21 April 2014 @ 09:03 pm
Hi guys! I finally caved and ordered a cup (Small LadyCup), and it arrived the day after I started my period! I was so excited to try it out. I had a little bit of trouble getting it in, but I knew about the dreaded learning curve. Finally, I managed to get it in, and it opened up perfectly! It felt like once it opened up, it kind of got "sucked up" into my body? Is that normal? I wore it for a few hours with NO leakage, and I couldn't feel it at all! So far so good... but then came the removal. I trimmed about 1/3 of the stem off since I read that they are usually too long. I think this was a terrible move on my part. I could hardly reach the stem, let alone try to reach the base of the cup. I think the fact that I am a virgin made this way more difficult, too because I was stretching myself all which ways trying to get my fingers jammed up inside there. It's like it got sucked up too far inside my body.. Maybe I have a high cervix? I kept bearing down and trying again, but it never seemed to budge. Even when I managed to pinch the base, the suction wouldn't break. It was terrible! Is it normal for the cup to sit kind of high? Also when I finally maneuvered it out, the stem got STUCK on something (my hymen? Is that possible?) and stretched it until I moved it out of the way. I'm super disappointed in my first experience, especially since I paid $30 for this demon plunger. That's a lot on my poor college kid budget! haha I know it will pay for itself if I can get the hang of it, but I am so afraid to put it back inside me because I had such a hard time getting it out. Any advice?

To sum up my questions: Is it normal for it to get "sucked up"?
How high is it supposed to sit inside me?
Any tips for making removal easier?
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titaniumtrinitytitaniumtrinity on April 22nd, 2014 02:32 am (UTC)
I'm still trying to figure this out myself, but here's my experience in case it's helpful. Mine tends to sit pretty high, and I'm not able to get two fingers far enough to grab the base, I don't think it;s hurting anything if they sit that high. Sometimes bearing down gets it down far enough to grab and sometimes it doesn't, so maybe that takes practice? Did you try pulling down gently on what you could reach of the stem to get it down farther? And I think what you're talking about it getting stuck on probably is your hymen, I know I have to get the stem kind of aligned right so it's not in the way coming out. Good luck trying to figure out your demon plunger, I hope it gets easier :)
amj227 on April 22nd, 2014 02:45 am (UTC)
Thanks! I definitely think it takes practice, but I'm going to give myself a break before I try again. I tried pulling down on the stem, but it felt like once I let go, it just kind of slid back into place, and when I tried to grab it, I felt like I kept pushing it up further. Maybe I wasn't relaxed enough. I started to panic a little when I realized removal wasn't going to be as easy as I had imagined.

I'll have to be more careful aligning the stem to avoid it getting caught again. I had no idea that could even happen! haha
elisamba on April 22nd, 2014 06:53 am (UTC)
We've all been there, don't worry! Relaxation is very important. Not only are you dealing with a small cup on a high cervix, but from what I've read, you also bought the slipperiest cup.

It isn't impossible to keep using this cup, but once you save up enough again, others might be more comfy to remove. Once I discovered I had a high cervix, I never bought a short cup again. People are often selling their cups they tried once or twice, sometimes not even on their period, on this site's companion "mc_sales" if you're cool with buying a "gently used", sterilized cup (link on upper right).

I don't think you were catching the stem on your hymen, but your pubic bone. This happens to me, ironically, with my shortest-stemmed cup. The others, the stem just clears the pubic bone. My solution is to insert my thumb first so I am folding the cup away from the pubic bone.

Try this: squat in shower, insert thumb against front wall of vagina, bear down, grab stem, continue bearing down while rocking the cup from side to side and inching your fingers farther along the cup as you feel it come down. If it starts to slip back up, relax, open your mouth, deep breathe, etc. until you feel the opening relax again.

PS Try reading this site's "virgin's guide to cups", if not already done.
ever so slightly obsessedscien on April 22nd, 2014 07:16 am (UTC)
What position were you in when you were doing this? I would try squatting in the shower or bath, I find that makes it a lot easier to reach comfortably.
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 22nd, 2014 01:41 pm (UTC)
Despite what EVERY cup company says and shows in their illustrations, there will NOT be a cup-length or more between the rim and the cervix. ANY cup will/should eventually settle (O) in the fornix around the cervix. The height of the bottom of the cup will be relative to the length of the cup and the length of the vagina. In your case, you seem to have a long vagina and a short-bodied cup so yes, the base will seem like it's way the heck up there. As the others have said, stay relaxed, keep your jaw slack, don't forget to breathe and TAKE YOUR TIME with removal. If all else fails, a spoon can be a helpful removal tool to break the seal and coax it down.
amj227 on April 22nd, 2014 02:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you guys for all your help! I tried attempt number 2 squatting in the shower like some of you mentioned. It definitely helped, but it was still a very slow process filled with failed attempts. I will have some wicked thigh muscles from all this squatting though!

Once I can get a good grip on it, it's not so bad, but it's slippery and pretty far up there. I do think I need to purchase a longer cup. Any suggestions?
Kai: 2Cupskuradi8 on April 22nd, 2014 07:15 pm (UTC)
There are size charts at http://sizecharts.livejournal.com/ and several other versions at the Community FAQ. mc_sales is a good place to buy, sell or trade gently used cups that didn't work out.
ilssmilssm on April 22nd, 2014 10:55 pm (UTC)
I just posted to the community my sad little journey with Lady Cup, maybe if you wanna check it out. That's up to you though.

I don't really have much good to say about Lady Cup, I had a small size of this cup as well and found removal SUPER difficult every time. I think I've tried it on about 6 cycles and always gave up. I just bought a Diva a couple days ago as it's a decent amount longer than the Lady Cup and I'm finding it to be a much better experience. It's much softer than the Lady Cup and I have no trouble reaching or removing it. Since it sounds like we had similar issues with removal, perhaps a Diva Cup would work better for you as well? For more on that, check out my other post. :)

It is normal for a cup to "ride up" in there, it's just finding a length of cup that works with your body. Cups will naturally cozy up with your cervix, so that part is normal.

If you do keep trying with the Lady Cup, I found sitting on the toilet and leaning way forward (chest toward your thighs/knees) and baring down was helpful. Also, keep some toilet paper handy to keep drying your fingers. The dryer your fingers with a Lady Cup, the better.

Good luck! I hope you get it all figured out.
amj227 on April 23rd, 2014 04:51 am (UTC)
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like we have the same problem! It's funny because originally, I had wanted to get the DivaCup but was intimidated that it might be too large and firm for a first timer. Same thing you mentioned in your post! I'll just have to save up and try again with a DivaCup!
elisamba on April 23rd, 2014 07:06 am (UTC)
The Diva sounds like a good choice, I can also recommend the small Gaiacup, similar length and shape and softer with almost no rim.
bekareebekaree on April 23rd, 2014 01:02 am (UTC)
I find that my diva cup is easy to reach, even though I've got a high cervix, too. Good luck!
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