30 May 2009 @ 07:41 pm
Hi there,

I have just purchased a Diva Cup, and so far so good. My only problem is the stem poking me. I am quite tall (5'10"), and the cup sits fairly far inside of me (I'm guessing my canal is long). The stem sits inside of me, rather than right in the opening. I find when I move around the stemp pokes me inside, or pinches a little. I don't think I can trim the stem at all, because I would never be able to get the cup out (the stem is vital in my removal, because the cup sits so far up in me). 

I am hesitant to try the larger size because I am quite slim, and find even size 1 is a bit wide for me.

Any tips from women with the same problem?

Thanks!
 
 
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Silent Dreamer2dreamsilently on May 31st, 2009 03:42 am (UTC)
catseatsocks suggestion is good. My cervix sits pretty high up, but my cup sits low. (Dunno why, but I don't argue with it.) The stem would poke me, it was very annoying. I had to take the whole thing off.
fireaphidfireaphid on May 31st, 2009 10:15 am (UTC)
If you're already bearing down to remove your cup, you can try beveling the edges of the stem. Rather than cutting off some of its length like |_|, you can round out the corners like \_/. I didn't need to do this to mine because I can't feel my stem, but I do find that my cup sits so high that I cannot even touch the stem until I bear down significantly. I'd also recommend trying it out for several days on your period to see if the discomfort goes away as you get the hang of insertion and removal and/or as you learn to remove the cup without using the stem.
Daniamanita03 on May 31st, 2009 02:51 pm (UTC)
Wow, I've never heard of anyone cutting the corners of the stem like that...cool.
Jored_jezebel on May 31st, 2009 09:00 pm (UTC)
I agree with other posters, once the stem is off the bearing down thing works!

I'm the same as you - although I'm 10" shorter! - my cup seems to like sitting VERY high up inside of me. I've had a cup for about 7 years now and when I first started using it the stem did hurt me too. However, I too was concerned about cutting the stem and not being able to reach the cup. But it was so painful, the whole stem had to come off before it stopped hurting.

So, here is how I get the darn thing out: Because it sits so high inside of me I've found that when I bear down, I can just about reach the bottom to hold it with the tips of my thumb and forefinger (sometimes it's a tiny hold!). I then relax (stop pushing). Because I have a hold of the bottom of the cup, it doesn't travel back up. I then bear down again, this pushes it towards the entrance again. I can then get an even better grip before relaxing again. REPEAT (bear dow, grip, relax - SLOWLY) - each time I can get a more of a hold as it gets lower. Please be careful, as the suction hasn't been broken at this point. As SOON AS you can get a finger in high enough to break the seal, do it. Then I just angle the cup so the rim of it "pops out" (for want of a better description).

Hope that alleviates any worries about not being able to reach it. The vagina can push out a baby, it can sure push out a cup with far greater ease and no pain! Good luck.
Zebruizebrui on June 1st, 2009 01:04 pm (UTC)
I had the same problem with Mooncup UK. The stem was fully inside me but still pinching and poking inner walls mercilessly, especially when sitting. I didn't try to work with it I'm afraid, but switched to lunette with its wonderful completely un-poky stem ^^
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