Pros: Yay, no more bloody sex! My bf said he couldn't feel it, either. I find the Instead to be just as comfortable as the DivaCup, surprisingly.
Cons: While it didn't leak during my frolicking session, it leaked when I tried it during the daytime. Looks like I haven't really gotten the hang of it yet. Next time I give it a go, I'll let you gals know :-) But, hooray for now! I am just sad that if/when I get a Paragard IUD, I won't be able to use my Insteads...or can I?