About 5 years ago, I started using Instead cups. They were easy to insert, comfortable, never leaked, but were almost impossible for me to take out because I had a horrible time hooking my finger over the rim to pull them out. Yes, I bore down and tried every position imaginable, but still had trouble. A couple of times after 20 or so minutes of trying to get one of those suckers out, I really thought I was going to have to get someone to come into the bathroom and help me. I even emailed the company to see if anyone else had this problem, but they sent me a not-helpful form response.
Two or three years ago I started using The Keeper. Again, it's comfortable, no leakage, but even though it's better than Instead because of the elongated shape and the long stem, I still have trouble taking it out. It's ironic to me to see that almost everyone trims the stem and some wish it were even shorter than that... I would be fine with the stem being a little longer! I often have trouble pulling it down enough to pinch the cup and break the seal, leading me to fear that I'm going to suck my cervix right out of my vagina. Also, it's worse because the stem and cup on the Keeper are smooth so they're slippery.
I was thinking of buying a new cup anyway in order to switch to silicone and am wondering whether any would be easier for me to use. Basically, my needs are: 1. silicone, 2. a long cup or, failing that, at least a long stem, and 3. a ridged stem/cup bottom (so it's grippier). I would also prefer a relatively "squishy" silicone rather than a stiffer one. Do you have a cup that you think would work well? Do you find the stem and base of your cup to be quite grippy? Do you find it easy to break the seal while still not having leakage? (p.s. Although I'm 30, I think I will still need the smaller size of any cup, if that makes a difference.)
I've tried reading reviews and comparisons, but most people seem to have the opposite problem from me so I'm having trouble gleaning much about this from the reviews. Sorry for the long post and thank you in advance for any input you might have!