was full and overflowing (my cup runneth over!), so getting it out was pretty necessary. So, I relaxed. I squatted in the shower (not easy with a sprained ankle, btw.) I tried a birthing position. I used my rather strong kegels and could push the stem to the tips of my fingers, but could not reach to break the seal. I tried a lubed spoon. I tried gloves. I had to laugh at the ridiculousness of it... I even had to call into work to tell them I was going to be late! This went on for an hour before, using a cloth glove on my left hand to keep a grip, I was able to pull the stem just far enough to make enough of a indentation at the base with a finger on my right hand to break the seal and pull the dang thing out! Then it looked like a murder scene, and I was beyond sore and tired. Then I put in a small tampon and went to work.
The thing is, I still LOVE the idea of a cup. I want to use it... but I can't go through that kind of struggle every time I need it out. Is my tiny canal and abyss of a vagina going to keep me from cup-bliss?! Is it my choice of cup? Any ideas, suggestions, supportive comments? I'd love to try again, but I'm feeling a little weary.
  • jen_k11

New Cup advice

Hello!  i posted here a month or so ago regarding my troubling usage with my iud and diva cup.  I've come to the conclusion that my cervix moves around a lot and it's hard to get it to sit above/slightly in my Diva cup so my leaking is being caused by my cervix poking out over the rim of the cup.  I've used a mix of liners and tampons for my last 2 cycles and I am really missing my cup so much!  Does anyone have any suggestions for a cup to try to remedy this situation?  I'm not sure if i need a cup that is narrower and smaller?  Thanks in advance for the help!

Where were these things 20 years ago??????

I have just completed my first cycle with a menstrual cup. I must admit that I found it very easy, much easier than I expected. When I first got my period 25 years ago, I was given pads. I never liked them and always had a heavy flow; I was to find out 15 years later that it was endometriosis. My periods from the ages of 11-26 would last between 9 and 12 days. My mother who is a devout Catholic (and a nurse BTW) was dead set against tampons because they could make you sick and only my future husband’s penis should go up there. Like I said I hated pads, they smelled horrible, were messy, were completely uncomfortable and not the most discreet item to have to carry in my schoolbag. My mother’s advice for heavy days- wear 2 super sized ones, I am not kidding you (back then you could only buy sizes regular or super- luckily for me).

When I started working at age 19, I immediately switched to tampons- husband or no husband. I was the one buying them so I did not care. I started with the non-applicator ones but was grossed out with how dirty my fingers were and I could never get them in properly, it would hurt. Silly I know, but even though my mother was a nurse I could not go to her for women’s issues and anything remotely sexually related was taboo therefore I was a prude. I became reliant on applicator tampons for the next 15 years and never had a problem so I was happy enough. I should add that my endometriosis was a result of God’s punishment because I don’t pray enough, if you believe Mom.

I am now 36; I am married (therefore I have a husband, lol) and 2 children. I have also become more environmentally conscious and only by chance stumbled across the DivaCup through a Facebook friend’s status. Immediately I was interested in menstrual cups and researched more about them on Google, hence I found this website. I ended up purchasing both the Large Lunette and Large Fleurcup- mainly due to capacity, cheap prices, cheap shipping and size.

I had read about other users’ first time experiences so I inserted them in the shower with the push-down method. Now even though I am sexually active and better aware of my body, I am still not completely comfortable with it so putting something foreign up there was a little daunting. However, I had no problems whatsoever, it did not hurt. I went swimming on my second day and was out almost all day on the third. Now, I do not know if this is all in my mind but I had no menstrual cramps at all, usually I have to drink a specially formulated herbal tea for relief- for this cycle I did not even touch it. What a fantastic invention- where was this product in 1994? I feel guilty spending all that money over the years and adding unnecessary waste to landfill (I won’t include 1986-93 because that was out of the question). I won’t be using applicator tampons anymore that’s for sure.

Now for my reviews:
Large Lunette- I found it a little harder to insert than the Fleurcup but easier to remove. Very comfortable.
Large Fleurcup- I found it easier to insert than the Lunette but a little harder to remove. Very comfortable.
Both are winners in my opinion and I cannot decide which one I prefer, the squishiness factor does not seem to bother me either. I had no problems at all.

Finally I would like to add, especially for all the environmentally conscious cup users out there. I am proud to say that I am able to re-use my menstrual blood as well. I simply add it to my bokashi composting system. Since you can throw in meat, bones, hair, nail clippings etc- why not menstrual blood? I feel so much better now that I am doing that bit extra- not only for myself and my bank balance but also for the environment in ways that I would never have thought possible a couple of months ago.

Post baby leaking and brand questions

i'm so happy to find this community!  I have been having some issues with my cup (s) and need some help and advice. I found the cup love in between the births of my two boys and was mostly successful with my mooncup uk for several years. I would leak from time to time, but nothing that required a pad or cause too much mess.   However, after the birth of my second son (first vaginal birth after a successful VBAC) I have been striking out big time.  Major leaking and I'm dumbfounded on what to do.  I've tried different folds and tried different insertion techniques like popping open low and scooting vs pooping up high, etc.  Inserting fold to back, etc

I ended up getting a diva cup large on sale one day but have had worse luck with that. I can get it to pop open, but it doesn't seem to be getting a good seal. As far as I can tell, my cervix is medium height as I can always reach it with my finger all the way inserted. I have to wear a pad all the time in addition to the cup. For a while I wouldn't even have anything in the cup when I removed it, but I havehad more luck since then, but it's always been about a third filled up.  I don't think my cervix is filling the cup too much, and it doesn't seem like it moves around too much. 

I know this question has been asked a million times before, but I feel overwhelmed with all the options.  Is the a better cup for me? I'm working hard to make this work for me, but I'm getting frustrated by the mess!  My flow is rather heavy on the first day but then medium after that. 

Thanks in advance!