21 February 2015 @ 07:36 pm
Hey, menstrual cuppers! It's a new year (sorta) and we've got new members! It's really nice to see the community acting as a fresh resource for new and existing cup users.

If I could just ask everyone to take a look at the rules, that would be excellent. That includes new and old members. I've been observing some slippage on related topics and gender-neutral language on the part of both new and old members. The main thing is to keep this a civil and welcoming place for all cup users, so thanks for helping with that!
I would like buy Si Bell cup. Is there any custom fees for that to ship from UK to US.If yes how much it will be?
20 May 2015 @ 10:01 pm
Hey all,

Gosh, it's been a while since I last set foot here! I have a bit of a specific question I was hoping someone might be able to answer.

When I use my cup (a small Meluna - can't handle anything else and it's usually big enough anyway), I have to use a liner as well, because I always get some level of leaking/spotting. However, the leaking doesn't look like blood at all, it's just a kind of very light brown colour, but darker than the normal between-periods discharge. Sometimes there's quite a bit of it, as in, a liner full.

Any ideas on what this is and why it happens? Does the blood sitting in the cup kind of separate after a while? Is there something other than the cervix where some sort of vaginal fluids can escape from? Sorry, this is a bit of a weird question, but I figured this is probably the place I'm most likely to get any hints.

Thanks in advance!
20 May 2015 @ 12:16 am
Hey everyone! First off I wanna say I love this community! It was so much help to me a year ago when I bought my first cup!

Anyways I want to purchase a new cup. I currently use a medium classic meluna that I cut the ring off of and it works great except when I sleep on my heavy night it overflows so much! And I have to empty it often during that day. I use reusable panty liners too and sometimes it leaks through those as well :(

So I need a cup with a higher capacity but I have a medium to low cervix. I can get about midway between the first and second knuckle before I feel it and it usually ends up at least part way inside my medium meluna.

I was thinking about the low cervix femmycycle but I think the dang spill proof rim on the thing would drive me crazy! (I don't want to stick my fingers in there, plus it would make it harder for me to clean as I am a college student and usually wipe with toilet roll for normal removal and rinse it off during my showers)

I was also thinking about getting a Ruby Cup (not sure M or S yet) and cutting the stem off.

Any other suggestions? Or has anyone successfully removed the spill proof rim thing?

Thanks so much! :)
19 May 2015 @ 09:15 pm
So, after a few months of consideration, I've decided to get a cup. The only problem is that I am a virgin with a very low cervix. Unless I'm not finding it right, no "reaching" is needed to get to it, so it is very low. I'm quite comfortable with my anatomy, so although i have never used tampons (i'm quite active and would hate changing it), I think I won't have that phase of "ew something inside of you.". So, what kind of cup would you reccomend? I'm thinking about the skooncup or the softcup, but whatever's best. It pretty much has to be:

For low cervixes
Good for swimming
No latex (I've got a sensitivity to it)
18 May 2015 @ 07:15 pm
I'm 16 years old, never had anything penetrate my vagina aside from fingers during the Dry Run(s) prior to actual Period Run for my menstrual cup which is happening right now. When a finger is inside, I can't touch the cervix (if that tells anyone where my cervix is high/low/"normal"), when the Divacup is inserted, i can feel the base of the cup just an inch before my finger is inside.

This is the first period cycle that I'm using my menstrual cup.

Inserting it is fine, sometimes it pops open early (just outside the vagina) and-OUCH! Other than that, goes in fine. I use a punch down fold because that's the best I can do. Now, I'm scared of it opening once inside because the 'pop' hurts. I can feel it in my vagina, and just earlier when inserting it, felt the 'pop' (maybe it's the air(?) that's travelling and stopping) into my right ovary (if that's possible)? During insertion, both legs + right ovary feel weird (numb?). After insertion, it's fine.

I'd also like to use the Divacup inside-out (just for comfort), but i found if i even lightly press on the base, it will turn in on itself...and I'm scared of using it that way, for the fear it would do that inside once I insert it. Since I can't insert fingers with my cup inside, and i can only insert two fingers with nothing inside, that would not be an ideal situation.

As for removing the cup, slowly zig-zagging it out kinda hurts (seal+suction hurts?) and when I do the sort-of C fold, the contents slosh out messily.

Any idea(s) on what I should do about the popping, inside-out, and removal issue? Thank you.

Edit: I sucked it up, and psychologically--the popping it isn't as bad as before. Once I gotten better at removal, it doesn't hurt as much.
17 May 2015 @ 09:24 pm
Hi All!

I'm back with more questions. My first cup, a small Si-bell has been great aside for some, now inexplicably resolved, rectal pressure. I was even able to wear it during ballet class with no leaking. However, I think a semester of ballet and my recent discovery of AcroYoga (the most fun I've had in a long time!) have strengthened my pelvic floor muscles. The Si-bell is still fine when I'm just hanging out or walking around, but now when I exercise with it in it leaks. I'm now looking for a firmer cup, but not one that's too firm as I'm worried it will cause rectal pressure.

I'm 22, a virgin, and I have a moderately low cervix. Maybe a Lunette or Fleur (is the Fleur firmer or just as soft as the Si-bell?)? Also, I've tried a small Cuplee and Organicup size A and liked how removal felt for them better than the Si-bell. However, they both leak, the Cuplee always and the Organicup when I exercise. I'm not sure if that's due to size (for the Cuplee), softness (probably for the Organicup), shape or some combination of these factors. One last thing. I do a lot of inversions during AcroYoga and one of the times my cup leaks is when I turn back upright. Do you think I'll be able to find a cup that doesn't leak in this scenario? Maybe I should also add, I love the quality of the Si-bell's silicone (definitely the nicest of the three cups I've tried) and prefer a matte cup.

Sorry for the long post. If you've gotten to the end of it, thank you for staying with me!
I'm 13 years old, virgin, and my last 4 or 5 cycles have been me trying to get a learning curve around the menstrual cup, and I run into the same problem each time.

The First Problem: It never really opens up. I can get it in there with ease, but nearly 3/4 of the time it just won't open in there. I've tried different folds and insert positions, but it still doesn't go in. If I do get it to pop open, I'm then left with a paranoia because I don't really know the felt difference between the cup being open and there compared to the cup being open and suctioned in place. It gets to a point where I'm stuck reinserting it so many times I just can't use it any more because I'm frustrated beyond belief and I've irritated the vagina with so much action.

The Second Problem: If I do manage to get the cup in, it leaks. I have a sort of medium-heavy flow, and it leaks. The only time it doesn't leak is when I near the end of the cycle, but this is probably only because there's no blood to really pass by and leak through. I've tried sitting it low and up high, but its of no use. (Additionally, while browsing on here I found a solution where you put it up so the cervix is in the cup, but I'm not quite sure how to do that right.)

I started with a Lunette Model 1, but I tried switching to Diva Cup's Model 1 to see if it would fix. Both have the same problem, but the leaking is worse with DivaCup.

Any help or ideas?
Hi. Topaz here. First time Diva cup user. I regret this cup so much - clearly the fit isn't right. I did so much research! Such a let down. I'm going to get a longer cup with a longer stem for my next cup. This is just silly.

So, there I was. Nearing the end of period. I am thrilled with the diva. It's easy to put in and take out (until now), convenient and environmentally responsible. So much better than tampons. I have a heavy flow - Diva said no problem. Took care of me really well. No leaks even when riding my horse and biking.

Last night I thought I heard the pop. Now I'm sure I didn't. I woke up this morning and the cup went poof just totally vanished up my vag. And I'm not a virgin so I sent in the troops.

Excavating in the bath didn't work. Bearing down didn't work. I can't even find the stem. I don't know if it's upside down or not.

The second brave soldier I sent up after my fingers was a spoon. Went up along the back wall to get it out. Squatted to shorten the canal. I felt something that was hard and plastic-feeling. Eureka! So it's up there. Waaaay up there. Somewhere in my nether regions.

I drank a vodka cooler to help loosen the pelvic floor muscles. Now (at 1:30am my poor neighbours) I'm breaking out the vibrator. I read the whole internet on this subject and figured a little muscle-loosening alcohol can't hurt.

I already did the panicking/thinking I'd have to go to the ER. Now I'm just content to let it sit and try everything you guys throw at me. Please help.

Things I've tried:
- warm bath
- drinking alcohol
- getting turned on/masturbating
- using a spoon (I felt it last night for a second)
- using a spoon again
- using a plethora of different spoons
- squatting, lying down, birth position, on my side, standing
- relaxing
- sleeping - giving my vag a break to try again this morning
- another hotter bath
- lots of lubricant
- a longer spoon
- (while drunk) tried to get my hand inside to find it. No luck and it killed like a Mofo.

Things I am going to try:
Having my bf help (poor guy)
Buying a speculum at my local kink store to see if we can locate it that way
Clitoral stimulation (again) to try and loosen up the area around it.

Thanks in advance. This community is awesome.


Topaz 20 year old but still clueless
15 May 2015 @ 04:13 pm
hello everyone,

I am finally going to purchase my very first cup ever and I'm finding it difficult to decide on one.

I posted a couple months ago really confused about how to find my cervix and i have discovered that i have a tilted cervix? It kind of feels like a knob/bump on the side, like it wasn't at the end. I can stick my finger past it. But i can stick my finger in to the second knuckle before i feel it on the side. It was just so odd and confused me for the longest time so that I put off purchasing a cup until now that I've sort of figured myself out.

I'm 17 and am a virgin. I have narrowed my search to the si bell cup and the lunette and i just was wondering which one works best. Also if anybody wants to tell me things/give me advice about tilted cervixes that would be great.

12 May 2015 @ 10:46 am
The closest cup I have to a goldilocks is the large Fleur, which is easy to insert, remove, clean, and creates an excellent, leak-free seal. It still runs a bit short on capacity (I'm a champion bleeder). I dream of a cup I can wear to sleep soundly through the night without getting up to empty it. I can fill the Fleur about 3/4 of the way full before it starts leaking. My cervix definitely takes up some space.

Things I like about the Fleur: The bell-shape helps me get more out of the capacity than the Yuuki with the cervix issues. The Yuuki I could never fill past halfway, and I suspect it just never sealed well anyway, as it frequently leaked regardless of how full it was. So no more pointy-shaped cups for me.

I noticed the MeLuna XL has a similar bell-shape to the Fleur, but might offer higher capacity. Is anyone who's used both able to weigh in?

The resistance of the Fleur is just about perfect to me. Which resistance in Meluna is most similar to the Fleur? (Classic? Sport? Soft?)

I'm also been eyeing the Luv Ur Body, but I'm a bit daunted by the size of Medium and Large. I am 26, no births, and have no problem with the larges of any brand I've tried, but I'm still a bit daunted by the size of those babies!
I'm still using my small juju cup because the large cuplee I ordered has not arrived yet... This morning, when I was removing the cup, it suctioned to my cervix pretty tightly. I was not able to get it out on the first try which took me a long time then I gave up. So, I went about my morning routine then gave it a try later and I was able to remove it. So, my question is how to stop the cup from suction on to the cervix? It is really hard to remove when I'm only able to use one finger and press the side of the cup against the vaginal wall. This won't work when it's suction tightly on the cervix especially when the cup is not full. Can anyone give me any suggestion? Will the soft cuplee solve this problem? Will the pulling cause the cervix to drop lower or hurt it in any ways?
09 May 2015 @ 09:23 pm
Hey, I've been a lurker for about two years now. I got a small classic meluna recently, and today is the second day I've had it in, first day on my period. I've done a dry run before. I don't have a very heavy flow, but it leaked after three hours. I realised that although the cup had formed a seal, it is sort of flattened when in. It feels like when you squeeze a water bottle and then cap it without letting go. I've gone through the tags and tried enlarging the holes, inserting it (diamond) fold facing down, and getting an air channel to it (doesn't help because I'm pretty sure it's sealed? Seems like it would help most though). I can't pop it open lower and then push it up, I have a relatively low cervix and popping it open lower would hurt my pubic bone. I can barely fit one finger there when it's in, and I can't get the finger in front of the cup again because of the pubic bone. Or maybe I'm not trying hard enough. I really want to love this cup! Please help me to fully "inflate" it?

Edit: When the cup is in, I'm able to slowly wiggle it down almost all the way. Does this mean it hasn't formed a seal?
07 May 2015 @ 09:58 pm
Hi there,
After about a month and a half of researching seriously (I'd dabbled before but now I'm diving in!) I purchased my first menstrual cup - a fleurcup. I tried softcups last month as a trial and decided this is definitely for me.

However, even after searching, reading, searching more, reading different guides for virgins, newbies, placement etc, I am still confused. Lots of places say not to trust the diagrams, but no one seems to have an accurate one! So, I've drawn my own little non scientific drawing which combines what I know from anatomy drawings, and what it 'feels' like in my own body. I'm sure it's not accurate, but I'd love some help if someone can make sense of it.Read more...Collapse )
07 May 2015 @ 05:38 pm
Hello all,

I recently purchased my first menstrual cup (a DivaCup) which I want to be totally comfortable using by late June (I have two periods between now and then) because I'll be doing some intense hiking.

I just tried inserting it for the first time, and I knew it was going to be difficult because my hymen is very...tight? I am a virgin, and I have never even worn a tampon - I tried once when I was 12 and the experience scarred me. :) I can, however, fit a finger in reasonably easily, but I have never been able to fit two comfortably. The tightness doesn't seem to be inside the vaginal canal - just at the entry, which I suppose is the hymen.

I was determined to get the cup in (I used the "punch-down" fold because of the small lip)....and it didn't really work. I THINK I may have gotten it in once, but I couldn't rotate it (it was pretty painful when I tried - although it didn't really hurt once I stood up with it in). When I popped it out, there was blood, which was a little concerning, as I'm not on my period.

So, the first question is - did I just break my hymen? (I just want to make sure I didn't do something else wrong that made me bleed.)
Secondly - does that mean that this will be easier next time? :)

Thank you in advance!
Hello all! I am a 25 year old, sexually active person who has never given birth. I would love to use a menstrual cup for a lot of reasons, but so far I'm having quite a bit of trouble.

I have a Mooncup (the B style, I think), which I bought without really researching other options. (Dumb idea, but I just didn't know that there were other options.) I used itnfirst a few cycles ago, but had a lot of leakage and felt faint a few times when inserting, so I went back to tampons for a while. I decided to try again this cycle, and also decided to try to find my cervix. I did find it, and it seems relatively low, but it's also super angled toward my left side. I tried a few different placements for the cup, but had major leakage every time. It seems like a angle of my cervix is probably contributing to the leakage problem.

Has anyone dealt with this and found a way to deal with it? Are there other cups better for this kind of issue?

Thanks very much in advance; I really want to be able to use a cup, and I'm just so discouraged.
03 May 2015 @ 08:41 am
Hi everyone!

I started using a diva cup sometime last year and it worked perfectly for the first month, but the next few months it started leaking, making weird noises (probably the seal breaking?) and then leaking even more, and then one day, without meaning to, I pushed it out and it fell into the toilet so I got rid of it because I wasn't sure if it was safe after that. I'm 17 and do lots of sports, so I have pretty strong pelvic floor muscles. The diva cup's length never seemed to be a problem, although on some days my cervix seems pretty far down.

Right now, I'm choosing between the diva cup again, a lunette, and a gladrags moon cup because those are the only ones we have in stores where I live, and I'd prefer not to order them online for now. Does anyone have any advice on which one I should get? I have a few months to decide because I'd like to get one before I start college this September.
01 May 2015 @ 09:18 pm

Hey there!
I've been a cup user for 3 years now. Last year i had a baby (c-section after trying natural birth unsuccessfully). Since then, my cups have fit kinda weird. They tend to leak now and I'm not sure what's causing it. I have a large lunette and a large keeper brand moon cup. I wore my moon cup today and kept repositioning it and nothing seemed to work. I just switched to my Lunette to see if this one will fit better for now. I've heard of the "wandering cervix" and I'm not really sure if that is a problem because I've never really checked it. But most often the leak problem is at the beginning of my period during my heaviest flow, towards the end it seems ok. Any suggestions?

Edit: Also, I'm looking for some new cups that are available in the US, because, i too, am looking for my magic perfect cup.

I am a a fairly active woman, running and exercising 5-6 days a week and since having my tubes tied am suffering from such heavy periods that it stops me from doing any exercise for up to 4 days of my cycle.
I had hoped that wearing a cup would allow me to be able to continue exercising through my period, but i now realise i went into the whole selection process blind and uninformed and as a consequence seem to have chosen poorly.
I have been doing research but there is just so much out there that i am now very confused!
I am 39 years old and have had 2 vaginal births. I initially chose the Juju cup but it would seem that i have a low cervix and its just not working for me. Most of the time it feels like it is falling out and the one time i ran in it it was a total disaster.
I was hoping to find some suggestions from people who have the same situation with a low cervix.
I really want to succeed at using a cup and just feel so defeated at the moment, all help will be greatly appreciated!!
28 April 2015 @ 04:25 pm

I am 14 and have had a small Lunette Selene menstrual cup for over a year now and it works perfectly. The problem is that I bought it to swim in but when I go in the pool or bath it fills with water and leaks, even though it is sealed. I contacted Lunette and they made suggestions but they didn't work and couldn't figure it out.

I decided to get a small Mooncup UK and try. It was not as squishy and had better suction so I thought it would work better but when I tried, it filled with water and leaked, just like my Lunette.

I need it to work because at the end of the year I am going on a holiday where I swim and it's around the time I get my period. I think I have a low cervix, could his be why. Is it just my body or is there a way to get better suction? Please help!

Thank you :)
27 April 2015 @ 01:35 pm
Sup, so I used to use a DivaCup size 1 but I started getting cramps and when I took out the cup they went away but as soon as I put it back in it would hurt again so I stopped using it

I would like to find a cup that's slightly smaller in diameter/length (I'm not 100% sure what caused the cramps, like the diameter or the length)

Also one with a longer stem, I always found the stem on it so difficult to grasp.

I liked the stiffness of the DivaCup, it always opened without problems

Just the pain the taking it out were the main issues

any suggestions?
27 April 2015 @ 12:51 pm
Hey guys! Just have a few questions about my Lunette (1), and cups in general, I guess. :)

1. Will the stem break if I use it to pull out the cup? I found it very hard to get out during my "practice run"...

2. How do you know when it's fully opened? I don't have a high cervix, but I couldn't feel around the rim to see if it was open properly...

I think that's all, but I've probably forgotten something. If I have, I might edit the post later. :D Thanks so much!
25 April 2015 @ 11:17 pm
I haven't been using reusables for very long and I want to order some more cloth pads and eventually choose a second menstrual cup. I am in the US but there are only a few cup brands here. When I look at cloth pads, a lot of them are made outside of the US, especially those found on etsy. I've found a few things that a like and they are outside of the US.

I've read some horror stories about packages getting held up in customs and sometimes people having to pay ridiculous fee's in order to get their package. I've tried to research what the fees are all about but it is so much information and seems complicated. I am worried that if I buy anything outside of the US that this could happen to me. If it has anything to do with FDA approval, I can see where some shops state that they are approved while others don't mention it.

Does anyone know enough about it to be able to explain it? Has anyone else ever had to pay extra fee's to get their package?
24 April 2015 @ 08:46 pm
My apologies for posting so much, but I have yet another question that Google hasn't given me any answers to. What exactly are the "antibacterial properties" of menstrual cups that I always hear about? Considering that the vagina is populated with bacteria, if the cup were antibacterial, wouldn't this be bad news (e.g. yeast infection) for the vagina?
22 April 2015 @ 08:54 am
I bought the smaller Mooncup a couple of months ago and I really want to use it.
My problem is that I am able to, with some struggle and relativly pain-free, insert the cup. But once it is inside and expanded, it hurts. Sometimes I need to take it out right away cause it hurts so much. Once I had it overnight, but I could feel it all the time and it wasn't comfortable. I'm pretty sure it was not too low because when I was going to take it it had gone far up and I could barely reach the stem. That's also a problem, that when I take it out and pinch it to make the vaccum go away it hurts too, and it hurts during taking it out.

I am suspecting that the mooncup is too big for me, (I am not very used to penetration) Or that it has something to do with my Cervix...?

Anyone know what I should try next? And if I should buy a smaller cup, which brand do you recommend? I was thinking of a small MeLuna maybe. But I'd love your input.

Thanks in advance!