Allibean
30 January 2014 @ 06:33 pm
Hello all! I've been lurking for about a month and just received my Medium MeLuna with a ring base in the mail yesterday, so I thought it was finally time to come out of the shadows.


I'm a 25 year old woman in a sexually active long term relationship. I have exclusively used tampons since high school. However, I have been on birth control for 9 years and have found that with the pills I am on now, my flow is very light and tampons have become very irritating to my vaginal walls. I'm also a big ol' fire spinning hippie, so yay Mother Earth!

I did some lurking around (reading all of the tags relevant to my experience and size) after a friend of mine posted on Facebook about how much she loves her Diva. I did some poking around for my cervix trying to figure out which would be best. My cervix is easily reachable, which led me to the MeLuna (also, wow, so customizable!) however, I have been told by doctors that my cervix is somewhat tilted to the side. My one concern because of that is placement and potential leakage when it's time to nut up or shut up in two weeks.

I did a dry run today, just a quick insert, adjust, and remove before it could get too settled. The punch down fold was great for insertion and it was very comfortable once in. But I must admit, I do still have slight apprehensions about not being able to get it out. I know, I know it can't get lost and I am very comfortable with my anatomy, but I just have irrational visions of squatting on the floor trying to give birth to my cup. Or ruining a pair of pants because I place the thing wrong (thanks, cervix).

With that being said, does anyone have any further words of wisdom for me?

Also, thank you thank you thank you for being such an accepting, helpful group of people. I don't think I would have been able to make the switch alone. It was enough for me to bring my Livejournal account out of hibernation.
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generalsmallmountainsmallmountain27 on January 31st, 2014 05:05 am (UTC)
Let us know how you like the cup and post about it. Definitely helps for those who are shopping for a new one.

Welcome here.
elisamba on January 31st, 2014 08:53 am (UTC)
It's probably better to just approach the cup knowing some odd things WILL happen during the learning curve and be prepared to laugh them off. (I went three cycles with zero leaks, then the worst leak of my life after sleeping all night - so glad I was home). Plan on wearing a back-up pad for a few cycles. My first removal took an hour and yes, was very much like giving birth lol (squatting, pushing, using both hands). :) Now it takes about 10 seconds.

That said, the cup IS easier to remove when it is full, so dry runs can be misleading. Not only is your cervix higher at other moments of the cycle, but the empty cup has more suction. Getting rid of the suction is key - don't keep pulling unless you have heard the little sound of suction being released. Pinch the base and try pulling at a sharp angle to get air in there.

With light flow and a medium (or low?) cervix, it sounds like you picked the right cup (small or medium?). Having that extra info about your cervix is a huge plus, since you can aim the cup that way upon insertion, squeeze the base while pushing the pelvic muscles, and increase your chances of proper placement.

Enjoy your cup!
amanda_1307 on January 31st, 2014 12:15 pm (UTC)
Let me just say for removal it is a total non issue!! I got my cup on mc_sales and the woman I bought it from had already cut the stem off. So for a newbie cup user I was terrified. I also did some dry runs which were very difficult because everything was so dry te cup felt HUGE! Plus a very helpful tip I read after already doing a few trial runs said to point it down toward your tailbone which totally helps during insertion. I also struggled a few times to get my cup to pop full open. It would end up flat and I could barely turn it. Another AWESOME tip that stopped me from giving up on the cup all together said that to inflate your cup put your finger all the way in and push on the back wall of your vagina which will let some air into the cup. You will probably hear the air and will then be able to turn it easily. As for removal I just squeeze the base of the cup and pull. I have never once heard the popping sound that most women describe so don't be worried if you don't eat that. I normall pull the cup out at kind of an angle to stop myself from spilling. Which has never happened but I still like to be careful not to make a mess. Well those were the number one things that helped me as a new cup user. Good luck!!! Oh another thing I do which most people say not to.. I only change my cup once a day. I'm a very light bleeder and since there is no risk of TSS it just doesn't seem necessary for me to change it every 12 hours. I've never filled my 1 oz cup higher than the 1/4 oz mark and don't have any messes while removing but most people say not to fill it up all the way or it can get a little messy. Good luckkk!
amanda_1307 on January 31st, 2014 12:15 pm (UTC)
Let me add that I've never had a single leak but I did use a panty liner for the first couple days to make sure I had it down :)
amanda_1307 on January 31st, 2014 12:17 pm (UTC)
Just remembered one more helpful tip I saw on a YouTube video. After your cup is in place and you have turned it 360 degrees to make sure bear down with your muscles and push on the cup. Then release your muscles while still pushing up and you will get a nice tight fit.
REGEEregee0304 on February 1st, 2014 04:09 pm (UTC)
Does this push the cup onto the cervix?? Or further around the cervix? Just wondering, will have to try this.
Luceafaraluceafara on January 31st, 2014 01:32 pm (UTC)
Congrats to your new cup!! Which softness did you get? Below are some tips based on my experience. They may or may not be useful - everybody is different.
My very first cups were soft Melunas. I put them in ice water or, at the very least, hold them under cold water before insertion, because some of them take a bit of coaxing to open inside otherwise, especially if you are new to cups.

I also only remove mine once a day, in the shower. I've never had a cup stuck inside, and I use my cups every single day. One thing that I never managed to do was turn my cups once inserted, but I've also never had any major leaks, so don't dispair if you can't turn it 360 degrees. Especially the soft Melunas suction up right away and may be hard to turn. Once inserted, you'll just need to make sure that the walls of the Meluna are not stuck together through suction - again, this only happens with the SOFT Melunas and less with the medium size than with my S, for instance.

Some peope manage to have intercourse with their MCs in - thought I'd mention it since you already do it with Insteads. Which leads me to another topic: when I am turned on, my cervix travels upwards, taking my cup with it. If you can't reach your cup because it's suddenly super high, and even trying to think of baseball and relax doesn't help, the easiest way is not to keep on trying but do something else and try to reach it again in a bit. If it happens in the morning, for instance, make some coffee, then try again. This works for me. It only ever happens to me with the Meluna Mini S with ball stem, because it's so very tiny, but who knows...
..::bella vita::..por_que_no on January 31st, 2014 03:53 pm (UTC)
Welcome! Definitely report back on how the Meluna works for you--it will absolutely be easier to remove when you're actually on your period because everything is a bit looser (dry runs are always a huge fail for me)

I wouldn't worry about the tilty cervix either. Mine is tilted towards the left and this is only an issue with my Femmycycle, which has a totally different design from most cups (I have to remember to insert it sideways with the folded part towards the right so the left side is more opened up...if that makes sense). I've never had to do anything special inserting my Si-Bell or Lily. Melunas were a fail for me because my cervix is really high but if yours is easily reachable you'll probably find them a lot more comfortable...good luck!
faranth22faranth22 on January 31st, 2014 11:06 pm (UTC)
Congrats on your new cup! You are right, it cannot "get lost inside you". If you do have trouble with removal just remember to RELAX (this is the most important thing!) and as you said squatting & bearing down will help. The good news is it will not hurt anything to leave it in for exrended periods of time- no risk of TSS.

There is also the option of cloth pads in case of leaks while you are in the learning curve. You can get them in funcky colors/prints. There are many sellers on Etsy. A couple of my favorites are Amy's Rag Bag (upcycled fabrics!) and Pink Lemonade.
Kathlynekathlyne on February 1st, 2014 12:01 am (UTC)
My cervix points to the left, and since I figured out that sometimes I was missing it (the cup opened up to the side/above the tip of my cervix), I don't have leakage problems.

You DON'T have to spin the cup. If it works for you, fine, but you don't have to.

I insert the cup and push on the right side of my vaginal wall to let air into the cup and help it open to the left. Then I swirl/stir around the cup with my index finger. If I can feel the tip of my cervix, then I know I missed and I reposition the cup. Since you say you can easily reach your cervix, swirling/feeling should be easy for you.

Good luck!
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