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21 February 2015 @ 07:36 pm
Hey, menstrual cuppers! It's a new year (sorta) and we've got new members! It's really nice to see the community acting as a fresh resource for new and existing cup users.

If I could just ask everyone to take a look at the rules, that would be excellent. That includes new and old members. I've been observing some slippage on related topics and gender-neutral language on the part of both new and old members. The main thing is to keep this a civil and welcoming place for all cup users, so thanks for helping with that!
24 May 2018 @ 08:54 pm

I'm new to this community but I've been reading a lot because I just recently got the lily cup one so I don't have to buy pads during college. To give some information about me, I'm almost 18, a virgin, and I've yet to put a tampon in without feeling it so I wear pads. So I tried to put the lily cup one in but it physically wouldn't go in. I was relaxed, I've tried different positions and folds but the thing just hates my vagina. I don't even think there's enough room for it to even open and I couldn't even get it that far up and I checked to see how low my cervix is and I couldn't feel it so there should be enough length for it but there isn't enough width. I was also feeling around and when I put my finger in my vagina there was a divider in the middle and two holes and from what I felt they don't meet up anywhere. I don't know if that's my hymen and it's just at a weird angle or if there's something else weird about my anatomy but I feel like that could be a factor. 

23 May 2018 @ 09:01 pm

I've been using menstrual cups for 2 years now and i'm having problems with leaking.

I've already had 2 cups the first was a Meluna soft medium cup which worked fine and rarely leaked except for nights. I don't know why but every cup i own leaks during the night and i accepted that already. Now this previous cup got really soft on one side (i'm guessing my muscles and often constipation during periods lead to this). I had to get a new one which is what I'm using now.

It's a Meluna classic medium cup (the only difference was that i got a firmer one to avoid the fate the first one suffered). This one is the same size and everything but it leaks like there's no tomorrow. I've checked everything the cup was fully open, my cervix was in it (I have a dangly cervix so the cup can't really go around it) but it leaks (not much but it's constant). It's not full and i believe the sunction doesn't go away. 

When i put my cups in i always had to manually open it and put my cervix inside but rarely this happens on itself so i just have to check. I was never able to do the trick where you spin the cup by grabbing the bottom but i know the sunction is there because i can't pull it down. When i put it in the little ball my cup has just peeks out from my vagina. It's comfortable though.

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Hi everyone! I’m completely new to LJ and joined since this community has been quite helpful to me the past year as I’ve gotten used to my new menstrual cup. I prefer it so much more to pads but I have two questions (I’ve checked other discussions but my questions haven’t REALLY been answered though I’ve seen similar questions). FIRST, each first day of my cycle basically without fail I am unable to use my cup. It goes in but it won’t ‘pop’ open and form a seal so it just doesn’t work out. I use a LilyCup which I know a lot of people don’t use which is another issue:(. My second problem is that I still haven’t been able to not leak at all. I always wear a pad or panty liner because I will spot with my cup even though it’s nothing big, it’s annoying since I want to kind of give up pads completely. Please help!!! I find it really annoying every first day I can’t use my cup and I’ve never used one before this so I don’t know if I’ve just been doing something wrong this wholleeee time. Thanks in advance!!!!
16 May 2018 @ 08:42 pm

So I am brand new to menstrual cups (still currently on my first cycle). I love the idea of them and couldn't wait to try a cup for the first time. I have been using tampons since my very first period and everything about a cup seemed like a much better option. I purchased the Lily cup size A, I am 20 years old, sexually active, and have no children. I got the regular and the compact incase one did not work out, and so I could have an extra. Took a couple trys to get it in and out but after the first day I did not have any issues. I can easily get the cup inserted and have no problems breaking the seal and getting the cup back out. I have not had problems with leaks since I figured out how to properly insert it. All is good with that. 

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When removing menstrual cup, I would normally bear down, which led to this topic, will it caused prolapse? I read in a blog, people with prolapse should avoid bearing down, which means bearing down cause prolapse, does it? I have just started using menstrual cup from fleurcup. Advice please.
06 May 2018 @ 12:07 pm

Hello all,

I am 42 years old, never had kids and been using the Diva cup small every month for the past 2 years. Everything is great except for the second day of my cycle due to leaking. No matter what I do, I get leaking ONLY and ALWAYS on the second day. My period does seem to be heaviest on day 2, however, I have noticed that the cup will leak even if it's not full, or even empty. Sometimes I will put the cup and immediately start bleeding into my pants. This is driving me crazy. Any ideas what could be causing this? Should I switch to a different cup and if so, which one? 

Many thanks for your comments !

Hi All!

I have decided to take the plunge and try out a menstrual cup. I am SO overwhelmed by the choices, and I realize that it might be trial and error until I find one that is just right but with so many factors that could play into finding one that fits, I dont know which to choose. Based on my personal factors, can anyone offer any guidance as to which one might be a good one to start with and work well for a newbie?

Age: 39
Given birth (vaginally) to two 8+lb babies
Titled (retroverted) uterus that sits fairly high, slightly lower but still fairly high during my period
I am petite, 4'11" and generally small frame
Not particularly active
Also, the first day to two days of my flow are generally VERY heavy-heavy (super+ tampon every two hours or so).

Any ideas or guidance or brand and size? I dont want to be discouraged right out of the gate, so I appreciate the help!
01 May 2018 @ 06:43 pm

Hello all,

I was hoping for some help. I want to switch to menstrual cups as they're better for the environment and cheaper etc, and I have bought a moon cup but I just don't get on with it. I have the smaller size as I've not given birth and this is what they recommend, but I just find it SO uncomfortable! Also, I have quite heavy periods and for me it just doesn't really work, I have to go to the loo every 2 hours or so (sometimes even less) to empty it which is completely impractical for me when tampons usually last me 4 hours or so and I have serious leakage problems if I don't. The cup is full so it's not that I've not been inserting it properly or anything, it just doesn't seem to hold and fluid at all! Does anyone else have these problems? Should I just try another cup? Or are they maybe just not for me?

28 April 2018 @ 11:31 am

For some background — I am 28 and have a Lunette size 1. I've never had kids.

I tried using the menstrual cup for the first time yesterday.  Insertion went fine (I used the 7 fold).  I think I have a high cervix because I can't find it and when the cup was in it fit comfortably, stem and all.  

After about 2 hours I started feeling mild pressure in my abdomen.  I figured it was just because I was getting used to the cup so I didn't think anything of it.  I stood up and immediately felt nauseous, dizzy, and passed out.  I went to remove the cup and since I was still feeling dizzy I removed it a little roughly.  I don't think I broke the suction because my cervix has been pretty sore since.  I used a pad for the rest of the day instead and felt fine (aside from soreness) after an hour or so.  

I was going through this forum and found some very useful information.  I now know I had a vasovagal reaction. I just read up on that and it explained a lot of problems I've had in the past!  I used to have this reaction all the time when I started using tampons, but I never knew what it was.  I think it will go away with time since I was eventually able to use tampons.    

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26 April 2018 @ 08:43 pm
Hello everyone =)

Unexperienced cup user, I'm 22 and a virgin, regular flow and medium-high cervix. Just getting familiar with my small fleurcup, it’s my second cycle using it. And it's brilliant, I donn't have any problems opening it, I’m very comfortable wearing it and I was in love after the first day.  The grip rings are very pronounced and I was starting to get irritation, but wearing cup inside out fixed that problem. However, I have a feeling that something is wrong. After 5-6 hours wearing my cup it didn't leak as such, but I was starting to have light brown marks on my underwear. When it happened for the first time I thought that cup is full, but it was half empty when I checked. After I inserted it back, I cleaned the bottom of the cup and the opening of my vagina with wet wipes, but after a couple of hours there were traces of blood again. It seems that blood is slipping through the seal a bit. Can anyone advise me something? Is it me inserting it wrong or is it ok for it to leak this way? Unfortunately, I'm a student and can't afford to buy a different cup to try it out at the moment, at least not before I'm certain that it's not my mistake but just cup not working for me. Will be grateful for any advice.

18 April 2018 @ 11:27 am


I am new to menstrual cups and still trying to find the right one for me. I would really appreciate some advice as I'm getting seriously frustrated!

Background: I'm 26 and had my first child 2 years ago vaginally. My periods are light and have never filled the cup before (I change it twice a day, it's only ever been a third to a half full). I have average muscle tone in my pelvic floor, no problems in incontinence. I feel like I have a "short" vagina as I have had to cut the stems off of both my cups, as the stems were protruding out and irritating me. I do a lot of yoga and weightlifting (squats). I need a cup that is able to keep up with all the movement.

I first bought the Lunette small, used it for a few cycles, then got irritated with frequent leaking. It was only light leaking, but enough that I had to use panty liners both during the day and while I slept. It didn't perform well while I exercised, and I would sometimes even feel "gushing" as it leaked heavily.

Then I bought a Fleurcup large, but was immediately uncomfortable as I felt it coming down and pushing out of my vagina. When it did stay in place, I would get the same amount of leaking if not more.

I have tried different folds, and when I put it in I normally push and twist it up a bit further so it's better in place. I always run my finger around the cup to see that it has popped open.

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So the story is I recently invested in a Diva cup because I'll be moving to Japan in August and really don't want to have to deal with the whole trying to purchase feminine hygiene products and stuff and having to invest so much money into them like I do here in the U.S. I am 26 years old and have never had a baby or been pregnant or anything like that so I got the model 1 diva cup (I guess the small one?).

My period came and I was excited to use the diva cup. I have only ever exclusively used pads and I fear sticking anything much less a tampon into my vagina so naturally I was terrified. I have really NEVER been that super close and intimate with my lady bits ever before this point so I'm sweating bullets at this point. First time, I ended up getting it in with some trouble. The c fold didn't work and I couldn't get it up there so I tried the other fold and it seemed to do the trick. I didn't feel anything although I couldn't turn it 360 like the instructions said. So I just went to sleep for the night.

Woke up and wanted to take the cup out before getting in the shower. Read the instructions and tried taking it out. But I couldn't find the thing. Like I couldn't even feel it. How high is this thing supposed to go? So I horrifically had to go deeper and I managed to get past this like really hard space which I think was my pubic bone and I still couldn't feel it. At this point I'm almost knuncle deep with my pointer finger and still can't even feel the stem of the cup. I then bared down like trying to poop and I could finally just feel the tip of the stem but there was NO WAY that I could grab it or anything like that. I tried different positions and relaxing and breathing and pushing but I couldn't get the cup to come any lower than just getting the very tip of the stem over the pubic bone which I still count grasp because it was too far in to get two fingers inside to grasp it.

30 minutes goes by and I somehow miraculously get this thing out. I decided maybe I was just really anxious with it being my 1st time and decided to go for it again. Surely it wouldn't be as hard the 2nd time around because getting it in wasn't as hard the 2nd time. I was HORRIBLY WRONG. I spent over an hour trying to get the thing out the 2nd time. I did everything I tried the first time and even tried taking a hot shower and I could barely even touch the stem again. After over an hour I eventually basically ended up on the floor of my bathroom basically "giving birth" to my diva cup after breathing and pushing and positioning and crying and sweating and all sorts of things.

I don't want to completely give up on menstrual cups but I have no idea what I'm doing wrong? I watched YouTube videos of different people using diva cups and it seemed like the cup was right there for them to reach but I can barely touch mine. I don't want to have to go through this every time I use the stupid thing and I want to love my diva cup. But trying to remove the cup is almost killing the experience. Do I need a longer cup? Are my fingers just too short? Please help or is there any advice that could help?
02 April 2018 @ 10:04 pm
I bought a menstrual cup but it arrived after my periods ended. I started doing couple of dry runs without using Lube. I bought the SaNnap Menstrual cup which is manufactured and sold only in India.
Please help me with the problems below:

1. The insertion and removal is very easy for me. However, no matter how many times I insert it , the cup won't open once it's inside. I just can't get it to open even though I watched many Youtube videos.

2. The stem of the menstrual cup tends to touch the right of the vaginal wall and no matter how much I try t straighten it , It wouldn't straighten up.

Please help if you have any suggestions!
Current Mood: anxiousanxious
I’ve just got this account to ask for help so sorry if I’m using livejournal wrong or generally tagging too much because I thought I’d cover my bases. Apologies for the crappy post peeps.

So like I said, it’s my first cup and I decided to get an eva cup after thinking I probably have a high cervix and knowing it’s softer than some of the other high cervix cups like the diva cup. Did some digging and got in down to the diva, Eva and orgianicup (because there is a site selling them for £9.99 called StressNoMore I think but £13 with postage.)

My period is due around now and luckily feminine wear delivered in time :P

1. I didn’t know if I should try it out before I start or on the first day of my period as some reviews in YouTube said it’s easier if it’s your first time and you don’t have lube, I am a virgin if that makes a difference.

2. Just boiled he cup and realised when I looked to see if my soap was okay most people talked about liquid soap but the only non perfumed soap I have is a vegetable soap bar so idk if that’s okay or any ingredients I would check for to make sure it’s okay. Iirc it’s 100% vegetable supermarket branded.

3. Is there anything I should look out for to decide if it “works” for me, I know the Eva cup is quite a bit harder at the rim for example and it might make it hard to tell if I should change the firmness of a cup or get used to it. I’ve heard the problems most people find with an okay cup is it either doesn’t open but idk if there are any other problems I can “troubleshoot” like how to know if it’s too long, short, wide etc etc etc

4. To begin with how often would it recommend someone to begin emptying it if the have a “regular” flow. Idk what flow I have since I use pads but I wouldn’t want to empty it too regularly and cause more pain to start with but also not want to do it in public so what is a good time to leave it and see your flow.

5. Any good resources in cleaning in public? I have small bags or backpacks and really hate handbags so I’m definitely not carrying water around with me to clean it. Seems weird the eco friendly people recommend buying bottled water to clean the blood off. I was in feminine wear and got breast pads because I heard about cup spots and decided that I might as well use those especially as I’ve seen some YouTubers say they use them as wipes but didn’t realise that they were loads bigger (stupid really haha) so they don’t fit in my Eva cup pouch.

5. A little unrelated but I think i will also buy a very small set of cloth pads if it’s economical but they seem very hard to use public ally and carry around so what are the opInioins on that? I was thinking I’d get a night one because I don’t like the ide of having a very thick pad for in the day and know a night pad will be better to sleep in. What are the best materials to look for and also the cheapest way to just get one?e
26 March 2018 @ 09:55 pm


I've been using coconut oil as lube for a while now, but it leaves a residue that remains even after I boil my Meluna cup for 5-10 mins. At first you can't see it, but after it is completely dried and at room temperature it has this sticky white film and I am pretty sure it's coconut oil. Any ideas on how to get rid of it. I am worried because the Meluna site states "If oil is present during heat disinfection -especially in the microwave- it could damage the MeLuna cup".

Thanks in advance :)

22 March 2018 @ 12:57 pm
Hi! I'm a new cup user, and I just got a bell shaped cup because I have a medium-low cervix. I got the small size because my vaginal opening is very tight. I'm not a virgin, I'm just small in general down there. Well yesterday I inserted the cup and it was very comfortable with the stem sticking out a little.But after about an hour, I started getting terrible cramps to the point where I felt dizzy and nauseated. When I took it out, I noticed the cup had slipped upwards to where the stem was all the way inside. I trimmed the stem about a cm and tried again. It fits comfortably with the stem fitting right at the opening, but the cup slipped upwards again and I got cramps but they weren't too bad. I can't figure out if the cup is slipping upwards naturally, and the cramps are just my body getting used to having something bigger than a tampon inside. Or maybe if I trim the stem more, it won't slip upwards... I just don't want to cut the stem to short and then have more trouble removing it than I already do... I'd love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
17 March 2018 @ 01:13 am
Hi everyone! I've been using the DivaCup for about 3 years now and am starting to look into getting a new cup.
The DivaCup has worked OK for the past few years. It hasn't been perfect but it has made my periods so much easier.

1) I had to cut off the stem and file it down as much as possible because it kept poking me. I've never been able to find my cervix- but I'm assuming it is low? Is it possible to have a high cervix with the cup so low?

2) Sometimes (not every cycle), the cup will slide down when I'm walking and I will feel the bottom.
3) On lighter days, leaking is not a problem. On my heaviest days, sometimes I leak before the cup is full.
4) I tried flipping the cup inside out but it felt more uncomfortable.

I'm in my 20s, never had children/ am a virgin, and I'm from Canada.

Based on this, any recommendations? There are so many cup options now that I feel lost! I'm thinking I need a shorter cup, but I'm not sure about shape.
Thank you!
15 March 2018 @ 09:20 pm

I was really excited to get my Lena cup in the mail today. But I am struggling big time getting it up in there. And also wondering if I broke my hymen (not a big deal if I did but would like to know) The one time I got it almost all the way up in when I pulled it out there was bright red blood. I've been kind of sore down there this evening since I did that. Did I break my hymen? Will it be easier tomorrow? I really want to use the cup but I'm struggling. 

12 March 2018 @ 03:29 pm

Hi, I'm getting a new LilyCup Compact, and I was wondering, and I apologize if this has already been asked, but can you wear it for longer than the 10 hours that the company says? My flow is really light because I take birth control for PCOS, and I'm thinking that the 10 hours is because the cup is smaller, not because of some other problem. Can I wear it for 12 hours like I do my DivaCup? Again, I apologize if someone else has already asked this question.

10 March 2018 @ 07:39 am

Hi all, I'm new to menstrual cups and have been practicing for a few months with a regular size FemmyCup. I love the cup and really want it to work for me, my only issue is with insertion, but I can't find any info on my specific issue and was hoping someone here would have insight!

My vaginal canal isn't anywhere close to straight, it curves about half a finger's length in, hooking around my pubic bone almost? It curves forward toward my stomach, not back toward my tailbone. And I can fit the cup in perfectly until I reach that curve, where then my canal becomes very small and tight, and I have no idea from there how to push the rest of the cup inside me. The cup is not at all too long for me, my canal extends far past the curve, but it's like it just won't fit no matter what I do. About 80 percent of my FemmyCup fits in with no issue, but then the last end of it is left hanging out of me (more than just the ring, a bit of the bottom too) and I can't figure out the right angle or fold or whatever to make it slide all the way in.

Does anyone have any experience with this? I have a very high cervix and have never had penetrative sex if that matters at all.

06 March 2018 @ 01:57 pm

Hello all! Been a watcher of this community and you guys have given so many helpful tips on using the menstrual cups.

However, I seem to have a weird situation that nobody else seems to be having. God I hope not and that someone can help me.

So anyway, I recently bought a Sinaya cup (local brand) size small and took it out for a test run even though I haven't started my period yet. I bought water-based lube to help with the insertion since I am not sexually active. Insertion was fine and although there was some very mild discomfort, there was hardly any pain.

However, my cup won't go further in. The stem is outside the vagina and the base is just sitting there at the opening. When I stand (because I squat when I put it in), the stem gets covered by the labia so it doesn't look like it's out. It's not uncomfortable and I don't actually feel it inside me (hurray, I guess?). But the thing is, all the other videos and instructions I saw and read say that the stem should go in. When I try to push cup further, it just kinda deforms like you're squeezing a stress ball (or something like that). It really won't budge further!

Another thing is I can't get it to fully pop open. The rim seems to have sealed off but the base is slightly dented. Since I don't have my period yet, I don't know if this will leak. It also would not turn, like the instructions said to do to get it to open.

Any tips? Is this normal?

03 March 2018 @ 09:40 pm

I am new to this community but really glad I found it. This is my second cycle using the DivaCup and I am all but ready to give up. I have not once got it to work. I always leak. I have a upside down uterus, but I don't think this should affect me. When I felt where my cervix was it was quite low, right past my pelvic bone. I have tried everything I can think of and yet I still get leaks, every single time. Does anyone have the same problems? What am I doing wrong? I have tried the U fold, the push down fold. Tried sitting, standing, squatting. I can turn it fully and it feels open but something obviously isn't right. I am tried contracting while I push it in, pushing the air in, everything.

Please help!
28 February 2018 @ 06:53 pm

Hi all! :)

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've been using a Fleurcup size Large for a few years and I love it, but on the days of heavy flow I have to empty it every two hours or it starts leaking and that's a bit stressing sometimes. A bit TMI, but I also noticed I have trouble peeing while I wear my cup, I can only pee a little and I have to remove it to really empty my bladder. Doing some research I discovered this is caused by my cup pressing on my bladder. For the above reasons I am searching for a new cup, with higher capacity, and I guess more softer to solve the bladder issue? Among the cups available here in Italy I was looking at the amycup crystal size M, which has higher capacity than the fleurcup, but I have no idea if it's softer or not. Any advice?


18 February 2018 @ 09:21 am
First post, new cup user, and my brief browsing of tags related to allergies did not bring up what is happening to me, so I hope this post doesn't aggravate anyone... I will try to be detailed, in case timing is a factor, so bear with me...

Basic info: 32, 2 kids, no BC. So, I started using the Lena cup last month, it arrived 2 days into my period, and I had done some extensive research on it before hand, so when it came I was able to insert comfortably, had no trouble with removal, and had absolutely zero leakage the couple of days I was able to use it. I was very pleased and so stoked to be done with tampons and pads for good.

In anticipation of my cycle, I was wearing my cup all day Thursday and half a day Friday before I switched to a pad because I was now late for 2 days and I was wondering if I might be pregnant (we are actively trying, but haven't been able to conceive). Finally, my cycle started on Saturday. Inserted my cup, wore it all day, things are going pretty smoothly. Sunday morning, I dump and reinsert like normal, but after about an hour or so I discover I'm leaking, so I figure I must have insert it wrong and not had a complete suction. When I go to remove it, my entire vaginal area is completely swollen! My clitoris and inner labia are so swollen, I didn't even realize at first that the thing I was touching WAS my clitoris and my inner labia feel like they're just falling out of me entirely! It was like prodding my fingers into a huge hunk of raw meat! I could barely find the end of my cup, and when I finally bore down and removed it, I was too scared to reinsert. So I'm currently sitting in a pad.

Guys, is it normal for your parts to swell like that?? I mean, before this cup, I never touched myself down there during my cycle, so I don't know if this is normal or not. My only known allergies are to nickel. I had no swelling last month, but I also started using later in my cycle, so maybe I skipped the swelling stage? I've also never in my life had a yeast infection or UTI so I wouldn't know what those looked or felt like if I had one. I'm very freaked out about what's happening down there and it's got me leaning towards never using my cup again (even though I loved it last month). It really scared me because it really did feel like my vagina was just erupting out of my body. Just looking to see if it's just me... :(