what do i do about these problems?

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28 September 2009 @ 02:22 pm

I have the Ladycup (small)- the first time i tried to use it i got it in but it hurt a lot. I think that was because of the stem being irritating and just my body getting used to the cup. I left it in for maybe 20 minute but it was just too annoying/painful and decided to wait until my next period to try again.

So two hours ago I got my period and I'm having some issues:

1) The cup sits very low in my vagina, with the stem partially sticking out, and the stem is poking into me, but I don't know if I should trim it because I don't know if I'll regret it later on. I am ok with it not being completely inside, i just wish it wouldn't poke me. :C

2) If i relax completely, it feels like the cup slides down a bit, like it's about to be pushed out of my vagina and it HURTS, but if I keep 'flexed' it keeps cup from moving and i can only feel the stem poking. This is making me believe i should have the cup higher up, but..

3) ..I can't seem to get it any higher. I read that when you push it past the pelvic bone and let it open it should slide up on it's own, but when i try this it slides down instead of up. Why would it be doing this? I have also tried to push the cup higher manually but I found that my fingers are too short to get it any higher than the pelvic bone anyways. I've also tried to push it up by the stem but it just squishes into the cup.

So far I have not had any problems with leaks C: though it's only been 3 hours and I haven't been moving around much.

Also, what does the 'teething' tag mean?

Tags: first time use, lady cup, teething troubles

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fireaphid on September 28th, 2009 10:58 pm (UTC)

1- Trim it little by little until you're confident you've found the right balance between having enough for removal and eliminating the extra that irritates you. You can do that throughout this period as you develop a removal technique that works for you, but remember, you can always make the stem shorter, but you can't add any back if you cut off too much, so it's best to try to "tough it out" as much as possible to avoid making a mistake.

2- Unless you have unusually weak muscles (it could only be called "common" after childbirth), the cup cannot fall out, even if it is a very small cup. But, it couldn't hurt to do some kegel exercises over the next month or so and see if it solves the problem for your next cycle.

3- Cups aren't intended to be worn very high like tampons, so if it sits low and is otherwise comfortable (not counting the stem) and doesn't leak, then it's in as high as it should be.

And the "teething troubles" tag refers to the awkward time at the beginning of the learning curve when everyone's prone to getting stuck and having problems. Remember, everyone using a cup was new to it at some point, and most didn't have it just "click" right away, so be patient with yourself!

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zengmar on September 29th, 2009 12:53 am (UTC)

I've trimmed it a bit, and this time I've put it in and there is no discomfort AT ALL. \o/ yay~!

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fireaphid on September 29th, 2009 01:33 am (UTC)

Yay!

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shivadidj on September 29th, 2009 01:16 am (UTC)

sounds to me like you not be angling it correctly. You should be pointing the cup towards the back, not up. You don't need to push it "up" ever. It should always go back and maybe kinda diagonal once you get it past your pubic bone.

I would wait to trim your stem until you get it to stay in place on it's own. When it stays in place on it's own, then you know it's in the right place, and you can think about trimming the stem.

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silver11016 on September 29th, 2009 02:44 am (UTC)

The "teething" tag is for those times your vagina dentata interferes with cup use. Happens to the best of us.

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mistressnaoko on September 29th, 2009 03:24 am (UTC)

*giggles insanely*

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m03m on September 29th, 2009 09:21 am (UTC)

Right. I knew something was wrong with all those 'Oh noes! My puppy chewed up my cup' posts!

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elizabby on September 29th, 2009 05:18 am (UTC)

Really sounds to me like you haven't got it in far enough. I would try to keep it folded a bit longer and push it "back" (not "up") a bit more before letting go - then it should slide in. If you haven't got it past the narrowest point of the pubic bone, then yeah, it tends to slide back out. The small LadyCup is one of the smallest, so really should go in a bit more, IMO.

Teething - this is what you are doing right now! When you've used the cup for one cycle you'll be a toddler, then after that you'll be a teenager and running wild! ;)

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