ok so I took your advice on many things. I got ky jelly. I stuck my finger in there to feel where my cup would be going (nope never done it before haha). After that I lubes up the opening and the opening of the cup, which I folded into a pinch I believe it's called? I closed my eyes and relaxed leaning whilst on the potty. It went in. I twisted. And there it was! It stung a bit when I took it out. I'll read some entries on how to fix that. Thanks again girls!!!!
Ps if my grammar/puncuation is atrocious it's because I'm on my iPhone and I am not used to it yet.