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13 April 2009 @ 10:43 am

I realize this isn't a new topic and others have posted before; I simply wanted to report my personal experience.

Without getting into too many details, I hadn't seen my guy in quite a long time and wouldn't you know it that I'd be on my period.  In any case, we got together and as things progressed I kept debating if I should go remove my cup and just fess up about being on my period leaving it up to him to see what he wanted to do (I hadn't told him I was on my period and he hadn't yet realized)...I don't mind having intercourse while on my period as long as the guy is okay with it and is the one to keep going and saying he's ok with it otherwise I am too self-conscious about it.  The other options were to go remove my cup and use an instead cup I had, just tell him I had my period and didn't want penetrative sex (so I would have essentially been the one automatically rejecting intercourse).

Anyways, I was getting so distracted with all this that I just tried to enjoy the moment and although I was hesitant he ended up trying to penetrate.  I finally mentioned he might 'bump' into something...I felt a little silly now!! but he obviously figured out I was on my period (but he didn't know anything about my using a cup).  Anyways, he couldn't feel anything and nor could I.  Now I was curious, I kept asking him and he kept saying he couldn't feel anything; I was amazed he hadn't even bumped the stem on my cup as it is still intact.  I usually also am quite 'tight' down there and expected it would be a tight fit with cup and all.  I was so shocked I actually ran off to the bathroom to check if all was well...my cup was still there though the seal had been broken so when I checked for my cup the blood just dripped all over my leg and floor!  As I was in the bathroom, no biggie,  I cleaned off and well I figured what harm in trying this again, so I reinserted my cup.  We had intercourse and the cup didn't interfer in any way.  He wasn't able to tell I had anything in there and I couldn't feel it at all; mind you we weren't very aggressive so to speak.  We do use condoms and that wasn't a problem either.

I suspect all in all, that the cup wasn't an issue as we were both quite excited and turned on, I had no problems lubricating naturally and we took things relatively slowly.  I certainly don't advocate having intercourse with your cup in, but if it does happen and it doesn't hurt or cause discomfort I guess it's okay to keep going.  I won't be making it a habit to keep my cup in while having intercourse during my period but I also now know I can just let things happen and not get so distracted with what to do and what to say...I'll just enjoy the moment and let things be and remove the cup if/when needed.
 
Ms. Kanegenericjanedoe on April 13th, 2009 03:57 pm (UTC)
I think this is very much one of those anatomical differences things...with me and how my cup rides, and how my husband is...there's just no way we could have penetrative sex when I'm using a cup. I'm always a little amazed to hear things like this...bodies are so vastly different.
heartofpink625 on April 13th, 2009 04:03 pm (UTC)
I agree. My cup sits relatively low - so I'm pretty sure my husband would be able to feel it.

But my period hasn't been an issue for three months now - it hasn't came, irritated about that a little.

Apparently I'm not pregnant though - at least pee tests are not showing it.
Jasmine Michelle: The Internets Are Coming To Get Us.ilovenirvana on April 13th, 2009 04:17 pm (UTC)
my cup rides different spots depending on the timing...like the first day, its LOW, the 2-3-4 days, its so high I have to dig sometimes lol. and the last days its low again. We could totally try that in the middle of my cycle but the beginning/end absolutely not way lol
ariel_la on April 13th, 2009 06:38 pm (UTC)
Yes, I t do find that my cup can sit a bit lower or higher depending on the day of my cycle. This particular time of my cycle the cup was a bit higher. When I went to check to see if in fact my cup was there, I did notice that my cup seemed to be sitting quite high and I suspect that was in part due to being sexually aroused...might be just a fluke I don't know as this was really a first time (sex and cup use during my period that is).
Baby Bloodheartbabybloodheart on April 13th, 2009 08:58 pm (UTC)
With an ex of mine I tried sex with a softcup...oh god no, he felt it and freaked out big time! He refused to try again with my diaphragm as a menstrual cup...

One time however I forgot my cup was in, I had left it in for three days...one of those days we had been having sex...he hadn't felt it at all, I didn't believe it...a cup meant for sex was felt so much so he freaked out, but he didn't notice my mooncup at all!
neurotic_orchidneurotic_orchid on April 14th, 2009 03:50 am (UTC)
Since having my baby, my cup rides lowwww. My man would have to have a 1-inch dick for that to work!

But that's pretty cool! haha
DQdamned_queen on April 14th, 2009 05:27 pm (UTC)
Some time ago I had sex while wearing my Lunette. My bf knew I was on my period but I didn't really care so we decided to go for it. To my utter astonishment he didn't even feel it was there! Btw I use a large size Lunette and I'm only 20 years old... I guess there's just waaaay more room when you're aroused.

He did end up a bit bloody in the end though, but it was okay considering it was one of my heavy days.
ariel_la on April 14th, 2009 10:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, I did notice a bit of blood but overall things didn't get as messy as they could have. I also had to conclude there is a lot more room when I am aroused. I usually do tend to be quite 'tight' even when aroused (at least from what I recall LOL) but in this situation the cup definitely shifted upward as did my cervix and he literally slid next to the cup, had to cause there is no way he otherwise would have been able to penetrate as he did. I must again remind you that he did take his time and slowly penetrated being aware I was wearing something (he didn't know that it was a cup though; he would have just assumed I had a tampon on). I would say he is average sized (not very small but certainly not large).
DQdamned_queen on April 15th, 2009 07:59 am (UTC)
Exactly :)

I remember that I just couldn't understand how he could not feel my cup was in. I guess the cup must have gone up together with my cervix because my bf has rather um... broad equipment and he usually only just fits (and bumps into my cervix quite regularly)

Mysteries, mysteries...
ariel_la on April 16th, 2009 10:53 pm (UTC)
I honestly wouldn't have thought he'd fit or at the very least would have expected all to be a tight fit. As you say...mysteries mysteries...leave it to the human body for all those mysteries. But hey, I won't worry!! No harm done and although I won't make a habit of it I know it won't hurt to 'play' around with my cup in place.