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21 February 2015 @ 07:36 pm
Hey, menstrual cuppers! It's a new year (sorta) and we've got new members! It's really nice to see the community acting as a fresh resource for new and existing cup users.

If I could just ask everyone to take a look at the rules, that would be excellent. That includes new and old members. I've been observing some slippage on related topics and gender-neutral language on the part of both new and old members. The main thing is to keep this a civil and welcoming place for all cup users, so thanks for helping with that!
18 April 2018 @ 11:27 am


I am new to menstrual cups and still trying to find the right one for me. I would really appreciate some advice as I'm getting seriously frustrated!

Background: I'm 26 and had my first child 2 years ago vaginally. My periods are light and have never filled the cup before (I change it twice a day, it's only ever been a third to a half full). I have average muscle tone in my pelvic floor, no problems in incontinence. I feel like I have a "short" vagina as I have had to cut the stems off of both my cups, as the stems were protruding out and irritating me. I do a lot of yoga and weightlifting (squats). I need a cup that is able to keep up with all the movement.

I first bought the Lunette small, used it for a few cycles, then got irritated with frequent leaking. It was only light leaking, but enough that I had to use panty liners both during the day and while I slept. It didn't perform well while I exercised, and I would sometimes even feel "gushing" as it leaked heavily.

Then I bought a Fleurcup large, but was immediately uncomfortable as I felt it coming down and pushing out of my vagina. When it did stay in place, I would get the same amount of leaking if not more.

I have tried different folds, and when I put it in I normally push and twist it up a bit further so it's better in place. I always run my finger around the cup to see that it has popped open.

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So the story is I recently invested in a Diva cup because I'll be moving to Japan in August and really don't want to have to deal with the whole trying to purchase feminine hygiene products and stuff and having to invest so much money into them like I do here in the U.S. I am 26 years old and have never had a baby or been pregnant or anything like that so I got the model 1 diva cup (I guess the small one?).

My period came and I was excited to use the diva cup. I have only ever exclusively used pads and I fear sticking anything much less a tampon into my vagina so naturally I was terrified. I have really NEVER been that super close and intimate with my lady bits ever before this point so I'm sweating bullets at this point. First time, I ended up getting it in with some trouble. The c fold didn't work and I couldn't get it up there so I tried the other fold and it seemed to do the trick. I didn't feel anything although I couldn't turn it 360 like the instructions said. So I just went to sleep for the night.

Woke up and wanted to take the cup out before getting in the shower. Read the instructions and tried taking it out. But I couldn't find the thing. Like I couldn't even feel it. How high is this thing supposed to go? So I horrifically had to go deeper and I managed to get past this like really hard space which I think was my pubic bone and I still couldn't feel it. At this point I'm almost knuncle deep with my pointer finger and still can't even feel the stem of the cup. I then bared down like trying to poop and I could finally just feel the tip of the stem but there was NO WAY that I could grab it or anything like that. I tried different positions and relaxing and breathing and pushing but I couldn't get the cup to come any lower than just getting the very tip of the stem over the pubic bone which I still count grasp because it was too far in to get two fingers inside to grasp it.

30 minutes goes by and I somehow miraculously get this thing out. I decided maybe I was just really anxious with it being my 1st time and decided to go for it again. Surely it wouldn't be as hard the 2nd time around because getting it in wasn't as hard the 2nd time. I was HORRIBLY WRONG. I spent over an hour trying to get the thing out the 2nd time. I did everything I tried the first time and even tried taking a hot shower and I could barely even touch the stem again. After over an hour I eventually basically ended up on the floor of my bathroom basically "giving birth" to my diva cup after breathing and pushing and positioning and crying and sweating and all sorts of things.

I don't want to completely give up on menstrual cups but I have no idea what I'm doing wrong? I watched YouTube videos of different people using diva cups and it seemed like the cup was right there for them to reach but I can barely touch mine. I don't want to have to go through this every time I use the stupid thing and I want to love my diva cup. But trying to remove the cup is almost killing the experience. Do I need a longer cup? Are my fingers just too short? Please help or is there any advice that could help?
02 April 2018 @ 10:04 pm
I bought a menstrual cup but it arrived after my periods ended. I started doing couple of dry runs without using Lube. I bought the SaNnap Menstrual cup which is manufactured and sold only in India.
Please help me with the problems below:

1. The insertion and removal is very easy for me. However, no matter how many times I insert it , the cup won't open once it's inside. I just can't get it to open even though I watched many Youtube videos.

2. The stem of the menstrual cup tends to touch the right of the vaginal wall and no matter how much I try t straighten it , It wouldn't straighten up.

Please help if you have any suggestions!
Current Mood: anxiousanxious
I’ve just got this account to ask for help so sorry if I’m using livejournal wrong or generally tagging too much because I thought I’d cover my bases. Apologies for the crappy post peeps.

So like I said, it’s my first cup and I decided to get an eva cup after thinking I probably have a high cervix and knowing it’s softer than some of the other high cervix cups like the diva cup. Did some digging and got in down to the diva, Eva and orgianicup (because there is a site selling them for £9.99 called StressNoMore I think but £13 with postage.)

My period is due around now and luckily feminine wear delivered in time :P

1. I didn’t know if I should try it out before I start or on the first day of my period as some reviews in YouTube said it’s easier if it’s your first time and you don’t have lube, I am a virgin if that makes a difference.

2. Just boiled he cup and realised when I looked to see if my soap was okay most people talked about liquid soap but the only non perfumed soap I have is a vegetable soap bar so idk if that’s okay or any ingredients I would check for to make sure it’s okay. Iirc it’s 100% vegetable supermarket branded.

3. Is there anything I should look out for to decide if it “works” for me, I know the Eva cup is quite a bit harder at the rim for example and it might make it hard to tell if I should change the firmness of a cup or get used to it. I’ve heard the problems most people find with an okay cup is it either doesn’t open but idk if there are any other problems I can “troubleshoot” like how to know if it’s too long, short, wide etc etc etc

4. To begin with how often would it recommend someone to begin emptying it if the have a “regular” flow. Idk what flow I have since I use pads but I wouldn’t want to empty it too regularly and cause more pain to start with but also not want to do it in public so what is a good time to leave it and see your flow.

5. Any good resources in cleaning in public? I have small bags or backpacks and really hate handbags so I’m definitely not carrying water around with me to clean it. Seems weird the eco friendly people recommend buying bottled water to clean the blood off. I was in feminine wear and got breast pads because I heard about cup spots and decided that I might as well use those especially as I’ve seen some YouTubers say they use them as wipes but didn’t realise that they were loads bigger (stupid really haha) so they don’t fit in my Eva cup pouch.

5. A little unrelated but I think i will also buy a very small set of cloth pads if it’s economical but they seem very hard to use public ally and carry around so what are the opInioins on that? I was thinking I’d get a night one because I don’t like the ide of having a very thick pad for in the day and know a night pad will be better to sleep in. What are the best materials to look for and also the cheapest way to just get one?e
26 March 2018 @ 09:55 pm


I've been using coconut oil as lube for a while now, but it leaves a residue that remains even after I boil my Meluna cup for 5-10 mins. At first you can't see it, but after it is completely dried and at room temperature it has this sticky white film and I am pretty sure it's coconut oil. Any ideas on how to get rid of it. I am worried because the Meluna site states "If oil is present during heat disinfection -especially in the microwave- it could damage the MeLuna cup".

Thanks in advance :)

22 March 2018 @ 12:57 pm
Hi! I'm a new cup user, and I just got a bell shaped cup because I have a medium-low cervix. I got the small size because my vaginal opening is very tight. I'm not a virgin, I'm just small in general down there. Well yesterday I inserted the cup and it was very comfortable with the stem sticking out a little.But after about an hour, I started getting terrible cramps to the point where I felt dizzy and nauseated. When I took it out, I noticed the cup had slipped upwards to where the stem was all the way inside. I trimmed the stem about a cm and tried again. It fits comfortably with the stem fitting right at the opening, but the cup slipped upwards again and I got cramps but they weren't too bad. I can't figure out if the cup is slipping upwards naturally, and the cramps are just my body getting used to having something bigger than a tampon inside. Or maybe if I trim the stem more, it won't slip upwards... I just don't want to cut the stem to short and then have more trouble removing it than I already do... I'd love to hear your thoughts on this issue.
17 March 2018 @ 01:13 am
Hi everyone! I've been using the DivaCup for about 3 years now and am starting to look into getting a new cup.
The DivaCup has worked OK for the past few years. It hasn't been perfect but it has made my periods so much easier.

1) I had to cut off the stem and file it down as much as possible because it kept poking me. I've never been able to find my cervix- but I'm assuming it is low? Is it possible to have a high cervix with the cup so low?

2) Sometimes (not every cycle), the cup will slide down when I'm walking and I will feel the bottom.
3) On lighter days, leaking is not a problem. On my heaviest days, sometimes I leak before the cup is full.
4) I tried flipping the cup inside out but it felt more uncomfortable.

I'm in my 20s, never had children/ am a virgin, and I'm from Canada.

Based on this, any recommendations? There are so many cup options now that I feel lost! I'm thinking I need a shorter cup, but I'm not sure about shape.
Thank you!
15 March 2018 @ 09:20 pm

I was really excited to get my Lena cup in the mail today. But I am struggling big time getting it up in there. And also wondering if I broke my hymen (not a big deal if I did but would like to know) The one time I got it almost all the way up in when I pulled it out there was bright red blood. I've been kind of sore down there this evening since I did that. Did I break my hymen? Will it be easier tomorrow? I really want to use the cup but I'm struggling. 

12 March 2018 @ 03:29 pm

Hi, I'm getting a new LilyCup Compact, and I was wondering, and I apologize if this has already been asked, but can you wear it for longer than the 10 hours that the company says? My flow is really light because I take birth control for PCOS, and I'm thinking that the 10 hours is because the cup is smaller, not because of some other problem. Can I wear it for 12 hours like I do my DivaCup? Again, I apologize if someone else has already asked this question.

10 March 2018 @ 07:39 am

Hi all, I'm new to menstrual cups and have been practicing for a few months with a regular size FemmyCup. I love the cup and really want it to work for me, my only issue is with insertion, but I can't find any info on my specific issue and was hoping someone here would have insight!

My vaginal canal isn't anywhere close to straight, it curves about half a finger's length in, hooking around my pubic bone almost? It curves forward toward my stomach, not back toward my tailbone. And I can fit the cup in perfectly until I reach that curve, where then my canal becomes very small and tight, and I have no idea from there how to push the rest of the cup inside me. The cup is not at all too long for me, my canal extends far past the curve, but it's like it just won't fit no matter what I do. About 80 percent of my FemmyCup fits in with no issue, but then the last end of it is left hanging out of me (more than just the ring, a bit of the bottom too) and I can't figure out the right angle or fold or whatever to make it slide all the way in.

Does anyone have any experience with this? I have a very high cervix and have never had penetrative sex if that matters at all.

06 March 2018 @ 01:57 pm

Hello all! Been a watcher of this community and you guys have given so many helpful tips on using the menstrual cups.

However, I seem to have a weird situation that nobody else seems to be having. God I hope not and that someone can help me.

So anyway, I recently bought a Sinaya cup (local brand) size small and took it out for a test run even though I haven't started my period yet. I bought water-based lube to help with the insertion since I am not sexually active. Insertion was fine and although there was some very mild discomfort, there was hardly any pain.

However, my cup won't go further in. The stem is outside the vagina and the base is just sitting there at the opening. When I stand (because I squat when I put it in), the stem gets covered by the labia so it doesn't look like it's out. It's not uncomfortable and I don't actually feel it inside me (hurray, I guess?). But the thing is, all the other videos and instructions I saw and read say that the stem should go in. When I try to push cup further, it just kinda deforms like you're squeezing a stress ball (or something like that). It really won't budge further!

Another thing is I can't get it to fully pop open. The rim seems to have sealed off but the base is slightly dented. Since I don't have my period yet, I don't know if this will leak. It also would not turn, like the instructions said to do to get it to open.

Any tips? Is this normal?

03 March 2018 @ 09:40 pm

I am new to this community but really glad I found it. This is my second cycle using the DivaCup and I am all but ready to give up. I have not once got it to work. I always leak. I have a upside down uterus, but I don't think this should affect me. When I felt where my cervix was it was quite low, right past my pelvic bone. I have tried everything I can think of and yet I still get leaks, every single time. Does anyone have the same problems? What am I doing wrong? I have tried the U fold, the push down fold. Tried sitting, standing, squatting. I can turn it fully and it feels open but something obviously isn't right. I am tried contracting while I push it in, pushing the air in, everything.

Please help!
28 February 2018 @ 06:53 pm

Hi all! :)

It's been a while since I've posted here. I've been using a Fleurcup size Large for a few years and I love it, but on the days of heavy flow I have to empty it every two hours or it starts leaking and that's a bit stressing sometimes. A bit TMI, but I also noticed I have trouble peeing while I wear my cup, I can only pee a little and I have to remove it to really empty my bladder. Doing some research I discovered this is caused by my cup pressing on my bladder. For the above reasons I am searching for a new cup, with higher capacity, and I guess more softer to solve the bladder issue? Among the cups available here in Italy I was looking at the amycup crystal size M, which has higher capacity than the fleurcup, but I have no idea if it's softer or not. Any advice?


18 February 2018 @ 09:21 am
First post, new cup user, and my brief browsing of tags related to allergies did not bring up what is happening to me, so I hope this post doesn't aggravate anyone... I will try to be detailed, in case timing is a factor, so bear with me...

Basic info: 32, 2 kids, no BC. So, I started using the Lena cup last month, it arrived 2 days into my period, and I had done some extensive research on it before hand, so when it came I was able to insert comfortably, had no trouble with removal, and had absolutely zero leakage the couple of days I was able to use it. I was very pleased and so stoked to be done with tampons and pads for good.

In anticipation of my cycle, I was wearing my cup all day Thursday and half a day Friday before I switched to a pad because I was now late for 2 days and I was wondering if I might be pregnant (we are actively trying, but haven't been able to conceive). Finally, my cycle started on Saturday. Inserted my cup, wore it all day, things are going pretty smoothly. Sunday morning, I dump and reinsert like normal, but after about an hour or so I discover I'm leaking, so I figure I must have insert it wrong and not had a complete suction. When I go to remove it, my entire vaginal area is completely swollen! My clitoris and inner labia are so swollen, I didn't even realize at first that the thing I was touching WAS my clitoris and my inner labia feel like they're just falling out of me entirely! It was like prodding my fingers into a huge hunk of raw meat! I could barely find the end of my cup, and when I finally bore down and removed it, I was too scared to reinsert. So I'm currently sitting in a pad.

Guys, is it normal for your parts to swell like that?? I mean, before this cup, I never touched myself down there during my cycle, so I don't know if this is normal or not. My only known allergies are to nickel. I had no swelling last month, but I also started using later in my cycle, so maybe I skipped the swelling stage? I've also never in my life had a yeast infection or UTI so I wouldn't know what those looked or felt like if I had one. I'm very freaked out about what's happening down there and it's got me leaning towards never using my cup again (even though I loved it last month). It really scared me because it really did feel like my vagina was just erupting out of my body. Just looking to see if it's just me... :( 
12 February 2018 @ 08:21 pm

Hi, I'm really hoping someone could help me out with this.

Last year, I bought both the small and large Yuuki Classic as my first set of cups. I have a medium-low cervix, so I wanted to see what size would work best. For the first few months, I started out with the small, but it always leaked no matter what I did, so I tried out the large and found that it works better as I can walk, sit, and sleep in it without leaking. However, when I exercise.....that's when I have a bloody mess.

I can't do lunges, squats, push-ups, ab crunches, or yoga without it leaking, but it works great when I'm just out-and-about.
I make sure to empty it before I start my exercises and that it's opened, sealed, and my cervix isn't hanging out of the cup, so I'm not sure why I leak only when I exercise. I purchased the Yuuki because I heard it was so firm that it was great for sports, so I thought it would definitely work for my exercises, but it doesn't.

So, I started thinking all sorts of things like....Could it be that my pelvic floor muscles are crushing the cup as I workout? Or it might be too firm that it doesn't flex with my body? Maybe the shape of the cup isn't right?

I was thinking about purchasing a Lena cup because I heard it is also a firm cup, but the shape is different. It's more rounded on the bottom instead of being narrow. Maybe it would hold better? I just don't know. I've been dealing with this for a year now and kept thinking I was doing something wrong, but now I'm for sure that the cup is just not the right one for me as I've tried to make it work. It works great, but just not when I exercise.

Any advice/cup suggestions?  Note: I'm kind of a heavy bleeder.

12 February 2018 @ 10:15 pm

hello, this is my first post to this community and my first lj post in a looooooong while so do forgive me if i do some thing wrong!

at any rate, i am 22 y/o, sexually inactive and moderately physically active. i bought and used the divacup on the recommendation of a friend but gave up after a couple cycles because of how long and stiff it was. however i am newly tired of using pads again so i thought i would try to get one more suited for my body.

my main concerns are that i have a medium to low cervix (can touch it easily with my middle finger) and a very small opening which made removing the divacup pretty painful. i have a moderate to light flow (only a bit heavy on the first day or so) so don't need a lot of capacity.

i am considering maybe the si-bell based on what i've read but would love recommendations! thank you in advance.

05 February 2018 @ 09:41 pm

Hi all :)

I'm writing my first post so I hope I'm going to do it right. I'm having a problem with a heavy leaking from my Si Bell, it's been already around seven months that I use it and I think it's the time to ask for help because this is just not normal. So in the beginning it was also leaking, but I thought that I just needed to learn by practicing and I just kept trying different things to stop it from leaking.

I tried everything I found on the internet, folding it in different ways, trying to do it while sitting, while standing, with a leg resting on the top of the toilet, I tried twisting it inside, putting it deeper and less deep, pusshing it in the direction of the butt, pulling it when it's inside, everything and everytime I try to put it it just leaks. And it's not that it's full because when I pull it off it's just halfway full. 

I wish I could know what I'm doing wrong and I hope it's not that I'm weird inside and it will never work on me.

Thank you for your help!

05 February 2018 @ 10:32 pm

Hi, I'm new to menstrual cups and I've just started using mine last month. Since I have no experience with inserting anything into my vagina before this, I couldn't really test the cup until my period was almost over. However when I managed to get it in, I noticed that I was leaking.

I got to try the cup again this month and it happened again. My cup was collecting blood, but it was also leaking. Since it's the first day of my period, it leaked more than the last time.

I don't experience the 'pop' like some people say it does when inserting their cup, but I am pretty sure mine is open. I tried inserting in and pulling it out a little bit, tried putting in higher or lower but it still leaks.

I've also tried to locate the opening of my cervix. I didn't expect my cervix to be in the precise location like how diagrams are but all I can feel are walls of muscles. I can't really determine the opening of it. But I think my cervix is on the average height(?), since I can touch it with my finger.

One thing that I have noticed is the tip of my cup always tilts to the right. No matter how I position my cup, the tip tilts to the right after some hours.

Could this be the reason of the leakage? Or if anyone knows how I can stop the leaking?

Thank you in advanced to whoever that might be able to help me.

03 February 2018 @ 07:01 pm
I’ve used my menstrual cup (JuJu) for three cycles now. I feel liberated from buying disposables.

First time I used it, I had only a few tampons etc left, and deliberately did’t buy more, then sprained my right wrist badly (I’m right handed). Out of necessity, I persisted with insertion using my left hand! That first cycle was difficult with my left hand, though!! I remember trying to remove it late one night, exhausted, with my left hand, while my right hand throbbed with pain!

I did what seems to be the usual rookie mistake and believe the manufacturer’s diagram which implies that you only insert your cup half way along your vagina. I read around here, then tried again using pelvic floor muscles etc to push higher and seem to have sorted out insertion and removal 90% of the time now. Thanks for the wealth of information stored here, and the hive mind!

I seem to have been fortunate in buying the right size first time. What surprises me is how much things change each day of my period. Not just flow, but where the cup rests. First day everything seems “normal”. I think on my 2nd day it sits so low I feel the stem a bit in the lower vagina. Then around my 3rd day (I’ll have to take notes next cycle to be sure), it disappears so far up I’m glad i kept the full stem, and it tilts to one side and I have to prod around to find it (I’m pretty sure I have a tilted uterus).

So next cycle, I plan to take detailed notes, and maybe try to touch my cervix (gradually getting less grossed out by all of this), but suspect it’s quite high up...
31 January 2018 @ 01:04 pm

Hi everyone,

I am new to this group, and have been reading the posts. Thanks to everyone for making such informative entries. I was using a Yuuki cup, but I think over time that the rim changed enough so I experienced a lot of pain when I took it out.

Thinking nothing of this, I purchased a new large Yuuki, only to find it stiffer than the older one was previously. To make a long story a little bit shorter, I am now considering a shorter softer cup with a larger capacity, because my cervix is lower. I have narrowed it down to the Super Jennie or the Fleurcup from what I have read here, since those cups are shorter and softer. I also have a Lunette as a back-up, but it tends to leak on heavier days. My bladder is sensitive as well, so I am thinking that a softer cup would help that situation also. Could someone help me?

Thanks so much.

30 January 2018 @ 07:41 am

Does anyone use the femme cycle and have a high cervix? I am currently using a luv ur body and looking at the size comparison the femme cycle is almost half the size of the luv ur body cup. And as it is I have to bear down lots to get the luv ur body, so the size difference concerns me. But there just seems to be so many pros with the femmy comparatively, and the reviews are all good!! Please help with any advice .

28 January 2018 @ 12:47 am
Hey everyone!

So this is my first cycle using the Diva Cup model 1, I've always used pads, never have tried tampons before,my flow is low to medium, and though I'm not completely sure I think I have a medium height cervix.

The first night of my period I inserted the cup succesfully and went to bed, I had zero leaks and was super happy about that, but the next morning when I stood up, walked around my house and sit for a while, it leaked luckily I was wearing a panty liner; the same thing has happened for two days. I really don't know what's wrong, when I insert it I'm extra careful to make sure the cup seals, I rotate it and feel the ''pop''haha!

My other concern is that it has been giving very painful cramps, I usually have some discomfort during the first days of my period but that's not as painful as this. As soon as I remove the cup the pain is almost gone. Also, I had to take a break and put a pad on because I feel like my vaginal canal is kinda sore and swollen which I guess would make insertion and removal painful.

Sorry for the LONG post, but I really wish someone with more expertise could help me cause I want this cup to work, the benefits are fantastic and I bought it with some money I had saved cause it was a bit expensive so I'm not considering getting a new one. Thanks in advance!
28 January 2018 @ 01:37 am
I’ve been using a Large Classic Meluna for a year now and I can say that it literally changed my life! It was my first cup ever and it worked perfectly from the first use, never had any problems with it, no leakages, no issues with insersion or removal. I have recently got a Large Sport Meluna and it leakes! I felt bubbling after I got up from a chair after 5 minutes from insertion and went to check and it was leaking. I tried reinserting it again and again but I get bubbling every time. I’ll get back to the Classic for now but I was wondering if you guys had similar issues and why does this happen?
27 January 2018 @ 09:13 pm

I'am 17 y.o virgin I have never used tampon I have always been using pad and i started to search menstrual cup and i wanna start to use it but i am little scared of toxic shock syndrome i heard that 1-2 case about that (because of menstrual cup) and i am not sure about If i can use it cause like i said I haven't used tampon.. should i buy ? is it comfortable in constrast to pads.. ? (sorry about my english)