A newby here... and I can't get the darn thing out!!

I learned about menstrual cups as I was researching my IUD, and thought they were great from the start, but I was a bit scared, so I decided to go for the small LadyCup since it's the smallest to get the hang of it first... maybe that was a mistake?

Anyway, I put it in in the shower, and that went fine. It took a little while, but it popped open and moved up a bit. The stem is right at my entrance, so it's not that high up. But it's so slippery!! I can't grab hold of the stem, I've tried squishing the cup to fold it, but I can't really get two fingers in comfortably enough and it's already partially oblong, so it doesn't seem to do anything. I tried baring down, but that didn't help... I tried squatting, standing and sitting. It also doesn't help that I have no nails to speak of and my lady juices started flowing from all the mucking around down there.

I tried reaching for the rim, but I can just barely feel the beginnings of the rim when I reach as far as I can.

I've decided to quit for a while as I have a medical school final tomorrow morning, and really don't have time to mess around too much with this. I don't know why I decided this was the perfect time to try this out. Ugh. I don't really have my period right now, I'm just spotting, or else I would just wait until it overflowed and broke the seal on it's own. I was just so tired of leaking off the edge of the pantyliners I was using.

My last resort it to call my boyfriend over and get him to help me out. And I really don't want to do that.

Any suggestions?

Anyway, after I finally get it out, should I use it again, or do you guys think I might need a different cup? I was thinking of also getting a large LadyCup. Those of you with both, is the large LadyCup easier to remove?



I got it out about a minute or two ago, and it's been about 24 hrs since I put it in. So far, so good. I decided to defer my next cup use to the next cycle. I was tempted though, to put it straight back in :)

I spent all day today at a friend's house studying, and I decided not to even think about it anymore. So when I got home half an hr ago, I decided to give it another try. I went to the bathroom, sat down, and tried everything I read here. I tried pushing on one side until it broke, and it did, but all that happened was I got blood all over my hand. I guess I'd started my period and didn't notice! I tried walking it out, but couldn't get a grip at all; it felt as if I was just sliding my fingers down the cup and it was staying put.

Eventually, I decided there was too much blood for me to feel comfortable staying on the toilet, so I hopped in the shower. I squatted, and used my left hand this time. I got my finger on the rim and tried pulling, and I got the cup folded down half way and spilled ALL the blood that was in the cup. But it still wouldn't budge!!

I finally got the hang of "bearing down" everyone kept talking about, and the oblong cup puffed up and i got a grip and walked it out and out it popped!! It seemed like the easiest thing ever compared to what I was going through before!

Anyway, I have a final tomorrow and don't want to think about trying to remove it before it, so I'll wait a couple of days at least if not till my next cycle or after I see my Gyno for my IUD follow up later this week.

I'd just like to say THANK YOU to everyone here!! I would definitely have panicked if it weren't for you wonderful people!!
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m03m on June 22nd, 2009 06:01 pm (UTC)
Everything she said. Plus, once you have a firm grip (yes, they're slippery) try rocking it left to right in small movements, while pulling it out. That's a good way to break the suction.

Above all, don't worry. You *will* get it out. There's nowhere else for it to go.

I'm not convinced you need a different cup. I'd say you need some practice.
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Michelleradix_malorum on June 22nd, 2009 08:21 pm (UTC)
Thanks everyone for your help. As an update: I tried again, with your suggestions, but it still has a strangle hold on my cervix.

I ended up squishing it enough to push some of it's contents out, but it's still pretty wedged up there. And now I've got very very slight cramping which worries me because of my IUD. :(

I'll try again later.
morejellytoastmorejellytoast on June 22nd, 2009 05:54 pm (UTC)
This may not work for everyone, but using the tip of my pointer finger and the fingernail helps me keep a better grip on it.
Michelleradix_malorum on June 22nd, 2009 08:23 pm (UTC)
That seems like it would work, but I have no nails :( I'm a nailbiter...

I'm contemplating just pulling it out with pliers... but that's excessive, I think. :P
skyladagazskyladagaz on June 22nd, 2009 06:08 pm (UTC)
i hate my small ladycup it is WAY slippery and takes to much damn effort to take out, ill stick with my diva or mooncup uk.
crochetaduckcrochetaduck on June 22nd, 2009 08:53 pm (UTC)
I have a small ladycup and a small lunette, and I prefer the lunette on most days because it's much easier to get a grip on. I've only used the ladycup a few times, but it does get easier each time, so don't give up. Don't worry about not having fingernails--I tried using my nails to get it out and all I succeeded in doing was denting the cup. What helped me the most was the rocking as someone has already suggested, and most importantly having dry fingers, which will probably mean drying them off more than once in your removal process. Also, bear down as if having a bowel movement so that you can reach the base of the cup, or even better, the rim, because it's impossible to break the seal using the stem, and it's hard using the base of the ladycup because it's so squishy.
scrambledtofu on June 22nd, 2009 09:52 pm (UTC)
ASking your boyfriend to help with removal might help but in my one experience of having the cup stuck it was easier to get it out myself.
Mine was a small ladycup too, I used the 7 fold and it opened too early, rather than pull it out and start again I shoved it up assuming it would right itself - it didn't, it was sideways hooked around my cervix.
I asked my other half to help me get it out but she just panicked and prodded and poked it cos despite my best efforts at describin she didn;t know which way round it was. What worked for me was lying down, relaxing as best I could, bearing down a bit and having a gentle feel around to figure out exactly how it was positioned and then how to get it out. WHen it was nearly out I sat on the loo (I think in case I made a mess, or perhaps thinking it would be easier, can't remember)
Incidentally it came out rim first!
IIRC I used a bit of lube, but you may not want to do that cos it will make it more slippery but might help you get a grip of the rim.
Hope that's of some help.
shivadidj on June 22nd, 2009 11:34 pm (UTC)
The only thing I will add to what everyone has said is to be very very patient and wait a lot longer than you think you should for the seal to break. When I used a Ladycup (switched to Diva becuase the suction on the ladycup was too much for me, making for difficult removal like you describe. I have an IUD, too) here's how I would remove it:

-reach up with my longest finger
-press the rim of the cup towards the center
-wait for the seal to break
-wait wait wait. press hard towards the center, towards the cervix
-eventually, after many seconds (30-60) the suction will start to break.
-push the side or rim down, kind of into a crude punchdown fold
-drag out slowly

hth! good luck
Em: Criminal Minds // JJ Nods Knowinglyemploding on June 23rd, 2009 09:11 am (UTC)
My tip: masturbate.
It may sound odd, but if you do,and can bring yourself to orgasm, your muscles loosen and often you can slide it out mid-orgasm (in the shower works well, especially at first for mess factor!)
m03m on June 23rd, 2009 09:20 am (UTC)
Yay you! Well done. I'm glad you got it out without hurting yourself.
You'll definitely have better luck next time!