I have heard of two problems in relation to stem position; either it is too high and out of reach or it is too low and "pokes" you. Can somebody tell me WHERE exactly the correct stem position is. Should it be sticking out slightly, flush with the entrance to the vagina or further in. I don't think I can fit both a finger and thumb in to pull it out if the stem goes all the way in. I could fit one finger in to break the seal, I think. I am seriously thinking of buying a small lunette in the next couple of days.