1) are all of you female-identified? i'm not and i've been talking to a few other transfolk who talk about how their period makes them feel particularly female and how upsetting that is for them, but i don't have that and i wonder if there's any psychological relation to keeper-use.
2) right before my period, i get superhorny and crave really really hard sex with intense penetration. then i start bleeding the next day and inserting my keeper or taking it out hurts like crazy. does anyone else have this problem or any possible solutions (besides not indulging in the hot sex before bleeding, which is my current dissatisfying plan)?
3) my partner is not so into blood and honestly i'm not that much, either, so when i'm bleeding i keep my keeper in and there's no vaginal penetration. so we do a lot of grinding and rubbing against each other and stuff. i thought i'd cut the stem on my keeper pretty short before we dated, but lately it seems like it keeps rubbing against my clit in really painful distracting ways. how short does the stem actually need to be? i generally use the whole keeper to pull it out, since i squeeze it to release the suction anyway. what else is it used for?